Thinking about quitting my night job

**ttistin** · 08-29-2009, 02:34 AM

i am thinking about quitting my nite job. It is from 10pm till 2am. by the time I get home and go to bed it is about 3am. I then have to get up for the kids. It is kicking my butt!! I am so tired all the time and I am not the mom I want to be.

I start my job at the school on weds and school starts on the 8th.

I am thinking about telling my boss that I will not be back. It is an extra almost 200 a week but i am thinking that if we tighten up and with my small pay from the school we should be ok.

I am worried about Christmas though, but I know i wouldn't work there during the winter because of the weather (central NY)

What would you do?

**frugalfranny** · 08-29-2009, 02:39 AM

If you are sure you will be okay then do what you want.

Can you tighten up enough to make Xmas too? Can you find something else close to home to fill the gap.......maybe with even less pay?

**mauimagic** · 08-29-2009, 02:58 AM

A hard decision. Your words about not being the mother you want to be really hit my heart. Go with your gut feelings. No matter what - you will survive Christmas - as will your children - you don't have to set or break records for gifts for anyone or for any reason.

**Greebo** · 08-29-2009, 06:41 AM

Are you able to tighten up enough to do without the $10,400 a year you'll be giving up? That is over $800 a month after all - that'd make a big hit on our budget, I know.

What can you or your husband (?) do to make up for that income loss? Its a big amount, when you look at the over all total.

**MaryCarney** · 08-29-2009, 07:50 AM

How about a NAP every afternoon? If your kids are old enought to go to school, they should be old enough to let you take a nap after school when you need it.

Are your children doing their fair share around the house, or are you trying to be everyone's maid and laundress, too??? I don't know your particulars, I'm just throwing the possibility out there.

I know all about sleep-deprived, I work all night long (just got home in fact) and lack of proper rest makes your life horrible.

**shoiji** · 08-29-2009, 11:12 AM

Any chance you could work from home to help create extra cash. Some people on this website do surveys. Might be an option to think about. Then would not have to worry about leaving the evening job and having to tighten the budget. Just a thought and possibly another option for you.

I know what it is like to be working so much you are constantly tired and not the person you want to be.

**Debbie-cat** · 08-29-2009, 11:24 AM

Tough decision. It is alot of money to lose each year but you also have to be happy and have the energy to take care of your family. I am sure you will make the right decision for yourself. Good luck and keep us posted.

**WV_mom_of2** · 08-29-2009, 11:25 AM

I'd stay another month or so and put all of that money back to pay for Christmas. Then I'd quit!

HUGS!

**Nana2two** · 08-29-2009, 04:37 PM

That is huge amount of income. But i can understand the need and desire to stay at home .I wish u the best. Hope it all works out in the end.

**Persimmon Lace** · 08-29-2009, 07:02 PM

I would reduce Christmas giving and quit.

**Jeanna** · 08-29-2009, 07:36 PM

I think we can all give you advice but the truth is you are the only one who truly knows your families financial sitution. I just posted how I hate my new job and am going to quit. However, I am working toward working from home again because although I hadn't worked in a while I need to contribute to the income coming in. From a mothers stand point I would say quit, but that would just be my opinion. Hope you make the best decision. Good Luck.

**dcompton** · 08-29-2009, 07:40 PM

The suggestion to tough it out another month -- if you are physically able to -- is a good one in my opinion. Yes. Put the money back for Christmas, and in the meanwhile for that month you can see if you can make ends meet without that income.

Do you have sufficient emergency fund to manage the unexpected if you quit and are living on a tight budget?

However, money aside, sleep deprivation is very unhealthy, physically and emotionally. If it takes too great a toll, you may have no option but to try to find something else.

**ttistin** · 08-29-2009, 08:37 PM

well I do have another job, it is in a school lunchroom. It is about 14,000 a year. It is from 10 till 1. So I will have that pay coming in plus I am thinking about doing after school daycare. Seeing how I live 1/2 mile from school and I will be home anyway, plus it would be a little extra income.

Not sure if I mentioned but the night job is 6 days a week, tonight (sat) my only night off.

**lilk** · 08-30-2009, 05:31 AM

I say if you can swing it, then quit. I'd explain to the children that you all have to make some sacrafices, for you to quit your night job. And you have to reduce the Christmas budget, after all Christmas is not about things. It's about love, and you obviously love your family very much.
Good luck with your decision.

**xtena** · 08-30-2009, 12:49 PM

Night jobs suck and even more so for mothers. If it were me and I was absolutely sure we could get by without that money I would probably quit, but I'm not suggesting you do so. How stable is your other job and DH's job? Do you have a huge debt burden? I am reluctant to advise anyone to quit a job in a shaky economy but if it's affecting your family and your health... Crunch the numbers, discuss it with your DH and follow your heart.