I'm cancelling...

[Lady_V]

Thanksgiving!!!!

... well, I want to, but I won't.

The Old Man wanted to 'make me happy' by painting the living room... sounds wonderful... except... he didn't finish! He did 1 wall. There are only three walls in this room... and one of them has a 6 foot slider in the smack-dab middle of it.

I put all my framed photos in a box against the wall that isn't being painted... he moved the box to the sofa, knocked it in to the full paint tray...

Then in an attempt to rescue my photos, got paint everywhere.

He slept through Sunday, did the first coat of 1 wall Monday before sleeping, did the second coat of that wall and one coat on the other before going to bed today... he went to bed at 4:30pm I did the best I could with the second coat... bad FMS day for me and I couldn't really hold the roller handle.

I now have my tv, sofa, desk, computer, drysink and what looks like every earthly possession all clustered together in the middle of the room where he 'had to put them' even though I was trying to get the room cleared out BEFORE painting...

Long story short... I'm NOT happy!

[madhen]

Eww...sounds like kind of a wreck. I am sympathetic. I actually DID cancel Christmas one year because the guy who was laying laminate in one room of my house took about five weeks longer than he said he would, and the week before Christmas, everything that had been in that room was still piled in my dining room. I told my sister that if she wanted a Christmas dinner, she'd have to make it herself. (Which she did, and even invited me to it!!)

I feel your pain. But if you have a place for people to sit, family and friends will not care and will probably just enjoy the story of how you ended up with a sofa that matches the colour of your walls!!

[IntlMom]

can I cancel too??
I have my parents here and we have invited a family with 9 children to come over for thanksgiving......yes, I AM crazy! .... I am actually tired just thinking about it!

[Palooka]

can I cancel too??
I have my parents here and we have invited a family with 9 children to come over for thanksgiving......yes, I AM crazy! .... I am actually tired just thinking about it!

And you are like me when it comes to your house. I like mine clean all the time and even when company comes over, I am right behind them picking up trash. Yes, I am OCD in some ways. My house is simple but neat.

lady_ V, I hear ya and understand. My bathroom is still in the remodling process and get this....it has been 4 years and almost done. My husband got bored and just gave up! I did what I knew how to do to help and it is still a joke around this house because he wanted all his family to come over for Thanksgiving 4 years ago to show off the bathroom...lol..and it still is not done. Drives me bonkers!

[Lady_V]

My bathroom is still in the remodling process and get this....it has been 4 years and almost done.

Don't even get me started on the bathroom I have toilet paper shoved in the door frame so people can't see in... in a stroke of brilliance... he took all the baseboards and door moldings off. Not to mention the shower walls which weren't put in right

Tracy - If I could just laugh it off, I would... but we have a small place... 800 sqft condo with open kitchen/living room so, the eating table (which I finally got 2 weeks ago) is actually in the living room side because I don't have room for it in the kitchen...

I live on the garden level... the majority of the people who live in my section of the complex have to walk by my unit... I have a nice patio/garden area which is usually seasonally decorated... I have a 6 foot slider that leads to the patio...

I HAVE NO CURTAINS!!!!

I feel like I am in a people-quarium because it seems everyone walking by is looking in at me... 6:22am, sitting here ranting in complete darkness because 1) if I don't vent, I will explode... 2) if I turn a light on, people can see me and my pile of doom.

Just wait... there's more (sounds like an infomercial huh?)

HE woke up at 3am to finish painting... came in and woke me up, asked if I painted last night and went back to bed. Okay, that's normal, he has to get up in a few hours (except he went to bed at 4:30pm last night... if he isn't rested, then I suggest a coma).

I got up at 4:45 to make him a pot of coffee, scrambled eggs and bacon (remember that... I didn't have to get up to make it)... he comes in to the kitchen...

"I will have to do a third coat on that wall (points to the one I finished) because you didn't cut in. Which means I have to give them ALL a third coat so they will look right..."

Eh, whatever, the wall looks fine to me, he just wanted to feel useful or something... I continued cooking...

Then the bombs came flying at me...

"Why is a stupid day so important to you?" -- it's not stupid, it's Thanksgiving, and the first one DD will be with me for...

"Why can't you just cook over someone else's house?" -- I can't exactly barge over someones house with a raw turkey and demand access to their kitchen...

"I have to work today, I will be too tired to help you sort out the living room and kitchen tonight" -- too tired??? he should have stuff on reserve from his weekend long siesta! I am not blind to the fact he may have to work a long day today, but I don't remember even asking him to help me...

I did my best to duck and cover when the verbal bombs flew my way... no point sending him to work in a foul mood, get fired and blame me.

My coffee cup is now empty and back to work I go before I have to stop to drive DD to school...

BTW -- he didn't even eat the breakfast

[jamie79]

Men!!!! Is there someone you could hire today? someone looking to pick up a few extra $$$"s Someone out of work perhaps? Then you could get it done and it would serve your dh right for doing this right before the holiday and not getting it done. I know it wouldnt be exactly frugal but boy it would be tempting

[TheRootedNomad]

Oh V --- wish I was closer I'd be over in a heartbeat! I can't stand it when I'm so looking foward to something to pull together and then, what I see as the small piece, I've asked DH to be responsible for takes 10 times longer than it should or doesn't get done at all. It makes me furious. I can't stand the "mess" of home projects either and we've been in them constantly for a couple of years. I lose it sometimes and he can't ever understand what I'm so worked up over. I wish I could get him to realize how much I grind my teeth and chant to myself "It will be finished someday. It will be wonderful when it's done. yada yada yada" Anyway I understand. again.

[geckoace]

oh sweetie :hug: he sounds like my DH when he knows he messed up but cant admit it. i almost never have him help me with things anymore. i have gotten to be quite handy

[Greebo]

Remember, V. Murder is illegal. Make it look good...

[madhen]

V, I suspect the verbal bombs were a self-defense mechanism. I know several men (and a couple of women) who are like that. He knows he screwed up ROYALLY, and there isn't enough time to fix it, and he's mad at himself, so he starts the self-talk, which degrades into the "so what so important about one stupid day" mood, because it is the only mental direction he can go to alleviate how badly he feels about royally screwing up. You making him breakfast falls right into that, because that probably made him feel all the more guilty.

Just tell yourself that the day is about who you have with you, not where you are and what you eat. Worse case, you can still order a turkey dinner from the grocery store. Or you can go to a Chinese restaurant! (A Christmas Story-style)

The important thing is you will get to see your daughter. Eye on the prize.

(And bedsheets work well in place of drapes in a pinch.)

[TheRootedNomad]

Ah .... madhen has a usefull tip. We just had two matching table clothes tacked over our living room window for a couple of weeks while I sorted out the curtain issue.

[cheappearls]

Oh man.

[MomToTwoBoys]

I'd cancel Thanksgiving too. I'd be like, "If you don't finish this room by tonight, I'm not making the effort to make you a delicious turkey dinner with all the trimmings." DH does stuff like that sometime and I usually end up finishing, bad shoulder and all. I may hurt at the end, but at least it gets done.

[miss_thrifty]

lady v- i wish we lived closer to you. my husband is the opposite and it would drive him nuts not to see it done. he'd be over right quick and helping ya out just out of boredom. he's a workacholic. lol
pogey in winter here drives him nuts- always twittling away.
HHUUGGGSSS to ya dear.

[Michelle68]

I agree, the verbal bombs were a defense mechanism. Sounds just like my DH when he knows he's messed up. Sending you hugs. Wish I were there to help you clean up the mess.