So I need advice and need to vent a little(sorry)

**loveless82** · 09-23-2008, 04:26 PM

Hiya everyone,

First off I'm sorry for venting about thing, but I been holding it in for a while now and today just tip me over. This yr is my son first time going to school and we were thinking about home-school because of the way world is and how click`e people are in our area. Also he is our only child and I didn't want my family thinking I couldn't let go of my little guy... lol... We were glad that he loved the first week minus he didn't like this other little boy in class hit him (but we talk about at meet the teacher night and since then the boy has been doing better.)
So today my son came home from Kindergarten and not even before he got in the door, say "mom, why didn't you pay for me to have milk money this week?" I say I did pay for you to have Milk this week! Well he told me he was not giving a milk at snack time. I call the school to check with them, thinking maybe I forgot. The teacher told me he was pay for but she couldn't remember he got on, he in the full day class with 9 other kids so I don't know.
Also my son miss school on friday due to the fact that I went to the hospital Thursday afternoon. We didn't get out of there till 11 at night and no one got sleep. So he stay home, well the school thinks it may not be a lawful absent.

I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense, but I'm at a loss. It seem like every other day/week things are going wrong or the school has another rule to add to the list. I call my hubby and told him all this while I was crying. He said to breath and that he talk to me when he gets home.

So the advice I want is am I wrong for taking my son out of school and Home-schooling him?

**Greebo** · 09-23-2008, 04:32 PM

You want to pull him out of school because of a milk-money mixup and a question about an absence?

Or are you maybe looking for an excuse because you miss him?

**familyof3** · 09-23-2008, 04:38 PM

If those are the reasons you want to home school, then I believe, you're wrong. People make mistakes, they forgot to give him a milk. Explain to your son that the teacher make a mistake and that while it was disappointing for him at the time that he handled the problem well. Instead of focusing on the bad, show him how grown up he was. Obviously, if the teacher continues to forget, you'll have to speak with the principal or someone else who can manage to "remember" LOL!

As far as the absence, schools are required to do that by law. My guess is that the absence won't be an issue unless your son has several more absences with similar excuses. I'm sure you can guess how many parents make up stories like that to cover for the fact that no one wanted to get the kid up for school. They don't know that you're not that type of parent yet.

If you truly want to home school, that's one thing. But to reverse plans because of a bad day? It seems like your son is getting used to school. Does he enjoy it?

Hopefully, tomorrow will be better!

**katholc** · 09-23-2008, 05:03 PM

I homeschooled my youngest for years. You do not have to have a reason to want to home school just make sure its truly what you want to do cause it's not easy.

**prftstrngr** · 09-23-2008, 05:53 PM

I think I would let him go at least for awhile longer. Wait to see if things iron out with the teacher and the school. He is probably enjoying being with the other kids and even though there were a few incidents its really just the first of the year and takes time to work out the kinks. Hope you figure it all out!

**Guest57** · 09-23-2008, 06:04 PM

I think that inside, you KNOW that YOU didn't want to send him off to school, but maybe due to outside pressure, you relented...who cares what others think about how you school your child...you need to do what is best for HIM regardless of what others say!! If you feel better having him at home, and he is happy there, then let him be at home...I am on my 6th year of homeschooling. I started when the Kdg program was awful and then when the kids hit 3rd grade, I allowed them to go to school because they asked to...now they are home again and THRIVING!! Most of my family doesn't agree with what I am doing, but my girls both pull a 4.0 gpa, they are happy, healthy, and as a family we are very close. Yes, they have outside activites, such as 4H, dance, and karate so they can be with other kids, but they say they wouldn't trade this for the world!!
GOOD LUCK!!

**Katybird** · 09-23-2008, 06:07 PM

I would also be beyond irritated at a teacher who did not give my 5 year old son his milk for an entire week. That is 5 days and if there are only 9 other kids in the class, he should not be getting lost in the "crowd" . If you are really wanting to homeschool, there are homeschool co-ops and groups that you can join so that he will get the socialization of being around other kids. I am sure that whatever you decide to do will be the right thing for your family. That old adage about "Moms know best" is usually true.

**Lady_V** · 09-23-2008, 06:16 PM

I agree, you don't have to have a reason to home school...

If you want to home school because it's in your heart and you think he will have a better educational experience, then go for it. There are a lot of homeschooling parents here to lean on.

If you want to change gears because of a milk mix up and an absence, that sounds more like an emotional decision.

**caradana** · 09-23-2008, 06:52 PM

Do you feel confident in your ability to homeschool him?

**loveless82** · 09-23-2008, 08:25 PM

Hiya

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Thanks everyone for there advice. No I don't just want to home-school him cause I miss him, I like have my time of the day to get things done and I'm happy he is happy at school. I'm not just mad about the mix-up of the milk, this school just seem to be found some issues to tells us about every other week. There are more events that happen, but today was one of those days that spilled everything out of my pot.
Yes, I do think I could home-school him if I had too.
My DH and I talk about it, for now we going to let him be there and play things by hear. I'm also going to arrange a meeting for the teacher and us to air things out.

Once again Thanks.....

**larabelle** · 09-23-2008, 09:47 PM

Originally Posted by JinglebellesMom

I think that inside, you KNOW that YOU didn't want to send him off to school, but maybe due to outside pressure, you relented...who cares what others think about how you school your child...you need to do what is best for HIM regardless of what others say!! If you feel better having him at home, and he is happy there, then let him be at home...I am on my 6th year of homeschooling. I started when the Kdg program was awful and then when the kids hit 3rd grade, I allowed them to go to school because they asked to...now they are home again and THRIVING!! Most of my family doesn't agree with what I am doing, but my girls both pull a 4.0 gpa, they are happy, healthy, and as a family we are very close. Yes, they have outside activites, such as 4H, dance, and karate so they can be with other kids, but they say they wouldn't trade this for the world!!
GOOD LUCK!!

I completely agree. It sounds to me that you do not want to send him off to school and let me be on your side and say.......THAT IS OK IT IS OK FOR YOU TO HOMESCHOOL HIM IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT TO DO!!!

**Darlene** · 09-24-2008, 07:27 AM

Glad you are going to talk to the teacher, she can't change things if she doesn't know there is a problem.

Most things are just misunderstandings and are easily cleared up. Kids often get things mixed up and it's not that their lying it's just that their perception of things isn't always correct.
If you have some time, see if you can volunteer in the classroom one day a week or so so you can see first hand how things are and be a help at the same time. Win-win. Good luck!

Oh as for the absence, my standard note was..."Please excuse so & so from school on such and such a date, they had an upset stomach and weren't feeling well."

**Greebo** · 09-24-2008, 08:54 AM

What other kinds of events? Giving only vague generalities in support of such a drastic change doesn't provide much support. So far you've only offered two specifics, both of which seem very minor to me. I would think that the most major issues would be those that you would list first.

Also, I'm going to be quite candid here, and I hope you will take this not as an insult, but simply as an observation. I mean no disrespect, but as you are contemplating homeschooling your child, I feel this must be said.

Bluntly put, your skills in English as a written language are evidently lacking. I'm not judging you, I don't think you're less of a person because of it. I don't know if English is your primary language or not.

BUT - should you choose to home-school your child, I fear you will be doing him a disservice. Language skills are very important, and I'm sorry to say that people do tend to judge others on its usage. If you choose to home school your child then I strongly encourage you to consider bringing in additional help for language, grammar and other English skills.

**nessarowdy** · 09-24-2008, 12:09 PM

I agree with Darlene. Volunteer to help out in the classroom if you are able. This will show the teacher that you want to help out and are not trying to make things difficult. This will also show the school that you aren't one of those parents who doesn't really care what happens when your child is in school.

Good luck, and give it more time!

-Vanessa

**monkeywrangler71** · 09-24-2008, 12:29 PM

I didn't want to send my son to school this year, so I didn't. I simply believe that children that young belong at home with their mother. I don't care that no one agrees with me, I don't judge people who send their kids (although they have no problem judging me), and I don't need to prepare a list of reasons why. I am the parent, I decide what's right for my children.

If you don't want your son in school, take him home. It's only Kindergarten, lots of kids skip it and it doesn't hurt them.