Ugh. I have to vent...

**LynnLC** · 12-03-2008, 12:02 PM

My kiddos have a half day today and I must be the only mother home. I have 6 kids here. Only 2 are mine. No phone calls from a parent- nothing. Sometimes I feel used . Ok, i feel a little better.

**mmy2grls** · 12-03-2008, 12:10 PM

Same thing happens to me. It would be nice to be asked or if favors would be exchanged once in awhile. I never minded as long as my kid was having fun and everyone got along.

**LynnLC** · 12-03-2008, 12:15 PM

Originally Posted by mmy2grls

Same thing happens to me. It would be nice to be asked or if favors would be exchanged once in awhile. I never minded as long as my kid was having fun and everyone got along.

I think I am going through an early mid life crisis. lol I feel like all the other moms careers are more important . I never mind taking kiddos in if I'm asked. I know what it is like to be in a bind child care wise. No one has even called to make sure their kid is here. I will have most of them til at least 7. I guess I should be grateful I can be here for all of them and give tham all a meal. Thanks for listening. I feel less crazy . lol

**nvmommyx6** · 12-03-2008, 12:18 PM

I would still let the other mom's know it would be appriciated if they could at least chip in a bit for food!!!!

**Darlene** · 12-03-2008, 12:37 PM

How old are the kids?

**PaulaMM** · 12-03-2008, 12:39 PM

Ugh, we don't have school Friday and I was looking forward to sleeping in and just hanging out with my kids when my SIL called last night and asked if I would keep my niece. *sigh* I love my niece and all but...... she's kind of a PITA.

Now, what my SIL said was: "You know, because she's going to be at a babysitter's all during Christmas break and I thought this would be something different."

What she meant was: "Since I have to pay a babysitter through Christmas break, I thought I would try to get one for free this Friday."

LOL Oh well.

**LynnLC** · 12-03-2008, 12:43 PM

Originally Posted by Darlene

How old are the kids?

10-12 year olds

**Darlene** · 12-03-2008, 01:15 PM

Glad you can be there for them. I don't understand some parents. Even when my kids were older than that I would have been talking to the parents.
If I were you I'd give the parents a call and say something like "Hi, I haven't heard from you & wanted to make sure you knew your darling is here. Can you give me a call next time so I don't worry?
Or you can just be matter of fact if you don't want to beat around the bush.

**frugalbabe** · 12-03-2008, 04:40 PM

I find myelf where you are often. We have one little guy who came here one Friday to play with ds after they had played a few hours I told him it was time to go home because dh and I were going out and my kids were going to a Friday-night babysitting co-op we belong to. He informed me there wasn't anybody at his house his parents had gone out and all of the doors were locked! Sure enough they were so there I was with this kid and we already had plans for the night. GRRRR! And then his mom tried it again the next Friday so we had to have a little chat. Don't let yourself be a doormat mama -- it sounds to me like you have a very generous heart and for that I commend you!

**cab54** · 12-03-2008, 05:02 PM

I was always the SAHM who had everyone here on snow days, etc. Usually not planned off-school days, though.

I would have up to 10 kids in here. Usually just for cocoa and cookies, but sometimes meals. It was Ok with me, but it could be hectic and expensive.

**LynnLC** · 12-03-2008, 05:15 PM

Originally Posted by frugalbabe

I find myelf where you are often. We have one little guy who came here one Friday to play with ds after they had played a few hours I told him it was time to go home because dh and I were going out and my kids were going to a Friday-night babysitting co-op we belong to. He informed me there wasn't anybody at his house his parents had gone out and all of the doors were locked! Sure enough they were so there I was with this kid and we already had plans for the night. GRRRR! And then his mom tried it again the next Friday so we had to have a little chat. Don't let yourself be a doormat mama -- it sounds to me like you have a very generous heart and for that I commend you!

Thanks Frugalbabe.I love how parents just assume they can leave their kids and then go out. One of the parents called their kids cell phone and told him to call when he was ready to leave. Huh???? I will speak to each one of them when they come to get their little darlings. Whenever that is...lol Off to make dinner for them. I should start charging. Thankfully english muffin pizzas are cheap and easy.

Thanks for the support everyone. Sometimes I feel alone and bottle little things up inside. I feel less stressed getting it all out.

**LynnLC** · 12-03-2008, 07:05 PM

Originally Posted by hunertime

You are the Mom that all of those kids will remember was always there. God's Blessings on you and all you do. Candy

Thank you, Hunertime. That really makes me feel good.

**rainbowgc** · 12-04-2008, 11:56 AM

You are truly a blessing for these children and their parents are clueless. With all the child abuse in the world you would think people would know better than to just leave their kids with whoever. Our children our priceless and it is hard to imagine people put so little thought into where they are all day. Geesh would you leave your diamond just anywhere and it not bother you! Yet their children they do. Clueless and sad. These children are blessed to be in your care where they are safe, warm and fed.

I can't say enough about how good you are to do this and hold your tongue.
Maybe you need to remind these parents and shake them up a little by saying something like you are glad they were with you instead of some child predator!

**rachelj** · 12-04-2008, 12:09 PM

I admire you. My kids are still little and actually hope someday that our home becomes the hang out place - of course I am thinking about teen age years and not being dumped on by the parents.

How did it go talking to the parents?