He's calling again!....

**WV_mom_of2** · 03-16-2009, 09:13 AM

My no good, worthless brother is calling me again. He left me a message to call him this morning. Nope, not happening. Then when I was talking to my mom someone beeped in. I HATE call waiting and never answer it. As soon as it stopped beeping my mom said "hold on someone's beeping in" and yep, you guessed it, it was him LOL. She didn't answer either.

He hasn't called in months, not since the last time he needed something. He refuses to speak to us or acknowledge us in public. Then he thinks I'm going to do him a favor. Sorry buddy, big sister is all out favors!

**Greebo** · 03-16-2009, 09:25 AM

Stay tough!

**Cricketlegs** · 03-16-2009, 09:37 AM

Users will use you until you are all used up and then they move on.

Stay tough and he will have to move on. Hope your Mom is tough too.

Sorry, nothing hurts like bad family relationships.

**knitnmom** · 03-16-2009, 10:34 AM

This is especially hard when it's your mother and father-in-law! Now I cringe everytime my hubby says, "I talked to my parents today." I'm always waiting for that next "emergency" and they need money for...

I feel for you, I truly do!

**thefrug** · 03-16-2009, 10:40 AM

Keep your chin up! And keep your " No's" handy. Why is there always one in every family? We had a brother like that too. Never came around unless he wanted something and did nothing in return. My other brother and I did everything for our mom. *head shaking*
Hopefully he won't show up at the door!

**butterflygreen** · 03-16-2009, 10:43 AM

Sorrry you have to deal with that. stay strong.

**mombottoo** · 03-16-2009, 11:58 AM

I know what you mean, my no good, worthless baby sister used to call...she doesn't anymore because she is dead. What I wouldn't give to hear her voice on the other end of the phone again...even if it were just to hear her asking for something and me having to say no.

**Katybird** · 03-16-2009, 12:01 PM

Sorry that he is at again. Stay strong and keep him from using you and your Mom again.

**LastDragonfly** · 03-16-2009, 12:02 PM

I'm sorry, I have one too. Be strong!

**nvmommyx6** · 03-16-2009, 12:07 PM

Nice job standing up to him and not giving in, keep up the good work!

I hope this don't mean my sister is going to start calling....guess I'll know when the phone starts playing the "halloween" theme song!!!

**WV_mom_of2** · 03-16-2009, 01:19 PM

I think I probably know what he wants. I've actually been expecting this for a few days. My dd works at an after school job. She tutors elementary age kids at an after school program here. It's at the elementary/middle school and she then rides the activity bus home. The bus only comes so far this way. It pulls off the road about 2 miles from my house and I have to pick her up there.

My brother has the two nephews in this after school program. SIL doesn't allow them to come home if my brother isn't there. So he had them in the program and he'd stop by and pick them up at the school on his way through town from work. Middle nephew is playing baseball so he has to stay for the entire time now. So of course littlest nephew must be left there the entire time too. They started this last week and now ride the activity bus.

I drive past my brother's driveway on the way to meet this bus in the evenings. He lives within sight of the drop off point. I'd say he is wanting me to get them off the bus and then run them up his driveway to his house so he doesn't have to come out. Can you say LAZY???

Would it be a big thing for me to do that? No. BUT........you do one little simple thing for him and it turns into him calling EVERY day wanting something. Not to mention that some evenings I'm in a hurry to get home and get everyone fed, etc. And it would lead to my nephews wanting to come home with us, then HUGE screaming, kicking, cursing fits when I say no.

Some may find me cruel for not answering the phone, helping him out, etc. but after YEARS of this, I'm just over it. Poke me with a fork, I'm done!

**lvngwell** · 03-16-2009, 01:25 PM

Originally Posted by WV_mom_of2

Some may find me cruel for not answering the phone, helping him out, etc.

Not at all - I am proudof you for sticking up for yourself and your family!

**MomToTwoBoys** · 03-16-2009, 03:59 PM

I hate people like that. You're better off not acknowledging his existence. The moment that you do, he'll feed off of it like those sucker fishes in a fisk tank.