Am I the only one who...

[nvmommyx6]

gets Bitchy about not being able to do anything I "want" to do?

I feel like Cinderella here sometimes, and now is one of those times!
I work constantly and I am getting to the point where I am bitter when I see hubby or kids, reading, playing, watching tv, playing a computer or anything else I would enjoy doing!!
When everyone is gone to work and school is the only time I could possibly get some "me" time but then it is also the only time I can get a lot of work done fast and uninterrupted! then when everyone elses days are over, and their time to relax comes around here I am with more work to do!!
I want my family to be happy and enjoy things like that, I love my job normally, however, I'm getting to the point of blowing up like a nuclear bomb because I do not get to read, and I love reading, I do not get to do anything I really enjoy to do without some sort of interruption constantly!!
For instance, going to the freakin bathroom!!!
Hubby wants me to build a web site for him, thats great I love doing that, especially the web graphics, I love making those from scratch! But I got on last night to try and start it and 5 minutes of work turned into 1 hour and 6 minutes of work for having to be interrupted 300000000 times and I never got a damned thing accomplished!!!
This bitchy me will pass soon but for right now I am just plain bitter and jealous that for all the work I do, that is all I do!!

Thanks for reading!

[PrairieRose]

When you start feeling this way it's time to take a break....get out of the house, have coffee with a girlfriend or lunch out or something. Take a whole day off, doing something you want to do, even if it's nothing or just sleep. I've been a stay at home mom for most of my life......I totally understand what you're saying, seriously.....it's time to treat yourself well......or, it will only get worse and without a break you'll start to feel that way all of the time. No, you're not the only one.

[danni]

Make sure that you get some time for yourself!!!!! It will only get worse if you don't have some you time. Remember that you have to take care of yourself before you are of any use to others.

[Momof3girls]

I feel that way too.

[TexasPeanut]

Aww

Take time for yourself, specifically speaking get on the Wii and do the boxing, or even better get on the Wii Fit and do the boxing on there (if you've unlocked it) because it's even better. Just pretend you're boxing your DH, go on and get rid of those aggressions and frustrations we won't tell.

[momof2joys]

First of all, just breathe!!!!

Next have you had a talk with your family about helping out?? I noticed the ages in your sig, and they are old enough to help with some of the chores around the house, that way you can have a more "me" time!!!

I know it is very frusting, you want things done, but you also want things done right, I learned to give up the dished in my house, the 11 year does them now, I just go over and re-clean the counters and such when she is done!!!

Just relax, go find that book, and start reading!!! Even for just an hour a day!!!

[nvmommyx6]

I run a tight ship here!! They are all on a points system, and each of them has a chore to do each day, it does help out a lot, but considering there is a full moon tomorrow night and that makes all men nutty LMAO
Then on top of it the 3 teenagers can be, well, teenagers!!
Example, yesterday it was my 12 year old daughters chore to bring in wood, this morning I noticed she brought in 3 pieces that are so freakin huge they wont even fit in the damned stove!!! So, I had to go get some more and normally, she never does crap like that!! Her brothers do!!
Then her brothers (15) chore was feeding and watering the dog, and he came in, " OMG WE ARE OUT OF DOG FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD" the most dramatic scene I have ever encountered, and he is one of the most masculine boy's I've ever seen!!!
And by the way, We were not out of dog foodROFLMAO

They do their chores and it is pretty normal, however, when I sit down to catch up here, try to build web pages, do some graphic art, read or anything else, it's like there is a magical magnet implanted in my ass and their brains, as soon as my butt hits the chair, "OMG Mom's sitting down, must go interrupt, must interrupt, must ask for something, must tattle tale" Like they are programed to never let me sit down!!!

[YankeeMom]

I get like that sometimes. My biggest gripe is EVERYONE from dh down to the littlest one, coming to me for EVERYTHING. They don't even look for something...they come & ask me where it is or do we have anymore xxx? Hello? Did you look for it?? "no". Look for it first, then if you can't find it come to me. Or God forbid they ask dh for something. Dh can be in the living room with the kids while I'm making dinner & one of them will come all the way in the kitchen to ask me for something they could have easily asked him! LOL

[The Muse]

I feel the same way. I work fulltime in a job that's on par with DH's, so it's not like he has a stressful job and I don't. I also have a longer commute.

Somehow though, I'm the one who does all the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, bill paying, errands, etc. He used the last of the TP in the downstairs bathroom and the roll stayed empty for 10 days, until I replaced it.

Last night, I was cooking dinner, baking his birthday cake, picking up, cleaning the cat box, lugging in and putting away groceries while he played on the computer. Our front walk is a sheet of ice because he didn't shovel it the other day so it froze over and he keeps hinting that I should buy rock salt, but I'm not biting this time. I was finally done with everything around 9:30. It makes me crazy!

You are *so* not alone.

[pollypurebred39]

I have hung the imaginary I'm not home sign up at times. I make an annoucement that unless there is bloodshed or the house is on fire they are all to consider me not home and if they fail to follow these orders there will be a grounding. And it works because I mean it, only needed to get grounded from the phone, TV and all gaming systems once to know that I meant business.

But really, the crumbs on the floor and dirty dishes can wait an hour while you curl up on the sofa with a cup of tea and a good book. Take an hour out of every school day for yourself.


Muse, I wouldn't buy salt either!

[UUMomof3]

Once I called my family on it. It helped that we'd just read a book that had proper victorian maids in it, so they knew where I was coming from. When they asked me for something, I'd give them the bob and the yes, sir or yes, miss. It only took about 15 minutes until DH sat down with the kids and discussed how Mommy had been treated lately.

I bet even stay at home Dads feel this way. It comes of being "at work" 24/7.

[lwlynch]

I am the same way.. mostly the worst is that they half--- stuff. I ask to do easy stuff and it gets done the wrong way or real quick. And since my hips are getting worse, it seems like I am asking all the time..
Hang in there, take a day off....

[G'MaDebbie]

I so feel your pain on this subject. I love it when my DH tells me they waited for me for dinner....YEAH, they waited alright...for me to COOK it!

[LastDragonfly]

CJ! Listen you need to call that family meeting! Do it on the full moon and tell everyone it is not their turn to be nutso that it's your turn.

It is also your turn to do something you WANT to do, not HAVE to do.

And as for all those requests that are last minute. Put a stop to them. I have a rule here. All requests must have a 24-48 hour notice.

They are taking advantage of you. Don't let them. I know everyone is on the point system, giving you some time that you don't have to be at their beckon call should qualify for some points. They don't do it. take points back.


Hugs girl

[MoonMommy]

Ah. I can often feel this way. I don't get angry at the kids so much as my Dh. I will see him taking cat naps during the day and it angers me because I never have time to do that. There is always something that needs to be done. On top of that, I can't remember the last time I actually slept through the night (due to Dh, 2 kids, and the 2 cats). So, I totally feel your pain. I was going to reply to the other post about feeling appreciated at your job, but I don't think they were talking about SAHMs so I didn't even read it. I did bring it up to my Dh and told him that I love my "job" but that I rarely feel appreciated.