The Uncomfortable House

**forHISglory** · 08-23-2008, 11:58 PM

Have you ever been in a house that makes you very uncomfortable? Makes you want to leave, just get out? Can you pinpoint what it was?

I'm not talking about people that make you uncomfortable. I've been in those situations. For example, when I was in grade school, I was with a friend in her home, and her mother just went nuts. I had never seen a grown woman do the things that woman did. And I left the house and went outside and sat by the edge of the road, waiting for my mother to pick me up.

No, I'm referring to the house, itself. We have some very nice neighbors, but I cannot go into their house. I'll visit them outside, but the house just creeps me out. Part of it is the smell. It's a combination of cat urine, stale smoke, greasy fried food, and some type of lingering dampness/mold. The smell just gags me, and the few times I have gone into the house, I found myself holding my breath and getting out as soon as possible. Yes, I guess the people caused that smell, but I don't mind the people. It's the smell of the house that makes me really uncomfortable.

I also get uncomfortable in houses that have too much "stuff" in them. I'm not sure where to sit as almost every surface is covered with something. I'm afraid I'll break something if I move.

Houses that have rooms painted in bright gaudy colors make me uncomfortable. I think it is because I associate "home" with "peaceful" and the in-your-face paint jobs are just too energetic! A bright flaming red bathroom, a neon blue bedroom, a burning yellow kitchen...... they make me twitch! LOL! I can't settle down in that type of home.

How about you? Have you ever been in a home that makes you uncomfortable?

**janis362529** · 08-24-2008, 12:25 AM

Yea but for other reasons they yours. Some houses just feel werid or that something is not right. My Mom's house where I grew up has always felt off even my hubby thinks so and no one goes into the back yard at night it just creeps you out.

I have trouble going into any house that is dirty. I am always looking for bugs. Ugh do not want any buggies

**annymoll** · 08-24-2008, 12:33 AM

I am uncomfortable in homes that have overflowing ashtrays and reek of smoke. Pet hair all over grosses me out. It is depressing to visit dark ,dreary homes. I also dislike sinkfuls of dishes and unmade beds.No joy bells ring out in these homes.They make me think of laziness.Thank Goodness I do not have to dwell in these places for any period of time.

**fernykins** · 08-24-2008, 01:05 AM

Yes I live next door to a lady I can stand to be around....... She smells like cat pee and sh*t. Her housr reeks of it plus she has about 50 cats and 2 dogs......... I don't like houses that don't look lived in. I'm to afraid to sit down.......
Fern

**frugalbabe** · 08-24-2008, 01:37 AM

I have a friend who I really love but her house is ALWAYS really hot and dark. They never open the blinds or windows and it just feels suffocating it doesn't seem to bother them at all but I only last a few minutes when I'm over there.

**reginaastralis** · 08-24-2008, 01:41 AM

My friend's just bought a house that gives me the creeps. The old man who owned the home died suddenly, so I don't know if I am "feeling" him ... or what ( he didn't die in the house)

I just always get a feeling someone is with me when I am at this house.

**karone** · 08-24-2008, 05:59 AM

my ex's mom's place. even though i lived with them for a few months it never felt lived in. everything had to have a place. i like a place thats cluttered with stuff but u atleast know the area of where it is. she thought it was trashy that i had merrick's toys in the boxes that had his diapers in them and she tried to get me to get zack to get some rubbermaid bins for his toys. if i wasnt living with her at that time then i would have said if u want them in those bins then get them urself

**jas** · 08-24-2008, 08:29 AM

I don't like dark, smokey, funky smelling homes. Can't breath in them.
I need sunlight! Also too much stuff, nicknacks on every surface and tons of them no rest for the eyes. I like things in their place and if it gets all messy after a bit I go batty.

Like right now my husbands car just got flooded from that storm Fay and he has ripped apart the carpets and the whole insides of his car and they are ALL over the place drying out. Argh. I have not said much because I know that they will only be there till later today. The car has to be put back together so he can go to work tomorrow.
But I hate that the place looks a wreck.

My daughter and I went to an open house in a very upscale neiborhood one Saturday. Talk about a house giving off the creeps!
The living room was stuffed with religious icons, stautes, incense, all kinds of stuff. The patio was jammed with plants of all kinds, hanging ones, potted ones it seriously looked like a jungle. I don't know if they ever sold the place but the realtor should have told them to tone down the vibe the place was giving off.

**sixfreds** · 08-24-2008, 08:37 AM

there are some houses I feel that way about, doesn't have to be stuff or bad smells (mold is really bad to me) but just a feeling the house gives off.

Eileen

**allenwrench** · 08-24-2008, 08:37 AM

Yes, and no.

Not because of what you posted, but because the house was set up for looks and to impress and comfortable aspects where in short supply.

**WV_mom_of2** · 08-24-2008, 08:54 AM

The kids and I have allergies so being in a home with smoke or alot of pet hair everywhere makes me uncomfortable because it triggers an allergy attack.

I've never been in a home that I felt was too dirty so that hasn't bothered me before. Things like unmade beds don't make me think of lazy at all. I never make my bed simply because I don't have time and I LIKE to sleep in an unmade bed! I hate the way a made up bed feels LOL. When I stay in a hotel the first thing I do is unmake the bed and pull the sheets loose LOL!

I've also never been bothered by the colors of walls,etc. I'm a pretty easy going, laid back person so I guess I just concentrate more on the person I'm visiting then the house maybe? And maybe it was growing up with alot of different homes and types of housekeepers that makes me not care. My grandma always had clutter and knick-knacks. My mom was somewhere in the middle. My other grandma was obsessive about her house. I had friend's who lived in mobile homes, in houses that were like shacks, and a couple who lived in big beautiful homes.

I am really only uncomfortable in a house that is TOO clean, but only if the owner is uncomfortable having company. You know, that woman who sits on the edge of her chair waiting for you to drop a piece of lint on her carpet so she can run and sweep it up? My dad's mom was like that the whole time I was growing up. She had a living room with WHITE furniture that everyone was forbidden to sit on except on Christmas Eve, and then she covered it all with blankets first.

My mil is also like this. You feel like you must always be on guard at her house. If you shift a pillow on the couch to make yourself more comfortable she will move it back the second you get up. When she babysat my nephew when he was small she kept a bottle of windex and a rag by the sliding glass door and every time he put a fingerprint on the door, she cleaned it......like 50 times a day! She would give him a cookie, then follow him around with the dustbuster to sweep up any crumbs he dropped.

On the other side, we have very wealthy friends who live in a huge, beautiful home. They are very very very clean people. But when you go to their home they INSIST that you leave your shoes on. Have mud on them? Oh well, they have a carpet steamer, they'll just clean it later. I swear you could silly string their whole house, wipe mud on the walls and let soda spew all over the carpet and they'd laugh and have fun with you then clean it later. They never make you feel uncomfortable while you are there.

**Monner 1** · 08-24-2008, 09:08 AM

Oh yes, I have been in a house that I can stay for just so long then I have to leave. My niece has so much clutter and knick knacks that are dusty that it drives me crazy. It just makes my throat tighten up from nerves. I don't know how they find things. I have things on my mantle and pictures hanging up but I know where things are.

Monner

**baxjul** · 08-24-2008, 09:50 AM

The house I grew up in. It always felt like you were "being watched". It was very creepy.

**TheRootedNomad** · 08-24-2008, 10:04 AM

Too formal makes me uncomfortable. Roaches will make me exit a place as fast as my legs will politely take me and someplace that is too dirty, cluttered, or smelly, to sit and enjoy the company in will make me uncomfortable. Clutter in my house at all makes me crazy as does things like an unmade bed. In someone elses house it doesn't bother me unless its to the point where I can't sit at the table or in the living room and talk with them because every surface is covered. I have one friend that doesn't get this at all. She was forever apoligizing for the stuff sitting out on her counters or her stacks of magazines in the corners. It took her a long time to get that her clutter didn't bother me the same as my own does. The last time she said something I had come in, handed her a cup of gas station coffee (she doesn't own a coffee maker), kicked my shoes off by the door, and literally flopped lying down on her couch. I finally convinced her to sit and I stayed for several hours. As I was leaving it was like a lightbulb in her head and she said something like ... "my mess really doesn't bother you does it???" "Nope" "that's really weird 'cause you always keep your house so neat"

Don't understand it myself but that's the just of it......just don't let me see a roach...

**Marie78** · 08-24-2008, 10:24 AM

I am grossed out in homes that smell. I can't breathe well in a home like that and if I have to eat I just can't. There are homes that seem fine and I can't figure out why they creep me out. Each home my mom has lived in has creeped me out. The house she grew up in always felt eerie and dank. It gave me chills and smelled funny. The house my mom and dad bought together and we lived in growing up always felt creepy, and her new home seems creepy and there doesn't even have to be much wind in the new house and it will get into the house somehow and sound like a moaning, screaming woman. I have only stayed the night at my mom's new house a few times. I just don't like it!