Why do they do this?

**fernykins** · 05-21-2009, 04:48 AM

My neighbor and friend lost her 22yo daughter the end of April. Her furneral was 2 weeks later. So I'm checking my email today and someone sent me a website that had over 500 pictures of her furneral. They are selling the pictures. Why would I want to buy pictures of the family and friends in all their grief. I don't get it. I just think its so tacky......
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**2ndGenGranola** · 05-21-2009, 05:12 AM

I have never seen a professional photographer at a funeral. I'm a little surprised at that. I'm not surprised at people taking pictures. I understand the practice does vary by culture/local and by faith. Many funerals I have attended have been a celebration of faith and cameras were present.

**khaski** · 05-21-2009, 07:02 AM

I have never heard of that and find that to be really LOW.

**Momto2Boyz** · 05-21-2009, 08:11 AM

I've never heard of that either. I have been at funerals where pictures were being taken, but they were always "tasteful". Like at my husbands grandfathers, everyone had put together a table of memories of him, photos, things he loved etc. And there were lots of pictures taken of it, which I get. It was a neat thing to see how everyone remembered him. But I couldn't imagine going to a funeral, then buying a "picture package" after the fact...seems a bit odd, but...to each his own!

**Jayne** · 05-21-2009, 09:54 AM

I find the this repulsive to say the least, but I do understand that to some people it is normal..sorry for your friends loss

**scrap_candles** · 05-21-2009, 10:10 AM

wow, someone was trying to sell funeral pictures? I agree that's pretty tacky. Now if it was just someone that had taken some and was sending a link sharing the photos I can kind of see that, because alot of times there are friends and relatives at a funeral you don't see often or from out of town and some others may want pictures of them. Were they really trying to profit from the pictures or was it a hosting site that when you post the sharing album it gives others the option to purchase the photos? If that's the case then sometimes you can't get rid of that part.

**Cricketlegs** · 05-21-2009, 10:12 AM

We take pictures of FAMILY at funerals(and NOT of the deceased) because it is often the only time huge groups of us get together.

That is just awful what is going on with this poor girl. Who would do such a thing and why????

**momof2joys** · 05-21-2009, 10:15 AM

I had a friend recently who lost her 3 year old son, they sent a link of the memorial video that was made for the funeral, that was interesting!!! But also very tackful and was a great tribute, to the little boy!

I have seen where pictures were taken by a professional at the funeral, but most of the time when I see that it is a pro bono thing and for the family only!!! The times I have seen pictures from a funeral (where professional is taking the pictures) have been in the case of small children who passed away from cancer or the like!!

Now, as for my family, funerals and weddings are about the only time our whole family gets together anymore, so we often do a lot of family type pictures, never with the body or anything, but usually outside the funeral home or church!!!

**Debbie-cat** · 05-21-2009, 10:12 PM

I think it is kind of morbid. Eeeew.

**miss_thrifty** · 05-21-2009, 10:21 PM

no offence but gross!!! i know years ago when my meme use to have the wake still in your house, i understood the pics being taken beacuse some family memebers couldnt always come home from away. early 1930-40. Id rather remeber someone when theyr were alive. and selling pics of them dead not when they were alive is tacky!!! i was wondering why theor selling the pics online anyways? whats the purpose is to help pay for the funeral?

**frugalfranny** · 05-21-2009, 11:39 PM

WHO sent you the website? Someone you know? And who are 'they' that are selling the pics? The family? If so........eeewww!

If family, do they need the money to pay for the funeral? Still seems a little weird.....there has been many times here where when announced on the news you can 'give' to a family through a bank for the funeral but sell pics?

**Palooka** · 05-21-2009, 11:52 PM

Okay, that is just freaky.

**norcalmommy** · 05-22-2009, 02:01 AM

WOW That is sad. I have seen several close friends have photos taken a their loved ones funerals. But the photos were for the parents, not anyone else. Selling photos is just wrong.

**NewLeaf** · 05-22-2009, 07:49 AM

My grandmother had some very old photos of deceased relatives back when they still held a wake/funeral in the home. I think it was a "normal" thing to do way back then. I found them when I was about 13 yrs old and it freaked me out bad. But they were not displayed, they were her private pictures. It is hard to understand why anyone would want a picture of the deceased. I would prefer to remember them while they were alive.

The only thought I had about the website sellling pictures is that maybe they were raising money for the funeral????? It seems morbid and really sad.

**Grainlady** · 05-22-2009, 08:10 AM

I have attended LOTS of funerals in my life, made the funeral arrangements for both of my parents, and have served as a cemetery sexton for 20-years, and have never heard of selling pictures of a funeral.

It's not uncommon for pictures of a funeral to be taken, normally for the benefit of a family member who couldn't attend or to document the occasion. A friend of mine opened a new mortuary and they do a state-of-the-art video of the funeral service for the family - $$$.

My mother couldn't attend the funerals of her parents. My aunt took pictures and sent them to my mother - Mom burned them. It wasn't how my mother wanted to remember her parents.

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