This is awful

**nodmicks** · 07-01-2009, 12:02 PM

I just had to report child abuse/neglect with one of my children's friends once I found out whom to call. I still feel like vomiting after what was told to me!

I hope this makes it better and not in any way worse!

**ktsmama** · 07-01-2009, 12:03 PM

You did the right thing!!!

Good luck.

**nodmicks** · 07-01-2009, 12:05 PM

Originally Posted by ktsmama

You did the right thing!!!

Good luck.

Thanks Robbin. I just hope they actually help the child it is a lot of red tape sometimes.

**prairiewife** · 07-01-2009, 12:06 PM

I know reporting them must have been difficult, but you did the right thing for the child. Hope it all works out.

**nodmicks** · 07-01-2009, 12:09 PM

Originally Posted by prairiewife

I know reporting them must have been difficult, but you did the right thing for the child. Hope it all works out.

Oh no not hard at all reporting it. I hope the parent gets back everything they dished out to that child. Karma is a b!tch.

I'm just afraid because of who it is that it may not be taken seriously and after it is investigated the kids life could be worse. Does that make sense? I am worried sick over this child.

**Greebo** · 07-01-2009, 12:17 PM

Can you shed any details? It might make it easier to judge the likelihood of your report being taken seriously. No names or anything, but the nature of the abuse, what you reported, etc.

**nodmicks** · 07-01-2009, 12:51 PM

Greebo here is a nut shell of what happened~
My kiddo never goes to their house he always comes here btw. The kid is rarely allowed over as he is always grounded it seems.

This kid is 6 ft 4 at least and so skinny his lower arms are bigger than his upper arms and when they swim I see bones clearly. He has gotten thinner and thinner as he got taller. Seemed normal. Lots of teens are stick thin so I never thought a thing of it. I just marveled that he ate like a horse while here and was unbearably thin. He seems to have headaches alot when he comes over and feel sick but it later seems to go away. Never thought much of it either I'm ashamed to say.

After I dropped the young man off late last night I said something to my son about I was glad to see the young man sure likes to eat dinner as he ate 3 huge plates full. He had stayed the night before and ate a HUGE breakfast and a HUGE lunch and a few snacks here and there. It has taken years of this kid coming over to convince him just to help himself if he is hungry. No need to ask.

After my comment to my son about how I was glad too see the young man liked dinner my son got very quite. I asked what was up. He didn't want to say but he was clearly upset.

He informed me that his dad barely let him eat at home. I asked him if he meant junk food or real food. Ds told me all food. His dad wouldn't let him eat enough to be full (or at all) but that the parents and the young step brother could have all they want. There is no lack of food as both parents are obese. Ds clearly stated that everyone but him eats all they want and he has gotten in trouble really bad for sneaking food because he is super hungry.

I had problems with the school lunch account with extra charges this year towards the end of the school year. Ds will not eat school lunch 99% of the time and I pack him a lunch but we kept having charges with his pin number. Ds fessed up last night that he ate his cold lunch but went through the line and got a hot lunch for his buddy. His buddy ate his hot lunch and ds's hot lunch. I need to call the school and apologize, explain what was happening and pay for the charges they dropped because ds said he ate cold lunch (though now I know he took a hot lunch for his friend too). I told ds he should have told me the truth! He said his buddy made him promise not to tell why he was so hungry.

I asked him to please tell me anything else he promised not to tell because I promised to only tell someone that would help his friend because it sounds like he really needs help. He informed me that his buddy had told him quite a few times that he was punched full force in the chest and had the breath knocked out of him and hit hard enough on his head to make him feel really sick and dizzy. I asked ds how many times his friend had told him this and ds said " a lot and that sometimes that was why he missed school."

Now you see why I am so sick over this! That was exactly what I reported. My ds is a young teen btw.

**fernykins** · 07-01-2009, 01:09 PM

Well I hope and pray that they do something........ Why wouldn't they beleive it is happening....... Some people should never have children. I hope the parents get what is coming to them......... You did the right thing...... No child should go hungery, or be abused
Fern

**ladykemma2** · 07-01-2009, 01:11 PM

truly truly psycho.

having grown up in a house like this, you did the right thing.

**nodmicks** · 07-01-2009, 01:14 PM

Ds says his chest is really bruised so I hope that is proof.

**Greebo** · 07-01-2009, 01:19 PM

I think if the CPS people walk in and see that 1 child is malnourished while the others are fat? They're gonna immediately believe the worst is possible.

This kind of behavior on the part of parents is abhorrent. THANK YOU for doing the right thing!

I'm sure if you explain to the school what you've discovered, that they will line up behind you in support of your actions, too.

**nodmicks** · 07-01-2009, 01:41 PM

Originally Posted by Greebo

I think if the CPS people walk in and see that 1 child is malnourished while the others are fat? They're gonna immediately believe the worst is possible.

This kind of behavior on the part of parents is abhorrent. THANK YOU for doing the right thing!

I'm sure if you explain to the school what you've discovered, that they will line up behind you in support of your actions, too.

I sure hope so! I feel beyond horrible for not paying closer attention earlier.

He is so thin but I just figured he had always been thin and it was because he had gotten so tall so fast. I was a teen that was very underweight so just didn't think.

I sure wish I had paid much closer attention much earlier.

**pinetree** · 07-01-2009, 01:46 PM

This is a wake up call for some of us, maybe we need to pay more attention, ( brings to mind some kids that are extra thin, that I know, could maybe need help )

Thanks for doing the right thing. Hopefully he can get some help. Theres been too many kids slipping through the cracks lately.

**FrugalMomof3** · 07-01-2009, 01:54 PM

Gosh that is so heartbreaking to read, I sure hope someone does something for that poor boy, all he needs is love and some food. Gosh makes me want to cry.

You know with that being said, I am a person who believes in smacking a child (please dont get angry or comment on this) BUT when I say smacked I mean a smack on the butt (as a young child) or taking a privilege away as they get older but hitting a child beyond the normal smack is totally absurd, it breaks my heart. Also, NOT letting one child eat but another can eat all they want is totally and completely CHILD ABUSE and you did the right thing, dont think twice about it at all.

BTW seems your son was just trying to be a friend with all this and God Bless his heart for being a true friend.