complication in going back to work...LONG

**sahm2boys** · 10-16-2009, 10:55 AM

Hi

i was let go in april, i went home with strep throat. i got a call the next morning from hr asking how i was and then she said she didnt really call to see how i was but to terminate me...i said for what? and she said that was her question as well and all she got was me missing time and she admitted that that this new management guy mumbled about me being late, me not working up to par, and me missing time...well i had just been promoted. i was just told that my last 2 month reports were execellent..but as usual the boss that hired me and worked well with me was let go and then i get this new guy who never really liked me for some reason and i was told he didnt like me..he never said if i was doing something wrong the only time he said something to me was working faster on the invoices and the only reason i was working a bit slower was to make it last all day because the company was NOT paying the invoices and all we were getting were demand letters...the company was laying off alot of people at the time.. i always get a good job and then management changes and im screwed..well i had missed a few days because the babysitters mother died and she took a week off i had to find a new baby sitter and then they got sick a few weeks later and then i got the strep throat..the week they let me go we were closing on our first house so needless to say we lost that.

any how ..the unemployment is running out and i need a job...and i think i really have some interest coming back but i have some issues...even if i get 12.00 and hour thats 480.00 a week but childcare is 280.00, taxes, gas, healthcare (we dont have any) i will be in the hole...how do people do this and make money to pay bills..child care eats the whole paycheck...plus when i was working i was soooo stressed out...i was up at 5:3 dropped the kids off at 7 at work at 8 leave at 5 at the kids at 6 home at 6:30 then i had dinner, cooking, bed for the kids, bath times, cleaning i was exhausted!! and there just wasnt enough time in the day i dont know how people do it

any thoughts or advice??

**Lora88** · 10-16-2009, 12:43 PM

You really need to do the math and find out if it pays to go to work 2 kids in daycare is really expensive You are making it now iwth unemployment how much are you getting ? You need to find a way to lower your expenses close to that amt. and cut back way back or find some part time work when your husband can watch the kids. Good luck I know its tough

**NikoSan999** · 10-16-2009, 12:49 PM

Check with the unemployment office. This was extended at the state/federal ( whichever ) level. All told now it can be up to I believe 59 weeks. Maybe 72 if the last one went thru also. You may have a reprieve.

Check on babysitting for others. Sounds like you would mae more with taking care of one kid than working.

**sahm2boys** · 10-16-2009, 01:53 PM

Originally Posted by NikoSan999

Check with the unemployment office. This was extended at the state/federal ( whichever ) level. All told now it can be up to I believe 59 weeks. Maybe 72 if the last one went thru also. You may have a reprieve.

Check on babysitting for others. Sounds like you would mae more with taking care of one kid than working.

how do i find out about the 59 weeks?
i have been getting it since april im on my second extension which they said was the last one unless the third extension was passed

**ladytoysdream** · 10-16-2009, 02:09 PM

You do a google search. Here's yours for your state.

http://www.vec.virginia.gov/vecporta...s/insunemp.cfm

**frugal is fun** · 10-16-2009, 02:19 PM

is there anyone who can watch your kids for less money? If I had to pay a day care center I would be at a loss too. Luckily I have a friend who watches my son for a few hours every afternoon and hardly charges me anything. She is a true blessing to me.

good luck!

**sahm2boys** · 10-16-2009, 02:44 PM

Originally Posted by frugal is fun

is there anyone who can watch your kids for less money? If I had to pay a day care center I would be at a loss too. Luckily I have a friend who watches my son for a few hours every afternoon and hardly charges me anything. She is a true blessing to me.

good luck!

i want a daycare or a preschool facility for the boys to go to for education purposes and that was a church i called..its was 145 wk for the youngest and 135 a wk for the oldest

my unemployemnt is now through the end of november yay

**sahm2boys** · 10-16-2009, 02:50 PM

Originally Posted by sahm2boys

i want a daycare or a preschool facility for the boys to go to for education purposes and that was a church i called..its was 145 wk for the youngest and 135 a wk for the oldest

my unemployemnt is now through the end of november yay

the reason i want the educational facility is my oldest is WILD and can be really unruly and hes been at babysitters since 6 weeks old off and on and he was behaving really really bad and now i have him in a part time preschool through the county (which wouldnt work if im working it was 157 for the school year every wed and thur 9:30-12) and im noticing some big changes in his behavior

**baxjul** · 10-16-2009, 03:25 PM

Could you find a home daycare provider for cheaper? I run an in home daycare, and the children in my care get just as much education (if not more) than a center. Plus, they get more one-on-one attention.

**NikoSan999** · 10-16-2009, 03:50 PM

Originally Posted by sahm2boys

how do i find out about the 59 weeks?
i have been getting it since april im on my second extension which they said was the last one unless the third extension was passed

I just finished tier 1 which is the firt 20 weeks. I am now on tier 2 which is 7 weeks. After that is EB ( extended benefits ) of 20 weeks. This is total of 47 weeks ( obviously, sorry )

After that is another I believe 20 at the state or federal level if the unemployment level is at 9 or 10 % in the state. This is what my unemployment lady told me couple weeks ago. So that is 47 for sure and possibly another 20. There was also another round that went thru and I do believe passed for another 20 weeks. Again, depending on unemployment level in your state.

So possibly 87 weeks.Get on your website for your state. Or if you have an office make an appointment and talk to them. You need to know how long you have. Just common sense.

**forHISglory** · 10-16-2009, 05:23 PM

You have a lot to think about. I agree that you need to check your benefits to know exactly where you stand. Seems like it would not pay you to go back to work at this time with the high cost of child care. It would seem that a good idea would be to offer childcare in your own home and make some extra money that way. However, if your child is on the wild side, then it may be difficult to find parents who are willing to let their child stay. Keep us posted with what you decide and what you find out.

**sahm2boys** · 10-16-2009, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by NikoSan999

I just finished tier 1 which is the firt 20 weeks. I am now on tier 2 which is 7 weeks. After that is EB ( extended benefits ) of 20 weeks. This is total of 47 weeks ( obviously, sorry )

After that is another I believe 20 at the state or federal level if the unemployment level is at 9 or 10 % in the state. This is what my unemployment lady told me couple weeks ago. So that is 47 for sure and possibly another 20. There was also another round that went thru and I do believe passed for another 20 weeks. Again, depending on unemployment level in your state.

So possibly 87 weeks.Get on your website for your state. Or if you have an office make an appointment and talk to them. You need to know how long you have. Just common sense.

when i called this afternoon and asked how much time i have it was 6 more weeks which would make it something like 33 weeks i think total..i asked if there was anymore and he said no, that he hasnt heard of anymore

**lisaflex** · 10-16-2009, 06:55 PM

good luck to you. i dont have any answers, wish i did

**ladytoysdream** · 10-16-2009, 07:15 PM

If you go to the link in my above post...
which I found by doing a google search for
unemployment insurance benefits and your state...
this is what I just found.
__________________________
Emergency Unemployment Compensation:
Provides up to 20 weeks of temporary emergency unemployment compensation benefits

**Greebo** · 10-17-2009, 06:05 AM

You're on unemployment - you're at home making no income - and...

You are paying for childcare?

WHAT?

Yeah, I read your rationale for it - but you are home! Who can do a better job training your kids in how to behave in a way you feel is appropriate than you?

Really, really confused by the "logic" here...