How Do You Want People to View You?

**forHISglory** · 10-07-2008, 11:21 AM

I guess we all want folks to view us in certain ways. Whether on FV or in real life, I really want to be considered as:

1. a person who lives her faith and doesn't just talk about it
2. a person who has gained wisdom over the years
3. a person who is a loving wife, mother, and daughter
4. a person who is gentle, yet firm
5. a person who is compassionate and kind, yet firm
6. a person who makes good choices
7. a person who takes responsibility for what I say and do
8. a person who thinks deeply about issues
9. a person who is a hard worker
10. a person who plans for the future
11. a person who knows how to have fun and enjoy life without compromising the bank account
12. a person who is on the journey, but hasn't yet arrived
13. a person who isn't afraid to say "I'm sorry...."

Now...... whether or not you all here at FV see me this way is another question! But this is the vision I have of myself, and is what I would like others to see in me. Doesn't mean I have it all together yet!

How about you? What do you want people to think of you?

**Darlene** · 10-07-2008, 11:25 AM

I like to be thought of as a nice, caring, fun to be with person. That's about it. :winking:

**DJ1972** · 10-07-2008, 12:00 PM

Depends on who's doin' the viewing! I want my kids to see me as someone they can count on no matter what and someone that loves them unconditionally. I want my husband to view me as the hot goddess that I am and to worship me as such. I want my boss to view me as a dependable and compassionate nurse. I want my friends to see me as someone fun to be around and someone they can call when life stinks.

**PrairieRose** · 10-07-2008, 12:11 PM

Hhhmmmm good question.

For me personally (this could be an add to as I think about it type question);

A loyal, deeply loving, strong, devoted, compassionate, passionate, confident, honest, fun loving, hard working, spiritual, intuitive, sensitive, dependable woman.

**MomToTwoBoys** · 10-07-2008, 02:09 PM

It also depends on whom is doing the viewing.

My husband: I want to be viewed as someone who wants to be independent and be herself, but at the same time to take care of things when times get bad.

My kids: I want to be viewed as being stern, disciplinary but at the same time, loving and gentle and caring.

My friends: I want to be viewed as someone who is strong, self-confident and doesn't care what others think.

My peers: I want to be viewed as someone who is honest, regardless of how much it may hurt them, when it comes to the truth.

My family: I want to be viewed as someone who persevered until she got what she wanted and didn't let anything stand in her way.

The world: I want to be viewed as not just another mindless sheep. I want people to see that I am firm in my convictions and will speak my mind about anything that I have a strong opinion on.

**JustMegan79** · 10-07-2008, 02:12 PM

I, personally, do not care how others view me. This is my life, and I am who I am. The opinions of others about my life or actions is a non issue with me.

If they dont like me, they can get away from me.

**TexasPeanut** · 10-07-2008, 02:25 PM

I'm not usually one to think about or care how others may view me so this is kind of hard to answer lol. I'm just me. I'm totally cool with the kind of person I am and my family loves me for it so that's all that matters to me. I've always thought if someone thinks wrong of me without reason, assumes something of me or even views me as something entirely different than I am, then that's not the kind of negative or judgmental person I want or need in my life anyway. Nor do I want to have to be someone who is not me just to please people or their views about me.

But If I really had to answer I would say I just want others to see me for the person I am; a caring mom, a loving wife...and a fabulous one, someone who likes to laugh and have fun, a tomboy who sometimes has a princess trapped inside her, and just generally someone who's pretty doggone cool and has to many awesome reasons why to list, if I do say so myself.

**C@rol** · 10-07-2008, 02:26 PM

I want to be remembered as fun loving, giving, sharing, smart, hard working, goal oriented, sensible and open to learning new things.

**starsapphire** · 10-07-2008, 03:44 PM

When I was younger I cared too much what others thought of me and that (plus other things) brought me nothing but problems.

With age comes wisdom and now I honestly don't care what others think of me. As long as my DH, kid, and close friends like me just as I am, thats all that matters to me.

**COUNTRYBUMPKIN** · 10-07-2008, 03:45 PM

I just want to be remembered as someone who cared about others and really know the true meaning of what love is. Nothing else.

**rosey7415** · 10-07-2008, 03:59 PM

i just want to be who i am. if you like me fine, if not that is okey too.

i always cared waaaaaayyy too much about what others thought about me. with age comes wisdom and at this time in my life i don't want to waste any more of my time on caring about that. having said this.....i just want the love of my family and friends........and to have as much fun as i can squeeze into the rest of my life.

**Laurie in Bradenton** · 10-07-2008, 06:14 PM

As kind.

My one happy memory from my high school reunion was when the class nerd walked up to my husband and told him how lucky he was. Even thought he wasn't the most popular kid in school I was always, 'nice to him."

Laurie in Bradenton

**Sinny** · 10-07-2008, 09:04 PM

Originally Posted by Darlene

I like to be thought of as a nice, caring, fun to be with person. That's about it. :winking:

Anyone that has a Three Stooges avatar is OK by me!

On topic, I don't particularly care what people think of me. However, I do care what I think of me.

**Jskell911** · 10-07-2008, 09:06 PM

I want to be viewed as:

* Honest
* Loving
* A person who puts family first
* A good mom
* A good wife
* An earnest worker
* Someone who is true to herself

**Squirt** · 10-07-2008, 09:27 PM

That's an interesting question. I think it led me to realize that over the years I have been less concerned about how others see me. This has happened as I have become more and more my true self. Of course, seeing myself "come out" can be displeasing to me at times, and that is when I consider how people see me. It's good and bad to not be concerned with trying to watch myself through other peoples' eyes and then try to change my behavior so that it matches how I want them to think I am. Good in that it allows me to be my true self, and bad in that I DO want people to like me and I know that there are things about my personality which are grating or just don't fit in with others' ideals. It's not always worth it to "just be you" when it hurts others. I suppose that will be a balance always to be sought, though. I can't imagine finding the sweet spot and maintaining it.