Kids and shoes

**Dancing Lotus** · 01-09-2009, 08:07 AM

What is it with kids and shoes? They always want to wear ones that are totally inappropriate for what they are wearing. And when they don't want to wear the ones you need them to wear they have a million excuses.

MY daughter doesn't like tennis shoes. She only want's to wear her cowboy boots or dress shoes. This morning is was important she wear her tennis shoes. First she claimed she couldn't find them, then she said they were too beat up. Finally after I force her to put them on, she whines they are too small. Please tell me I am not the only one who has this issue every freakin morning? I about to throw out all of her shoes but one pair of tennis shoes.

**shortstack** · 01-09-2009, 08:13 AM

You are definatly not the only one! My dd7 wants to wear her Crocs all the time with no socks, even in the snow and with her church dresses on Sunday.
I am soooo tired of fighting about what she is going to wear also but that is a whole other thread

Andrea

**Dancing Lotus** · 01-09-2009, 08:35 AM

Originally Posted by singersullivan

You are definatly not the only one! My dd7 wants to wear her Crocs all the time with no socks, even in the snow and with her church dresses on Sunday.
I am soooo tired of fighting about what she is going to wear also but that is a whole other thread

Andrea

Ha , must be the age. DD will be 7 in a few months. She never wants to wear socks. If she had crocks she would want to wear them daily.
And the clothes , I agree a whole other topic. She loves dresses and the fancier the better.

**nvmommyx6** · 01-09-2009, 08:45 AM

I have a 9 year old girl that pulls that crap!!
A friend of ours gave her a pair of boots that have the dorkt big fat heals on them, not tall like high heels but fat and dorky lookin, like "saturday night fever" style!!
She thinks their the best things walkin ( pun intended)

She was wearing a pair of capri's that are flaired at the legs, they are very dressy looking, and tried to put on those damned boots!!! I said, there aint no way your goin out into public lookin like that!!!
She has a very nice pair of tennie's that fit her fine and she'd rather wear those dorky boots with everything!!!
She also trips in them because of those donb heels, so they have conveniently dissapeared!!!!

**nuisance26** · 01-09-2009, 10:03 AM

~Yey my dd is breaking me in to her sense of fashion early by already having a phase of wearing underwear on her head, sandals well into November, underwear over her pants and now multiple layered shirts. I think today she's wearing 5 shirts. Most of them are her brothers. All her pretty girl stuff is going to waste. *sigh* I'll let her wear her crazy fashions everywhere but a store or the doctors. A trick I've been doing lately is to set out what I want her to wear, take off her current outfit and then start to gather my purse and stuff at the door. She doesn't want to be left behind so she gets dressed in a hurry.~

**momof2joys** · 01-09-2009, 10:46 AM

DD-11 does this all the time, the other day she tried to leave the house for school with her fur lined crocs, fine, but she wasn't going to wear them, she had to put them in her bag. Let me remind you here in Iowa, the current temperature only reaches about 15 degrees, that's a high for us!!! She can take them to school with her, but she is not wearing them in 8+ inches of snow!!!

Sometimes I think it is really more of a common sense issue!!

**Izzy0906** · 01-09-2009, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by singersullivan

You are definatly not the only one! My dd7 wants to wear her Crocs all the time with no socks, even in the snow and with her church dresses on Sunday.
I am soooo tired of fighting about what she is going to wear also but that is a whole other thread

Andrea

I had the same problem with my dd6. She ONLY wanted to wear crocs, no socks no matter if it was freezing or raining out. I ended up getting her the insulated crocs. I have to fight her daily to not wear those to school and wear her sneakers or shoes but at least in the cold runnign home from gymnastics or just going to the corner store, I know her feet will be warm.

**annertak** · 01-09-2009, 11:20 AM

My 18 y/o DD wore flip-flops in six inches of snow last week, so it doesn't get much better with age! LOL!

**nuisance26** · 01-09-2009, 11:49 AM

~So have we established that's it's just the girls that do this?

My ds has never had this issue. He can be all dressed in his favorite clothes and I only have to say "I think you should wear this" and he would just change, no questions asked, no resistance.~

**frugalfriend** · 01-09-2009, 12:07 PM

You are definitely not alone! My dd-9 and I have this kind of argument all the time about shoes (and clothes) ~ grrr! I recently bought her new Converse tennis shoes and she loved them when I got them of course. Didn't tell me to take them back! Now, I can hardly get her to wear them! Just this morning she said she hates them and doesn't want to wear them any more.

She says they're hard to put on (unlace and loosen up), they take too long so she'd rather just slip on other shoes. <--- The ones her P.E. teacher tells her are not good for running. So, I loosened them up for her and MADE her wear them today!

**UUMomof3** · 01-09-2009, 12:45 PM

YDD once wore her very traditional holiday dress, with her cowgirl boots. Red velvet, pearls, white satin peter pan collar. White tights. Black boots, with stitching and silver chains and toe wraps. TO CHURCH. I get them ready before I go to choir, then DH brings them an hour later. I'd done hair and everything, except the shoes.

She's the same one who as a toddler said "my get dressed myself". Sure honey, I'm all for independence. Then she came out wearing just her rainboots...

**redhead68** · 01-09-2009, 01:00 PM

It's the age and it will pass, I promise. Just take a deep breath, and count to ten.

**LastDragonfly** · 01-09-2009, 01:47 PM

All together we have 5 girls and one boy....yep only the girls would do this. makes you want to scream into the night.

Some times I just have to look at them and say....oh heck NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (edited)

**imagine** · 01-09-2009, 01:59 PM

You are not alone.

My daughter ( almost 8) is like this with more than just shoes but her clothing as well.

I reached a compromise. She can wear what she wants even if it doesn't match. As long as she isn't breaking any school rules with her outfit.

I also retained the right to object on the grounds of safety (including weather appropriate)

I also retained the right to negotiate on holidays and picture day.

One day ,she did wear jeans under a short skirt with a layered top and Mary Jane shoes to school or was it church. No one said a thing. I'm guessing they knew she dressed herself.

Oh and this winter leggings or tights seem to be common thing for her to wear under skorts (yes you read that right).

**redhead68** · 01-09-2009, 02:42 PM

Aren't kids a hoot? I love seeing mine express their individuality, even if I sometimes want to avert my eyes for a moment. The lime green paint on her bedroom walls nearly did me in, but she loves it, and childhood is short.