No less than $200 each..

[Jmarie]

So I refered a good friend of mine to move in the same complex that I reside in. At the time she applied and moved in there was a special, "refer a friend, and make $500". At the time it seemed like a good idea, splitting 500.. would have yielded us 250 each.. However, here is were we are...

Last night (11 pm) I recieve a text message demanding that I fork over half of the referal money.. not a problem, but I havent recieved it.. So today at work, my friend asked me well did the rental office just credit the money to your rent? Because, we (her & fiance) asked the rental office, and they said only you get the money and they dont know anything about us splitting anything.. and its not $500. But we should get no less than $200 each, I think there is a sign saying you get $400.

So I call the rental office to inquire about how and when I should expect to recieve the referal money.. the consultant alerted to me that their policy changed and the amount dropped down to 200 total. When I passed this on, my friend/coworker basically accused me of stealing 200 from her.. For the life of me I dont get it.. I asked her what the deal was and her response was.. well I want to call the office cause from my calculation, we should get no less than $200...and I dont know anything about us splitting $500.. You sure you didnt get a check yet.. ??

So now, I am thinking should I just give her the check when I do get it, split it, or just check the whole check for myself? I only though about giving her the total check because I would like to just be done with it..but then on other side of the coin, if I didnt refer her, then neither of us would have extra $$ that we didnt have at first.. I am really questioning our friendship now.. and I didnt think this situation was this serious, to accuse me of stealing (or at least thats what I feel like you are doing) from you and lying to you about something so petty...

Maybe I am making this bigger than what it was.. but I sure picked up some bad vibes...

[Rebookie]

Keep the money and tell her to suck an egg.

[Contrary Housewife]

I think you need to take your "friend" down to the rental office and both of you talk to management. That should straighten her out.

[Lady_V]

You were being generous in offering to split the money... she is just being greedy.

If the ONLY reason she moved in to your complex was for $250, then she really needs to take this as a life lesson.

[RetiredVeryEarly]

Just tell her to ask the management office what she will get if she refers a friend. Hopefully they will say $200 and the subject will be closed. Since you offered to split it with her, I would say split however much you get. If she is ticked off she will get over it eventually if you are really friends.

[cheappearls]

Just tell her to ask the management office what she will get if she refers a friend. Hopefully they will say $200 and the subject will be closed. Since you offered to split it with her, I would say split however much you get. If she is ticked off she will get over it eventually if you are really friends.

I like that idea.

That's awful she's acting the way she is.

[kittykatstrong]

Just tell her to ask the management office what she will get if she refers a friend. Hopefully they will say $200 and the subject will be closed. Since you offered to split it with her, I would say split however much you get. If she is ticked off she will get over it eventually if you are really friends.

I agree that way it is not coming from you it is coming from them.

[djbout]

I would take her to the management office when you collect your money so she can see exactly how much your getting right then and there. I would then keep your original agreement to split the money. If she can see with her own eyes what your are getting there should be no argument. If she still thinks she should get $200 or $250 write her off!

She may be the type of person who's already spent the money before she got it, kwim.

[Greebo]

Another option:

Ask the rental company for the info about the reduction in the referral bonus in writing, with the check.

Inform friend that based on her behavior, its clear to you that all that is important to her is the money.

Sign check over to "friend" with copy of new policy.

Tell "friend" that the money isn't worth it to you, and now, no longer is her friendship.

Leave with the moral high ground. The $200 won't mean much to her in the long run, and you don't need toxic people like that in your life, so its worth giving up the $200 you never had to get rid of her without giving her any basis for complaint.

Or keep the $200 and tell her to go **** herself. That works too.

[staciah]

I like both of Greebo's ideas.

[nancycg56]

When my daughter did this with her friend, it came off the rent ~ there was no actual cash ~ her friend got the whole thing which is the way it should be since she referred my daughter.. Maybe your complex is doing the same?

[Patty A]

Its a sad fact that some people will lose a friendship over money! I agree with Greebo over the fact that this "friend" (I use that word lightly!) is TOXIC. For her to be a so called friend and be willing to say you lied shows just how toxic she really is for you. As for the money itself, split it. That's what you said you would do. Take her with you so she can she for herself how much you get. Then stay away from her. Like I always say, with friends like that you don't need enemies!

[Newsnerd68]

I like Greebo's last idea.

I'd feel like a jerk asking my friend for money and then accusing her of holding out. Take some of the money and get her etiquette lessons.

[Grayce]

If you want to take the high road, take a photocopy of the actual cheque when you get it and give her 1/2 of whatever the total is.

If you want to know what I'd do. I'd keep the money and tell her to go %@#* herself.

[MomToTwoBoys]

I would keep the check and then remind her that because of her snarkiness and disrespect to you, she doesn't get a dime. She can accuse you of stealing all she wants, but her attitude towards you and accusing you of things that were not of your control shows that you're better off without her as a friend.