That's so sad. I could never do that and I don't understand people that can. We had two cats when our son was born over 11 yrs ago and those cats loved him lol. We've gone through a few other pets in all of these years, each being his friend and our fur-kid. We've lost cherished pets, had strays adopt us, and we've adopted others. The little dog we have now is the daughter we've never had. Our son is a lover of animals and animals just flock to him for some reason and I think it's because he's always been around them and learned from day one to have a gentle touch and love them unconditionally like they do us.
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I have never thought of my dog's as anything other than "dog's"!!
Of course I take those practices she spoke of, "learning to tell them no" and such now, However, I did not have dog's until about a year ago!
It is sad when a person does that to an animal, not right.
I can see getting rid of an animal if it truely is a danger to the child, but otherwise, reteach it, old dogs can learn new tricks!!!
I agree that its better they give up their pets to be re-homed, i mean what are the dogs going to think, how are they going to understand that they are no longer loved.
you know what I don't think that hating your pet happens all that often when a baby is born. But there aresome people that can love only one thing at a time.......
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That was strange. I can't imagine people who loved their dogs now hating them. Hopefully they just weren't choosing their words well. Yes, the baby now becomes the priority, but hating the dog? I don't get it.
Maybe they don't hate them, probably more like resent them.
Infants are a lot of work, particularly high needs ones. I'm assuming these people are annoyed with things like being sleep-deprivied, just getting the baby to sleep, then realizing they forgot to do x,y,z with the dog and still have that to do. They start to think of excuses to get rid of the extra responsibility.
I had a friend who bought a baby parrot. The kind that lives for 60 years and needs a lot of attention. Well, the bird had plenty of love and attention, right up until the friend had 2 children (1 year apart). As soon as the babies came, the baby bird received no attention and naturally became jealous and starting nipping at people, (particularly children). I suggested that the friend sell the bird because she had no time for it (I could see what was happening to the bird and it was heart breaking). I'm more of a cat person, but I offered to buy the bird and give it a good home.
But she wanted more money than she paid for it, saying it was worth over $1200. I was willing to give her $100/month for a year (all I could afford at the time). It wasn't enough. Eventually, a year or more later when the bird had become seriously anti-social (not the bird's fault), she sold the bird to a pet store for $600. Then the pet store came after her to get the money back. They had tried placing the bird in 3 different homes but his biting was too much of a problem. They finally put the bird down, and all my friend was upset about was the money she was out.
To me, a pet is a lifetime responsibility, not just as long as it's convenient. They're not toys.
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I work with animal rescue, and I can tell you that "oh, I have a new baby" or "am expecting a new baby" is the number one excuse that people use to dump their animals. I don't think they hate them, but they certainly don't love them. I've seen animals that have been in homes 7 years or more dumped in a heartbeat. I don't even listen to the stories when I pick up the dogs, cats, etc (one parrot that had been bought as a baby and was now 17 years old). I don't try to make the people feel better and I'm very realistic with them about the chances of their pet finding a forever home.
One of the women at the county shelter does the same thing when people dump their animals. She tells them it is likely the animal is going to be killed, not adopted. They dump them anyway.
The worst thing I've seen, however, is a co-worker who had two beautiful little Shelties. They WERE her babies. She taught them to wipe their feet before coming in the house. They were always immaculately groomed. As soon as she had a baby, the dogs were relegated to the BASEMENT. She said it was because the female was older and getting incontinent. She had them both put down shortly afterward.
I don't see my animals as humans, but I do see them as completely at my mercy as their steward. As such, I have a responsibility, once I take them into my home, to guarantee them the best life I can give to them. That doesn't include getting rid of them because I've made other plans and not considered their needs as part of it.
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I have always had animals and wouldn't get rid of them unless there was a major problem that couldn't be resolved. Even when the kids were little we had pets our one cat is 17 yrs old and we have had her since she was a year old. I worked at an SPCA and was shocked by the amount of animals that we had to put down becase there is no one who wants them. I firmly believe in getting your animals fixed there are way to many unwanted pets as it is. All of our pets but 1 was rescued from the pound and I will continue to rescue animals from there.
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