Needing to Vent

**Nana2two** · 07-08-2009, 02:49 PM

Ok here is the story I have had a friend for 8 years. She left to go overseas becuae of hubs work. moved back just about 2 years ago. Things are not the same. She has said some nasty things about me i have said some about her, I have come clean and layed it on the table and was honest and she believes she has done nothing wrong and refuses to apologize she is very vain, she can't stand when she is told NO.So for that know me im bipolar and have been in counsling and my counslor said in was best for me to back away and give it at least 6 months and see how i felt about the friendship. Well i have not missed her, infact alot of stress is gone. She has call me several times asking me if i thought the friendship could be saved and started again and i told her not at this time, well that was 3 months ago. well monday she calls leaves a message, i didnt call her back, she calls a few hours later from her cell, i didnt answer it, Then she calls from her home. I answer.. she was acting has if we had not a care in the world, asking me how my life was, i wold i was happy and my life for once was taking me in the right direction. after 20 minutes of this, she ask me so ya think we can best friends again i said NO. Im sorry i can't have you in my life you have caused so much stress on my marriage on my life. But i wish you the best, God bless.

I get up this morning checking my myspace to find a message from a mutal friend That said, that said Tina, have you read such and such's myspace header and i said no. so i search her name. and has call me a a crazy pysco biotch,for me to stop calling her. HELLOOOOO.OH MY GOSHH.I got up and went to a ativan cause i knew my anxiety was going to hit me. I though whatever,. it does tick me, i don't so much worry about the name calling its stop calling me leave ME ALONE.Goes back to me telling he NO and she didnt like that. For the first time in life i took control of something and it felt really good, i was proud of my self. Thanks for listening.

**jlaporte** · 07-08-2009, 03:03 PM

u go lady! im proud of u. proud of anyone who can stand up for themselves in ur situation. i love all the myspace stuff n all that but really some pppl just use it to b mean and nasty. dont let it get to u it isnt worth it. ppl like that will get what they deserve its called karma. good for u keep it up!

**MommyBliss** · 07-08-2009, 03:18 PM

Good for you! I'm sorry she has done this to you. That's awful, but you are the better person in this situation!

**bonnotsm9** · 07-08-2009, 03:45 PM

Sorry for your troubles. Sounds like you are better off without her.

**Cricketlegs** · 07-08-2009, 03:48 PM

Just let it go and continue on with your life. Some people have to create drama wherever they go but we can step away from it which drives the drama person crazier than if you had gotten a rise out of them.

She does it to get confirmation from you--don't give it.

If your child was throwing a hissy fit for a cookie would you give them one?

**omalleyc** · 07-08-2009, 03:54 PM

Next time she calls, tell her "I'm not your mama and I don't need the drama!". Ok, not really, it just popped in my brain and I had to say it. I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself and doing what's healthy for you. That's not an easy thing to do. She just wants attention by the name-calling so ignore her and she'll go away soon enough. Good job!

**Nana2two** · 07-08-2009, 04:52 PM

Omall, i liked the saying. She once said no one ever tells her NO. I guess thats why has been married ( hold up 2 feet minus 2 toes) = 8 x

**ml2620** · 07-08-2009, 04:59 PM

The best revenge is to look better, be happier and never let them know you care!

**nodmicks** · 07-08-2009, 05:28 PM

I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself! I'm sorry she is such a b@tch.

**rowdy35** · 07-08-2009, 06:10 PM

hang in there, she was only doing it to get a reaction from you. don't give her the satisfaction because you are better than that.

**strezzed** · 07-08-2009, 06:11 PM

Wow! Well that's a definite confirmation that you did the right thing by dropping her. Besides, people who know you would also know that what she wrote is untruthful. The less drama, the better.

**2ndGenGranola** · 07-08-2009, 06:34 PM

You made the right choice.

**onencgirl** · 07-08-2009, 06:49 PM

Look up BULLY in the dictionary and you'll find her picture.

**frugalwarrior** · 07-08-2009, 06:59 PM

Your friendship sounds more like a codependant relationship nana. Her being away and your counceling has given you the oppertunity for a new perspective. It sounds like you changed the rules by growing stronger. I would bet she was always the boss in the realtionship. Bipolar disorder causes enough drama you probably don't need a childish friend to placate too. Children call people names and always try to get their way.Adults make concious,weighted decisions like you did.Congratulations. Unfortunately people don't grow at the same rate. If she calls you again to be rude simply state " Iam sorry you feel that way but I don't have time for this. Then hang up. Expect a tantrum and have pity. It's all she knows.

**Luckybustert** · 07-08-2009, 07:05 PM

WOW. Sounds like she's the crazy pysco biotch and you're better off with her out of your life. Hang in there - you are stronger and better than she is!