I'm annoyed...

**savvymom** · 12-12-2008, 05:12 PM

I was at the gas station today and a man held the door open for me to come out, he was going inside. I looked at him and smiled and said thank you very much. He practically growled at me. I wanted to say well don't hold the door open if you're going to growl at me. Of course I didn't...

Why do people feel they HAVE to do the "right" thing if it's not what they actually WANT to do. He could have easily just walked in and I could have opened my own door. I'm sorry but it gets on my nerves very much!

Thanks for letting me vent.

**MoonMommy** · 12-12-2008, 06:28 PM

I also don't understand why people have to make nasty comments to people just because.

For example, I was walking into the mall one day to look for some new sneekers for the kids. I always walk pretty fast. These two men walked by me and said in a really snarky way "Better hurry up and get to those sales." It really irked me because they made such a huge assumption about me because I was a woman, in a mall, walking quickly. I don't understand why they felt the need to be snarky.

**PaulaMM** · 12-13-2008, 09:12 AM

Some people are miserable old poop heads and can't function unless they are making other people miserable, too.

Kill them with kindness. You get to maintain the moral highground and it shocks the stuffing out of them.

**nvmommyx6** · 12-13-2008, 09:44 AM

These sort of situations are really bad for me, because I do say something and it can tend to get me in trouble!!!

I was at walmart, this was a few weeks back and I swear every time I go into that walmart the employee's are frowning and just plain unhappy lookin! So, one visit through there a few weeks ago I told the man who rang me up "thank you, have a good day, and smile for $hit sakes"!!!
All I got was a look of confusion when I said that, but my Mother burst out into laughter!!
Then yesterday I was in the same walmart, with the same cashier, and he was the same Grinch as always!
So, when I went to slide my card for my purchases it says on the machine, " Did your cashier greet you today" And right out loud, I read it, it went a lil something like this...I said, " Did your cashier greet you today?" I looked right at him and said, " NOPE"
He looked at me kinda pissy, I said, "thank you, have a nice day, and smile for $hit sakes"
I don't deal well with people who are rude, and I expect a better experience when I am a customer, at least one as good as I would give!!

**Dancing Lotus** · 12-13-2008, 09:57 AM

I just had a similar experience at walmart. I was at the jewelry counter standing right next to the employee who was digging in boxes. I guess what was in that box was more important because she never said one word to me. I left and went to Target.

To the op- I'm sorry that silly man thought it was soooooo much trouble to hold the door.

**rosey7415** · 12-13-2008, 10:18 AM

to the op........doesn't that just get you? if someone is going to do something nice, then don't erase the gesture with sarcasm. what is the point?? if your heart isn't in it, then for god's sake.....don't do it!!! i hear you!.......lol

**rainbowgc** · 12-13-2008, 10:29 AM

to the op........doesn't that just get you? if someone is going to do something nice, then don't erase the gesture with sarcasm. what is the point?? if your heart isn't in it, then for god's sake.....don't do it!!! i hear you!.......lol

You took the words right out of my mouth!

**PaulaMM** · 12-13-2008, 10:39 AM

I'm pretty sure that saying something sarcastic to a cashier can be interpreted as rude, as well.

I know from experience that cashiers are often treated as second class citizens and worse, often treated as nonentities. It's hard to be Miss Susie Sunshine when you're blamed for prices and when you see the eye rolls and hear the sighs because some diva extraordinaire had to waste a few of her precious moments in your inferior presence because the line wasn't fast enough to suit her. You get sick and tired of having your "Thank yous" answered with "Um hm" or not answered at all. I've encountered some customers who, for all intents and purposes, could have been using self check out; they refuse to even acknowledge a lowly cashier's presence.

Cashiers, especially those who have had the job for any time at all, get to see people at their very worst. I am of the opinion that how you treat someone is who serving you speaks louder about you than anything else you do.

When I encounter a cashier that is smiling and friendly, I make sure to comment and compliment him or her on that friendliness. However, if they are less than gracious, I accept that it's not a personal affront and is either a result of a crappy personality or the result of someone who has had a supremely bad day with supremely bad customers. It doesn't take anything away from me to simply let it roll off of my back and go on with my life.

Sorry, this wasn't an attempt to berate anyone for anything. I guess it's just a pet peeve of mine. Besides, I'm a firm believer in karma. What goes around comes around. Kindness eventually begets kindness and crappiness begets, well, you know.

**kittykatstrong** · 12-13-2008, 11:13 AM

I am of the moto kill them with kindness. If they are crabby be over the top nice to them. Either they will change and you have made everything better or they dont change and you have lost nothing.

But I agree, dont do something if you going to growley about it.

**McD** · 12-13-2008, 12:53 PM

Originally Posted by PaulaMM

I am of the opinion that how you treat someone is who serving you speaks louder about you than anything else you do.

Agreed!!!!!!! When I interview people for a position, I try to do an informal meeting at a restaraunt for lunch or a coffeeshop etc. I want to see how they interact with those serving them because it basically tells you who that person is.