Stressing out

**MisaLady** · 08-05-2008, 11:57 PM

DH is going to start a new job in two weeks. There were concerns about the viability of the old place and the boss switched his job function to do something that's tearing his hands up something awful. He comes home with torn and bleeding cuticles and cut up hands every day. SO new job was necessary.

But, the new job pays three-ish dollars less an hour. It's got good benefits but he won't have medical insurance through them for another three months, so I have to add that in through my work. These two things combined, plus rising costs everywhere have me freaking out.

I don't know what I'm hoping for by posting this. I'm just freaking out big time and mainly need to vent (I'm trying not to show too much stress to DH - I don't want to make him feel bad. As far as I'm concerned, this change was necessary - and the only reason he was making what he was had to do with being employed there for seven years).

I'm here, I'm reading the posts, I'm posting. We've started "adjusting" before we absolutely had to, because I wanted time to adapt and rediscover my frugal roots. But I'm still worried. I'm a natural worrier. Any advice on how not stress over this?

**IamBlessed** · 08-06-2008, 12:09 AM

At the moment, I don't have any advice for you, but I do have

and prayers.

**frugalbabe** · 08-06-2008, 02:34 AM

It's a cliche but "This too shall pass" that phrase has gotten me through a lot of tough times because you know what it's true! You WILL figure things out. You WILL get through it and come out the other side smarter, stronger, and more capable and how lucky is your dh to have such a loving, supportive wife?!? I wish you all of the luck in the world!

**Jskell911** · 08-06-2008, 06:05 AM

I can certainly see where your panic is coming from. You seem to have a great attitude and that will help you through the initial change. Good luck to your DH with his new job!

**shoiji** · 08-06-2008, 02:10 PM

One way that may help is to have a budget figured out before hand with the amount you husband will be making. There may be ways you can cut back in some areas even if it is just for a couple of months. Being able to plan ahead and see numbers may help you to realize what needs to be done. This of it as an opportunity to start using what you are learning here at FV.

Let us know how you are doing.

**The Muse** · 08-06-2008, 02:20 PM

I second shoiji's suggestion to make a budget based on his new salary.

I empathize, I'm in a similar boat. DH just gave notice today without having something else lined up. Normally this wouldn't be a big deal, but there's talk of a reorg that will send my department overseas. I'm a total stress case over the thought of us both being out of work and without benefits.

**MisaLady** · 08-07-2008, 07:05 PM

Thank you all for the positive thoughts and great suggestions. We sat down and talked about some things we can do to improve the situation. I think that helped me calm down a little. I'm still somewhat nervous, but not quite so frightened.