I'm so mad I could just spit!!!! I hate drunks

[nvmommyx6]

I'm trying to stay calm and be nice in this post!
My sister (major nasty, vindictive, backstabbing, deceitful, alcoholic B*%ch on wheels) called this morning.
I do not answer the phone when she calls EVER, my 9 year old did this morning!!! So, I took the phone from my 9 year old as I do not allow her to talk to my kids, and was DUMB enough to put the phone to my ear instead of hanging it up like usual!!!

I am so mad, I am literally shaking, I cannot even stand safely! She whined about how horrible her old man is ( he is a wonderful man) she whined about how they were so broke they could not afford food and had to go on food stamps...this goes on and on and on, but I'll cut it short, lets just say she whined so long about so much I was able to set the phone down, clean my kitchen, do my dishes and get a cup of coffee, come back, pick the phone back up and she was still going!!!!!!

So, being the brutally honest person I am (this is where my mouth gets me into trouble) I asked her, "You cant afford cigs? no. You cant afford food? no, then please explain to me so I can understand HOW IN THE HELL YOU CAN AFFORD BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOZE" <------Mouth, I'm in trouble!!!!

So she starts screaming at me about how horrible of a sister I am, how I always have a "holier than thou" attitude towards her blah, blah, blah, whiner, woe is me Bull$hit!!!!!!! <---see, theres that mouth again!!!

SO she tried to lie that she was not drinking, I said, " C, I've been sober for 20 years come this Sunday, I know when your drunk" She whines, " There you go rubbing how your better than me again"
"OK, BOOOOO FREAKIN HOOOOOO....if you don't like it then pull your head out of your drunken A$$ and change it"
Then, she hung up on me!!!!!!

SO, now I am going to leave, go to breakfast with a friend and calm down!!!
Sorry for the rant, but thank you all for listening!!

[Missy]

I have one in my llife to FIL. I can't stand it. Or him when he's drunk. barely tolerable when sober.

[fixer]

Sorry to hear of your experience. It is amazing to me how family can push your buttons unlike anyone else. I ran into a family member I had been estranged from for twenty-five years and almost lost my mind. It just is not worth it. After all, you can pick your friends not your family.

[LastDragonfly]

I just love you! boo freakin hoooo.... roflmao. Can I use that? I'll be saying that to my drug freakin brother.

[Russ]

tell it like it is CJ. You can NOT help someone who does not want to help themselves.

[mandi0808]

If have found that people who pull the "poor me" on you just want to make everyone else miserable also. And they will always have some sort of
excuse about how it's not their fault, it's always someone else that did it
to them.
The best thing to do is just hang up when they start their rant.
They will get the message soon enough that you can't be bothered with their
petty garbage.

[Debbie-cat]

nvmommyx6, you did the exact same thing I would have.

[Gibs]

UGH. HUGS to u.

[MomToTwoBoys]

Aww C.J.

I know how they can be and honestly, it's better to not associate with them than put yourself through that. I disowned my own father (who was a raging alcoholic, couldn't hold a job, was in prison, couldn't pay child support, etc) about 13 years ago for his behavior. All of it was influenced by alcohol. You know what happened then?

He was diagnosed with lung cancer and died from it.

I call it cosmic karma for all of the hell he put me and my family through. When he wanted to talk to me before asking them to take him off life support so he could pass on, I didn't give him one lick of a chance to say he was sorry. Everyone told me I would regret it. The one thing I regret is that I never got to tell him how much of a spineless piece of human waste he really was, and that he deserved every lick of that cancer that he got.

I also don't have good relations with my sister. She gives my mom that whole 'you love her more than me, you put her on a pedastel compared to me' speech and it's disgusting. Stooping that low and making everyone feel sorry for you because you can't get your life together is exactly what I think of my sister when she's like that.

I think you and your family are better off not having contact with your sister. Even if she attempts to clean herself up and stop drinking, those memories of how she was during the time are just so imbedded in your head and they can't get out. That's when you know you made the right choice by not giving her one ounce of respect.

[LexTysMommy]

(hugs) what a horrible feeling, i think its a great idea not to answer when she calls again. i am proud of you for being sober 20 years!

[nvmommyx6]

Thanks Y'all for your thoughs and support! Normally when the phone rings and it is my sister calling, it sings, " Devil in disguise"!!!!!!!!!!! And I NEVER answer it, the only reason I answered it this morning was because my 9 year old answered it and I wont let her talk to my kids!

being a drug addict I should know the "addiction" but I dont, It's been 20 years for me, and when I quit drinking last year I just did it, I didn't have any withdrawls, (this means the alcoholic gene skipped me, praise the Lord) So, therefore it does not make any sence to me, I gave up my addiction to save myself, save my family, it was freakin hard, but I did it, because I knew if I did not do that I would lose my family and DIE alone.

I am frustrated because my children have an aunt that is as worthless as tits on a boar, so really, they have no aunt! I have no sister, and I would like to have an aunt for them and a sister for me and a daughter for my folks. I hate to be so harsh, I know she will die soon, and I guess it just piss' me off that the selfish wench is going to kill herself and screw everyone she can on her way down!

And, no, we never had a hard childhood, our parents were always and still are awesome parents to us. So, the way I see it is, "She's got no excuse"

[zakity]

Sorry... It is hard to not have the family that you want. I know I don't. But, I tend to chuckle at their issues. It is all I can do sometimes because of how ridiculous it all is.

[nvmommyx6]

And another thing that just baffles me, How in the heck can you be drunk at 7AM???

[Jskell911]

Your sis reminds me of my ex. Seriously! He would do the same exact things. Good for you, saying it like it is. I think it means more because you have been down that path.

[rainbowgc]

You did the right thing, you can't help anyone until they are ready for help, who needs all the drama until then