What is with my kid?

[Dancing Lotus]

She has turned into such a cry baby. She cries about everything. She has only been awake for an hour and taken to hysterical crying twice.
First is was because her sister broke her necklace and now she is crying because she was carrying a box of salt dough ornaments she made the other day, one slipped and fell. It broke in half and now it's the end of the world.
Have I ever mentioned I can't stand crying children. I mean if it's genuine pain of course I feel bad for them but this kind of whiny crying I can't stand. After I tried to make her feel better I gave up and sent her to cry in her room.
She is so different then she was a year ago. She used to listen really well and now everything is an argument, she gets in trouble at school for talking all the time, and she cries every time she is upset.
Nothing much has changed, I do have my "work" now but it doesn't really interfere with the family. It's all stuff I do on my own time.The only thing that is different is that I do work out of the house on Saturday. Could one day really be that upsetting to her?
On the upside she has become a little obsessed with keeping her room clean and I kinda like that.

[janis362529]

That sounds like my 8 yr old(she'll be 9 in Jan). Everything is such a drama fest to her it drives me nuts. Not to mention her ears no longer work when I ask her to do something in the house. Yup pre pre teen angst has hit our home.

[perSue]

I don't recall how old your daughter is, but if she's still rather young, it could simply be her going through a growth period. Sometimes, tho kids don't always realize it, when physical or hormonal changes occur, kids become more emotional. (ie, growth spurts)

Otherwise, is there something going on at school that has changed a lot?

Perhaps this way she get attention from someone (at school? teacher?) and they are reinforcing it. You can always talk to her teacher(s ) and see what they have to say. (Can't hurt really. Just another opinion.)

I don't think it's your working one day a week out of the house (unless you two did something special on Saturdays). One day a week isn't a drastic change.

Depending on her age (I assume grade school age), it could be any number of things. Enough sleep? Proper nutrition? Growth spurt? Friends? School?

If nothing else... talk to her when she's in a good mood and see if SHE knows why she does that!

Good luck... ((((((hugz)))))

[nvmommyx6]

My 12 year old is going through a drama fest right now, but with good reason, her bio dad is an ass!!

I dont know how old your daughter is but I agree with the previous poster about talking to her while she is in a good mood, just explain short and sweet " I noticed Blah Blah and lets figure out why your acting this way and fix it so your not hurting so much" I know the drama of emotion has hit mine a bit earlier than I'd expected!! But if you really make the convo about "them" and your being concerned with "them" it usually works!

And if it makes you feel any better, I have 12 girl, 13 boy and 14 boy in my home right now and it is like a freakin soap opera around here most of the time!!
Good Luck
Mommy

[FrugalMomof3]

I agree with talking to her maybe mention that crying is not a way to get a way to get things nor is it acceptable for such silly stuff BUT you have to remember she's really young so silly stuff to you is not silly stuff to her, kwim?

I used to tell my kids that crying is not the answer, while the things may mean alot to them we can always get something else, for you that would be making more salt dough ornaments.

Another thing you can do is when she does cry just TRY not to pay attention, remember that kids gain more energy when you pay attention to their behavior.

[ktsmama]

Does she happen to be 11? My DD has been on my last nerve lately and she is not normally like that either.

Good luck!!

[nuisance26]

~My dd is still a toddler but she gets extra dramatic around her growth spurts. Also, both she and ds get whiny and sensitive when they've been overstimulated. When they get whiny I insist on quiet time. They either cry until they get bored, fall asleep or play with their toys quietly. Then I follow up the next day by not repeating whatever activity that got the overstimulated in the first place. The whiny crying drives me nuts too.~

[ravengirl]

my dd has been acting EXACTLY the same way lately, she is nine. Cries and whines about EVERYTHING!!! I suspect it's hormonal/growth spurt related, but it's also that she is still adjusting to sharing my time (it was just her and I before my dh and I married in Dec.) with my dh and his two children.

I have her seeing a counselor, since trying to talk to her about why she feels this way or that way wasn't working. She seems to be coming around since counseling started, but we still have a ways to go.

Could it be she is doing this because she has an "audience" that pays attention to it? I find that when my dd doesn't have anyone around to listen to her "drama" it is a lot less.

Hugs, I feel your pain!! But others have given you great advice.

[VanVivCam]

Is your daughter 7 ? Mine spent most of the day yesterday crying over everything. It just about made me snap. I was just thankful hubby was home and did most of the parenting yesterday.

I send Sara to her room when she is like that. We tell her to get a hold of her emotions and come out when she is ready. We also don't allow the TV on when these moods hit her.

Good Luck!

[Dancing Lotus]

She is almost 7. I think the new school is hard for her to adjust too, she told me the other day that she missed her old school. I know another part of it is that she has been home on break for two weeks now and she is board. I have been busy so we haven't done a lot. We still have another week to go to. Who would have thought that these three weeks breaks were going to be so long?

I finally got her to get over the broken ornament by telling her we would make more soon. I also gave her one of mine. I am a good mom but I do run short on patience so maybe I am not being as sensitive as I should be. I don't know, I'm just not used to all this whining that's been going on and I can't stand it. I think I should make some time for just me and her and talk to her about it. Maybe she would like to go with me to pick out her nanas birthday present.

[perSue]

Don't worry about it.

It's hard sometimes to see 'outside the box' when there's all that whining going on inside of it!
Maybe she is simply crying out for attention from you... so doing something together is a great idea!

Enjoy!

[lwlynch]

i guess I am just not sensative enough, either. my daughter went through spurts of the crying and usually I would try to talk to her about it, check for blood (lol) and if found no other reason and she continue, plunked her in her bed till she stopped.. she was a real diva... we have made it 18 years in may and she is still alive...lol
still likes to push my buttons, though

[zakity]

Sorry...

Puberty is happening here. **twitchtwitch** I am not dealing with it well at all.

Good luck!

[momof2joys]

We have been do this at our house for the last 4 years!!! My step daughter is the drama queen,(she'll be 11 in November) you tell her to finish doing the dishes, she starts complaining, that turns into tears down the face and then bawling!! When the complaining starts its to your room, we don't deal with that in our house, if you want something or need something, or just want to get your point across, you use words and not whining!! I don't care that grandma and your aunt buy you whatever you want or get you whatever you think you need, that's not how it works in this house!! Either deal with it or get over it!! (sorry if it sounds a little harsh, but sometimes, there is just no other way!!)

I would suggest talking to her and see if she responds to that!! If not, I would let her know that whining and crying doesn't work and won't make things better, if you want to whine and cry you can go to your room until you are done then we can figure out a solution!!

Best of luck!!

[Libby]

Please do not take offence to what I have to say as I can not speak from my own first hand experience as I do not have my own children....but simply inform her that you will not tolerate her 'whinyness' and explain to her the whole crying wolf story and ask her to distinguish why she is whining. If its a legit reason, emotions or something really pulling on her heartstrings - ask her to put it into words for you b/c you can not read her mind, as much of a supermom that you already are. And gently remind her that if she keeps going around whining, she will be put on a time out until she is ready to try to talk about or explain to you what is upsetting her.

Another thought that is less harsh - is it possible to have a 'girls only' time? Like where only you two do something fun together? Make it special...this way she will feel like she's getting some TLC - and then when the bonding takes place, gently let her know that you've noticed a change in her and ask if anythings wrong?

Like I said, these are just my thoughts - I am going through this with my co-worker who's 41 with a husband who's 10 yrs her senior and a complete fuddy duddy stick in the mud and has a 3 yr old son. She always dismisses me b/c I am not married and I am w/o children. My co-worker is probably more moody and dramatic then your daughter....I just simply laid out the rules: do not be a drama queen around me b/c someone has come to visit me at my desk and not you - I will not pay attention to you when I have a visitor (and I still don't); the world does not revolve around you and no matter how much you force it, it still won't - stop wasting your time and effort trying - and lastly act your age; and dress accordingly. Do not ask me if you 'look' young b/c you're wearing what all the late teens/early 20 yr olds are wearing b/c I will simply say as un-rudely as possible that you not only look incredibly silly but that you're only lying to yourself and getting off on seeking the wrong kind of attention from the wrong kind of people. At first it hurt her a lot, she thought we were going to be 'sisters' and 'best friends' b/c we share a cubicle however its the opposite. She's learned how to seek the 'right' kind of attention from me and knows my bondaries. Harsh I know, but she has learned. If she can learn at 41, I think your daughter will pick up on this much quicker then my co-worker caught on. Be firm. You are nothing less then a supermom - all of you mothers are.