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**bclements514** · 08-07-2008, 03:10 PM

So I need to vent! I am just so down right now the way I see it at the moment life just plain ol stinks. I have many things that I should be greatful for, don't get me wrong. To start off my DH has been looking for a job for about a year, nothing sent in numerous resumes and only one interview. I just don't get it. He has a job now he is just looking for something better. We have even decided to move if we have to. I mean it just makes me mad that some people can just walk in a get a job and leave after a couple months and DH can't even get a chance.
Second we were suppose to start trying for another baby in the next month. Have been talking about it for along the and well now DH doesn't want to. I am heart broken, we have not talked for awhile. Excuse after excuse. First it's the dogs if I give 2 away and just keep one then ok. Now he changed his mind about that. If I do this or that but when I go to do something about it, then that's not going to work either.
I understand that there are people out there with much worse going on. But I am just stressed. So sorry to waste anyones time. I just need alittle encouragement.

Have a great day!!!

**frugalbabe** · 08-07-2008, 03:21 PM

Vent away! Sometimes that's all it takes to help you feel better. As far as the job hunting goes, we are living that right now as well. Dh hates his job (too much political garbage) he is an engineer and has had companies courting him but now that he has done interview after interview and NOTHING. He's too qualified or not qualified enough or gets paid too much or blah blah blah. Yikes! I have totally hijacked your thread...sorry guess I needed to vent as well. Here's hoping we both have a nice enjoyable weekend!

**bclements514** · 08-07-2008, 03:24 PM

Hijack away, it's ok. Thanks for understanding!!!

**blitzen** · 08-07-2008, 03:27 PM

Is there anything your DH can do to make himself more hireable? A class to update some skills or something like that?

Hang in there--I know it's so hard to have your heart set on something and then have to delay a big decision.

**bclements514** · 08-07-2008, 03:32 PM

Originally Posted by blitzen

Is there anything your DH can do to make himself more hireable? A class to update some skills or something like that?

Hang in there--I know it's so hard to have your heart set on something and then have to delay a big decision.

The places he has applied to are pretty much what he does now, he has the experience. Has had the same job for yrs but he will never move up where he is at now.

But I am going to look that up i know they does offer classes at this place in town. Thanks for the info.

**rachelj** · 08-07-2008, 03:39 PM

What part of Indiana do you live in and what does your dh do? (I live in IN)

I teach for a private college and had several students from a big name orthopedic company in my class. They had worked for this company for 20+ years and had no degree - they just worked up the ladder. Now they are being told that they need at least a Bachelors for the position that they currently have!!!

If he doesn't have a degree even saying that he is taking classes is huge.

**StartingOver** · 08-07-2008, 03:56 PM

Boy oh boy do I hear you! DH was unemployed for 18 months!! Talk about stress. We heard over and over "You're overqualified"...blah blah blah...oops almost yet another hijack

Hang in there...Focus on the positive right now, such as that he does have a job and you have an income coming in. Take one day at a time, these things eventually work themselves out.

Good luck to you and DH on the job search!

**bclements514** · 08-07-2008, 05:03 PM

Originally Posted by rachelj

What part of Indiana do you live in and what does your dh do? (I live in IN)

I teach for a private college and had several students from a big name orthopedic company in my class. They had worked for this company for 20+ years and had no degree - they just worked up the ladder. Now they are being told that they need at least a Bachelors for the position that they currently have!!!

If he doesn't have a degree even saying that he is taking classes is huge.

We live about an hr southwest of Indy. He works in Masonry,construction,laborer. He is even qualified to work in production but can't get anything there either.

**mombottoo** · 08-07-2008, 05:06 PM

((((hugs)))) Does your hubby have a concrete reason for not wanting another baby or are his reasons just flimsy excuses? I can't believe he tries playing "let's make a deal" over having another baby...maybe he's just afraid he won't be able to take care of all of you if there is another someone to take care of. Good luck in the baby department...

**cheapskate 49** · 08-07-2008, 05:31 PM

Regarding another baby-he probably feels just as frustrated as you that he can't get another job-so perhaps he's reluctant to have more responsibitity at home, he may feel unemployable at the moment so even though he has it job he may feel less secure in it.

**rachelj** · 08-07-2008, 05:57 PM

Wow, I am surprised cause Indy is always building on. I live up near South Bend and they seem to be building a lot.

**cmdarlin** · 08-07-2008, 06:29 PM

Vent away.... heaven knows I've done enough of it myself in the past month. He's probably just fustrated with the job situation and worried about the future.

Wish I could have a better answer but I'm here if you need a shoulder to vent on.

Debbie

**Jskell911** · 08-07-2008, 07:27 PM

Brooklyn, I am so sorry! I am in the same position as your DH is in right now. Still have a job, been there too long to advance, but too qualified to make more elsewhere. I know how frustrating it is for both of you. My DH feels the same as you do on that.

As to having another baby, I kinda agree with what others have said. I don't think it's a matter of his not being interested in having more, but with all he's going through he may feel in over his head as far as taking care of a larger family.

Hope you feel better soon!

**Missourimom** · 08-07-2008, 11:22 PM

Aw, you're not wasting anyone's time. We all need to vent now and then. I hope your dh will find a new job soon and things will start looking up quickly.

**bclements514** · 08-08-2008, 07:48 AM

Thanks everyone, I guess I just don't know why he has to make up excuses instead of just telling me that he would like to wait till he can get a different job. I guess that's just a man for ya!!!