I Have to Do Something Hard Today....

**forHISglory** · 04-03-2009, 01:24 PM

I have to speak to a young man about the hurt he is causing several people, including me and my hubby. I love this young man very much, and it's going to be hard for me to say what I need to say. He has been making several accusations that are untrue. He writes letters with the accusations and makes them public. I can no longer allow this to continue. He thinks that he is being noble by saying these things, but in reality his words are stabbing people. He is not mentally ill; he truly believes that he is doing a good thing by pointing out our supposed sins. I believe that it is important that we address this and not let it continue.

I need to be very careful with my words. I cannot stoop to his level and to his attitude. And I don't want any hurt to come to his family because of the confrontation that I must do.

So if you think about it today, please pray that I be gentle, yet firm as I address this young man. I need wisdom and discretion. I don't want to compromise my own values or my Christian standards as I confront him.

Thanks!

**mombottoo** · 04-03-2009, 01:47 PM

Sometimes it's very hard to be gentle and direct at the same time. Hopefully, you are able to find the words you need to help this young man see the harm and pain he is causing others.

**Dancing Lotus** · 04-03-2009, 01:50 PM

You are doing the right thing and I hope that this man can see the errors in his ways

**ilovechocolate** · 04-03-2009, 01:51 PM

Please let us know how it turns out.

**cmdarlin** · 04-03-2009, 01:57 PM

God will help you find the way to do this. *hugs* My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Debbie

**WV_mom_of2** · 04-03-2009, 01:59 PM

I'll keep you in my thoughts today! Good luck!

**rosey7415** · 04-03-2009, 02:03 PM

good luck! hopefully the message will sink in.

**CrazyCat** · 04-03-2009, 02:26 PM

Good Luck~!

**ladykemma2** · 04-03-2009, 02:29 PM

Originally Posted by forHISglory

I have to speak to a young man about the hurt he is causing several people, including me and my hubby. I love this young man very much, and it's going to be hard for me to say what I need to say. He has been making several accusations that are untrue. He writes letters with the accusations and makes them public. I can no longer allow this to continue. He thinks that he is being noble by saying these things, but in reality his words are stabbing people. He is not mentally ill; he truly believes that he is doing a good thing by pointing out our supposed sins. I believe that it is important that we address this and not let it continue.

I need to be very careful with my words. I cannot stoop to his level and to his attitude. And I don't want any hurt to come to his family because of the confrontation that I must do.

So if you think about it today, please pray that I be gentle, yet firm as I address this young man. I need wisdom and discretion. I don't want to compromise my own values or my Christian standards as I confront him.

Thanks!

make sure you have another adult present, preferably the pastor of your church. and don't forget you have recourse to legal action for slander and libel.

**vigilant20** · 04-03-2009, 02:40 PM

I will be praying for you. I hope it is easier than we all fear. I agree it would be a good idea to have someone else present. The one time I managed to get myself into trouble in our church/school the youth pastor brought in someone else when he talked to me. Thinking about it later, I realized what a smart thing it was to do.