I'm not hard to please so why am I

**Dancing Lotus** · 10-17-2008, 03:09 PM

so hard to please? LOL
.Let me explain. I'm very relaxed and I just go with the flow. Rarely do I fuss about things, and very rarely will I complain. Small stuff just doesn't get to me.

Well, then why is it I seem to be hard to please when it comes to my child's education?
Last year she was in a Charter school, I thought it was too much and over the top.So we decided to put her in regular public school. Well now I think it's not enough and I'm a little concerned. There is little to no communication going on.
She got her first report card two days ago and while her grades are fine I am concerned with some comments on her behavior.

The teacher said that she talks too much to the point of disruption and she said that she frequently challenges authority. Why hasn't she mentioned this before?
This doesn't sound like my child. I wrote her teacher a note about it and she couldn't even be bothered to respond. If this an example of this school I am afraid she will be going back to the charter school next yr.
It's not as if she hasn't had the opportunity to speak with me about my daughter.

Today dd got an award for perfect attendance. Only three kids in her class got it. I went to see her get her award and when they called her name (twice) and my dd didn't hear them wouldn't you think her teacher would have told her to go up and get her award? Well she didn't and now my daughter is upset because she thinks they forgot her. And I am mad because I went just to see her. Her teacher was sitting right next to her for crying out loud.
Am I expecting too much?

**Greebo** · 10-17-2008, 03:13 PM

Why didn't dd hear her own name being called?

**vigilant20** · 10-17-2008, 03:14 PM

I guess I'm a little confused as to how you could hear them call for her twice, but she couldn't. What happened that she didn't know what was going on on stage?

**leezza** · 10-17-2008, 03:16 PM

Ann,

a couple of things:

*Since she went to a charter school last year is it possible that she is ahead of her class and is very bored, so that could be the reason for the talking.

*If they called her name twice is it possible that she may have a slight hearing problem???? just asking......

I know how much you care about your kids and how good of a Mommy you are....so just hang in there lady.

Regards,
leezza

**Dancing Lotus** · 10-17-2008, 03:35 PM

It was hard to hear anything. I could barely understand. She is only 6 for those who don't know.

Lisa , Hadn't thought about her being bored but that may be part of it.

I'm not saying that my kid isn't capable of these things. I'm sure that if her teacher says she is doing something it's true but I just want to know why it took so long for it be mentioned and why she doesn't think it's important enough to respond to my communication.

**Gibs** · 10-17-2008, 03:40 PM

I agree that she could very well be bored. My daughter is 6 as well and I find that she doesn't pay attention as well when its something she already knows, has learned, or whatever.

She did not hear her name being called, her teacher should have made sure to tell her to go and get her award. At our school the teacher would have told her. So I do think that was a little weird.

Also Communication between the school, teacher and home are important. Why wait until reports come out to tell u about this problem?? That does not make any sence. If she had told u when this problem started u could have had a talk with her and maybe corrected the problem. I believe that u should have been contacted before.

**3tomboys** · 10-17-2008, 03:53 PM

First of all I think you should be picky when it comes to your childs education. I have always responded to comments on my childrens report cards if I felt I needed to get some answers. You might request a conference to discuss what was written on her report card. My sister is a school teacher and I know the kids in her class are important to her, but she sometimes just has a lot on her plate and doesn't mean to forget things (like responding to parents) but it has happened and she feels terrible when it does. You might also volunteer in her class. This would give you an opportunity to spend time seeing how the classroom works and how your daughter behaves and get to know her teacher.
I have to agree with Leezza that maybe your dd is bored. When my dd's were in elementary school they had something called GATE. My 2 youngest were involved in it. It did require testing on reading and math skills. My youngest daughter was tested at the end of first grade and started in 2nd grade. This program pulled them from class 2 times a week to do more advanced things, like science projects. It required extra homework and they had to make up work they missed from regular class, but it really kept them on track with higher learning and when they had extra time in there regular class they were allowed to work on GATE assignments. It kept them busy and they didn't have time to get distracted.

**elphie** · 10-17-2008, 04:53 PM

I think there is an issue of what is expected of kids at this age. Schools are under more and more pressure to show results at younger and younger ages when all the prevelant research clearly indicates that kids need less formal instruction and more time for discovery play until age 7. She is talking because this is how she expresses herself and how she learns. I know some will agrue that she needs to learn how to behave in a classroom setting, and she may, but not right now. She will also need to learn the rules of safe driving one day but not right now. If you are uncomfortable with her educational situation and you have options then you need to explore them; you know your daughter, you know what she is capable of, and you know what is best for her. Listen to your mommy instincts.

(btw, if you weren't aware, this is advice coming from a former public school teacher turned homeschooler after a very bad experience for my ds so my views aren't unbiased/neutral on the topic)

**MomToTwoBoys** · 10-17-2008, 09:05 PM

I am always concerned about how someone else is treating my child. I was really concerned with our youngest DS' school and the way the classroom was, plus how the teacher treated the kids. I'm still a bit concerned and I feel that public school just isn't very intimate. I'm also used to my oldest DS' school and the special program that he's in. The teachers that he has are very different than the teacher that youngest DS has.

I was debating putting him into charter school next year but I hate the idea of putting him in a different school once he's already started.

I say that if you have concerns, you should schedule an appt with the teacher and talk to her about it.