Point System Question....

**Izzy0906** · 11-10-2008, 10:09 AM

I'm looking to do the point system with my daughter that someone mentioned on here. Certain amount of "chips" earns them TV time, computer time, special toy time etc... My 6 year old is really acting out between lying, talking nasty between people, disrespecting, etc... She doesn't care about time outs or getting things taken away. But she always seems to react better with rewards though I have yet to find the right system. So I decided to try this out. I need some info though such as what type of thigns they get points for, how many per item, how many points earn how much time TV, computer etc... I know it varies per child/family but I need some starting points. I want to do this but am completely in the dark about how to go about it. TIA!

**Nana2two** · 11-10-2008, 11:01 AM

The first Question would be to find out why she is doing what she is doing. Something might be bothering her emotionally,is she picked on at school ect.All my kids are grown now.

**Patty A** · 11-10-2008, 11:04 AM

Here is a website that talks about the use of charts or chips. I don't have a clue as to the one that was talked about, but this one has some great ideas on it.
It also breaks it down and gives you ideas on how to do it.

http://childparenting.about.com/cs/b...ehaviormod.htm

**Izzy0906** · 11-10-2008, 11:13 AM

Originally Posted by Nana2two

The first Question would be to find out why she is doing what she is doing. Something might be bothering her emotionally,is she picked on at school ect.All my kids are grown now.

Already tried that. WE have no answers except that she thinks she can walk all over people. School she loves and there are no reports from her or her friends of being picked on.

**Izzy0906** · 11-10-2008, 11:14 AM

Originally Posted by Patty A

Here is a website that talks about the use of charts or chips. I don't have a clue as to the one that was talked about, but this one has some great ideas on it.
It also breaks it down and gives you ideas on how to do it.

http://childparenting.about.com/cs/b...ehaviormod.htm

Great thank you!

**Nana2two** · 11-10-2008, 12:06 PM

I hope the chips work for you. My grandson is 4 and he is mouthy,His new thing is when you tell him NO he walks away saying "WHATEVER" i will do it if i want to. That has gotten him into more trouble latley.I think alot of it is the kids in the area they are all a little older then him but they have sibblings in older ranges close to teens so i wondering if that is where his whatever is coming from.His favorite they is video games, he is aloud to play them in 3-30 minute sessions, through out the day. Well when i was leaving he was down to 2 sessions and last night he had all of them taken away.Only if they knew to close there mouth. LOL

**Izzy0906** · 11-10-2008, 12:24 PM

That's her main problem is the mouthyness. Example... last night she brought her dish to the sink and yelled "give me more" I told her ask nice and she says "just give me more". I made her go to bed right then and there (2 hours early) and she didn't care.