Teenagers, I could just scream

**Nana2two** · 02-10-2009, 01:13 AM

Well most of you all have teens or will be having them in a short time. Well my 17 year old decides she is going to the valentines dance at school on Sat. She had seen a dress at a store but didnt have enough money at that time, well that evening my hubby and i had to go into town. so i went by gordmans, thats where the dress is ($30) she descrbes it to me. So she was thrilled when i brought it home. Now today she tells me she needs shoes,

im sick with chest cold and have a headache, hubby has to stay here to wait for the cable guy. I can't drive at night. Daughter is getting license next week so she has her permit. So i thought oh lordy help me, never drove at night with her, ( she did good). So we goto walmart because i had to get some cough meds. NO Shoes, i ask manager did they move the shoes, or is this it,3 rows of shoes, mens womens and kids. So we go to 4 other places even a thrift shop. NO SHOES. I got so fustrated tonight because why did she wait til the few days before the dance to get shoes. I told her she needs to wear the black ones in her closet or start calling her friends to see who wears a size 10 adult high heel shoe.Yes she has big feet.Her dress is kinda like a salsa style and its red but not a light or deep red .Any ways i had to vent. I have a nasty headache,,

On a happier note its going to be almost 70 here tomorrow.

**YankeeMom** · 02-10-2009, 08:16 AM

My 16yo (17 in July) does the SAME thing. Waits until the last minute for everything. Doesn't start her laundry or her homework until 7pm on Sunday night then it's "our fault" that she can't get it done in time because we won't let her stay up at all hours getting it done.

I always tell her "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on MY part".

**Momto2Boyz** · 02-10-2009, 08:20 AM

Tell her to get on the phone and call all her friends! It's a thriftier way to do it anyways, if she won't wear red dress shoes all that often!

I used to do that to my mom. I'm just waiting for my boys to tell me that they have a huge project due in the morning...one of these days, I'll get my payback!

**Spirit Deer** · 02-10-2009, 08:55 AM

We always used logical consequences. If it wasn't important enough for them to plan far enough ahead, then we did not go out of our way to fix it. It's amazing what missing out on a few things does for them when it comes to planning, when they have to accept the consequences and have no one to blame but themselves.

**Early Bird** · 02-10-2009, 09:16 AM

Originally Posted by YankeeMom

My 16yo (17 in July) does the SAME thing. Waits until the last minute for everything. Doesn't start her laundry or her homework until 7pm on Sunday night then it's "our fault" that she can't get it done in time because we won't let her stay up at all hours getting it done.

I always tell her "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on MY part".

We're going through similiar issues with my (almost) 15-yr-old.

**Early Bird** · 02-10-2009, 09:18 AM

Originally Posted by Spirit Deer

We always used logical consequences. If it wasn't important enough for them to plan far enough ahead, then we did not go out of our way to fix it. It's amazing what missing out on a few things does for them when it comes to planning, when they have to accept the consequences and have no one to blame but themselves.

That is brilliant. The big thing for my kids is that they have to REMEMBER what they missed out on last time ....

**Spirit Deer** · 02-10-2009, 09:57 AM

So true. The selective memory at that age is amazing!

**Patty A** · 02-10-2009, 11:23 AM

Yankeemom, I love you saying! "I always tell her "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on MY part".

I just printed it out and hung it on the fridge where everyone can see it. This is something I plan on making sure everyone around here reads and understands. From now on I think this will be my motto.....
I bet it will get people to think ahead and not bomb me with all the last minute crap!

Teen's seem to have this attitude that the last minute is the way to go, for EVERYTHING. It doesn't seem to matter that you tell them over and over, until they miss out on a few things from lack of planning they just don't get it. I have my kids schedule ALL things on the calendar, and if its not there.....they don't go. With all the schedules we work around its a must have here to know who is doing what and when. It makes life so much easier and it teaches them quickly to let you know what they are doing or it just doesn't happen!

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 02-10-2009, 12:48 PM

Ugggghhhh my 14 yr old dd has really been pushing her boundaries with me these past few mths. She acts like the world revolves around her. She also told me that I annoy her (thats my job), and she don't want rules lol. Its going to be a long couple of years......lol!!!!

**Suzy** · 02-10-2009, 01:03 PM

As of this month I will have 5 teenagers in my home. Boys ages 15,15,13,13 and a girl 13. 15 yo are step brothers, 13 are twins then my daughter. I have caught myself counting down the years til graduation and possibly out the house. Then on the good days I want to kick myself for rushing time.
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