Why do men think....................

[sunflowergirl1]

I have been trying so hard to do things on my own, instead of running to the store and buying things. This week I've made a point to cook meals, eat leftovers. I really feel good about what I've done. Even pulled out my sewing machine and mended things that have needed it for months.
This morning I got up and decided to make homemade bread, something that I haven't done in years. It smells so good.
The question I'm asking is, Why do men think you are up to something if you do something out of the ordinary? My husband thinks that I want something. Why can't they be glad and appreciate what has been done instead of the negative?

Pam

[Greebo]

The question I'm asking is, Why do men think you are up to something if you do something out of the ordinary? My husband thinks that I want something. Why can't they be glad and appreciate what has been done instead of the negative?

Have you stopped to consider just how both assumptive and sexist this question is?

Maybe you should simply be asking why YOUR husband thinks this, and what it is about YOUR relationship that would cause him to think this way.

[Lady_V]

It's not gender set... if the Old Man does something 'out of his norm' I wonder how much money he needs In all honesty -- He does PLENTY around here, so doing things is not uncommon, but still after 5 years, I wonder sometimes.

[Russ]

I have been trying so hard to do things on my own, instead of running to the store and buying things. This week I've made a point to cook meals, eat leftovers. I really feel good about what I've done. Even pulled out my sewing machine and mended things that have needed it for months.
This morning I got up and decided to make homemade bread, something that I haven't done in years. It smells so good.
The question I'm asking is, Why do men think you are up to something if you do something out of the ordinary? My husband thinks that I want something. Why can't they be glad and appreciate what has been done instead of the negative?

Pam

Because it's out of the ordinary, you said so yourself. Would you complain if he ignored what you were doing, or even thought "it's about time"?
What if it was the opposite..what if he started bringing you flowers once a week just because...Would you ask him "whats up?" Why the change?

Did you tell him why you are making changes and why it makes you feel good to do these things?..maybe a good idea to tell him and maybe he would help.

If my wife started doing those things I think she would be happy I noticed and took an interest.

[annymoll]

When you do all that you do, and your husband comments and takes notice, ask him, "Do you like it?I am thinking about making some changes around here, hopefully for the better".Sometimes my Husband does tease me, and ask what I want.I tell him diamonds.