Ever invited family/people to stay and regretted it almost immediately?

[Xadrian]

I feel for you, I really do!! And to the lady who was living with eleven other people and working and cleaning up, that is shear madness! *Big Hugs*

I have only had one person really to come visit and stay with me and my husband. It was someone who had been a friend of mine for eighteen years. The last five years we lost touch and after re-uniting I found out she was in a bad situation. Broke, depressed and not many job opportunities in her area. We invited her to come down and stay for a month (she said she thought about moving down to our area, so this "vacation" month was to see if she really like the area before deciding on anything)

Well she had changed drastically. She would sit messing around on her laptop a minimum of 12 hours a day looking for a submissive boyfriend online. She would tell me she was looking for a man like this so she could make him work, hand over his money and then cheat on him!!! I'd make food and sit it in front of her and come collect her plate when she was done. She'd mess up, I'd end up cleaning it up. The first day she was there she basically kicked me outta my bathroom -thankfully we had two. She wouldn't want to go to the store with us but would make lists of candy, cookies and sweets we were to get her. She decided she wanted to stay and get a job, but she wouldn't walk three blocks to get applications -she'd make my husband drive her then he'd end up being late getting across town for class. She'd snap and yell at us and kick our furniture into the walls. Then she would tell me she was looking for peeps in the area to buy drugs from!! Finally she left us a note telling us she'd do whatever she wanted in our house and we couldn't stop her. It was sad but I had enough. My hubby gave her $200 for her bus ride home and motel money, we called a cab and had her leave. After she left we realized she packed more than her belongings, and ruined her new bedsheets. Lets just say we haven't really spoken since. It's gonna be a long time before we have any more..guests over..

[jas]

We had one. She had been a very good friend of mine when we were in our 20's. About five years ago she got cancer in her nasal cavity and had radiation to her face and jaw area. She was told to get her teeth pulled before the treatment but she did not. Her saliva glands were destroyed and now her whole mouth is a rotten mess of teeth. It smells so bad you could not be in the same room for long.

She used to be a very fun person, after her recovery she just became a mess. Drinking to the point of wetting herself, falling asleep with lit cigs (she darn near burned down her bf's house. Anyway her bf finally could not take anymore of the smell , the drinking ect and kicked her out.

She had no where to go so her daughter dropped her off at my house. We told her she could stay a few days. Well, that turned into her renting our spare room because she could not find a room to rent with the money she gets from social security. And we figured we could use the extra money. NOT WORTH IT!!!!

We told her she could not drink here. Could only smoke outside and some other stuff. After a bit she started to try and hide her drinking but hey it does not take a rocket scientist to tell when some one is drunk when you aren't. I didn't say anything because I wanted to watch and see how far she would go. (She never smoked in the house) She was up to 9-10 beers a night.

My 14 yr old daughter could not stand her and did not hide the fact very well.

The guest room reeked between her teeth and the beer! Lucky it was November and we could turn off the air have have the windows open.

I wanted to help her out, and remembering her as a good friend I tried. She wanted to be helpful and not get in anyones way. She would sit out side and smoke and do word puzzles and listen to music that we didn't care for. Not bad music but not my husbands taste he likes rock n roll she listened to country.

(this part shocked me about myself) She wanted to be helpful but I would NOT let her. There was no way she was gonna come in and do anything here as nuts as that sounds. I am a sahm/wife I TAKE CARE OF THIS FAMILY!!! Not that I said that to her but that's how I felt having another female in my home. I would not even let her water my plants on the back porch. She asked if she could water them, at that moment I would have let them all dry up and die.