Does your DH/DW/SO read your blog?

**Minner77** · 09-30-2009, 11:52 PM

I ask because I've been toying with the idea of starting a blog, but I'm darn sure that my DH would read it, which would really limit my freedom in writing, I think. Not that it would be all about him, but I would be overly self-conscious.

He travels a lot, but when he's not on the road he's home, as in around the house, so would definitely know if I were posting, making it very difficult to be sneaky (not that that's necessarily a good policy anyway, I suppose).

So how do you bloggers handle this, wanting to write about your lives or things that interest you, wanting to mention your significant others (and perhaps vent about them on occasion (gasp!), but not necessarily wanting them to know all about it? Or am I just out to lunch here?

**WV_mom_of2** · 10-01-2009, 07:44 AM

How would he know you had a blog? I am not very good with computers but would he have to know? Can he tell that you have one just by getting on the computer?

I don't think it's bad to want something for yourself. My dh doesn't even know how to connect to the internet so I don't have to worry about it LOL.

**nancycg56** · 10-01-2009, 07:48 AM

My DH knows I have a blog and doesn't even know how to get to it. Sometimes I'll point something out to him but he never reads it.

**2ndGenGranola** · 10-01-2009, 08:21 AM

I only vent under cutesy screen names to other "anonymous" people not under my everyday name to people who would know him. I think it would be kind of rude to vent to people who would know him. Would you want him to vent when you _ , _ or _ ? Would you want your girl friends knowing you _ or _?

**Holding Pattern** · 10-01-2009, 09:28 AM

We share everything. When I finish writing a blog I will usually read it to her, she's my censor when mine is 'out to lunch'
I would never write anything that would potentially hurt her or our relationship. My theory is this: if it is important enough to put on the internet for everyone else to read, why would I not want my spouse, the closest person in my life, to read it? If we have a problem, the last thing I am going to do is announce it to the world...maybe ask a question on a board like this but I would never blog about her and hope that she did not read it.

**SimpleLinda** · 10-01-2009, 10:08 AM

Just started my blog yesterday, but it's about our lives together as a family, no, it never entered my mind to not want my dh not to read my blog, he is my best friend, he is who I tell all my secrets to, even vent to when I feel the need.

**Debbie-cat** · 10-01-2009, 10:14 AM

I started my blog at the beginning of September. My DH, DS, my Mom and everyone else I know back in Canada reads it. Since they (Mom and brother and friends) are so far away, it is like they are here and know what we do each day.

I don't vent on my blog. If I have to vent about DH, DS or my Mom....I use madhen!

**Telephus44** · 10-01-2009, 10:32 AM

I read my DH's blog - I rarely blog on mine though. I keep thinking I need to post more often.

Neither of us blog about our personal relationship, but occasionally will blog about family in very general terms or parenting.

**Minner77** · 10-01-2009, 06:06 PM

Good thoughts, everyone. Thanks.

It has nothing to do with how close we are or how much we respect each other. DH is so private he wouldn't want our family to be mentioned at all... and, I wouldn't be able to talk much about my life without mentioning him or our kids, so maybe the mere existence of a blog would be disrespectful to him -- unless I chose to write about one of my hobbies instead. (He'd probably already have a cow that I post here on FV.) But what intrigues me is emotions, and that's what I would like to explore, and relationships definitely fall into that realm.

I'm thinking perhaps of sticking with private journaling, at least so far as doing any emotional exploration. For other things, perhaps I could consider a blog. (What, like anyone would read it?)

**AmyBoz** · 10-01-2009, 06:37 PM

My dh reads my blog every night. My blog is about family life...the good, the bad and the ugly. That being said, I wouldn't use it to vent about dh. I don't think it would be respectful to him and I know he wouldn't like it.

He's very private and has asked me not to post pictures of him on the blog. I can talk about him, but no pictures. I have asked if I can post some of him as a kid for an anniversary blog I'll be doing this weekend. He's thinking about it.

It's his image...I think he has every right to say "No thanks..." Kinda like the discussion we all had about someone posting pictures of you on Facebook.