Don't want to decorate this year.

**mauimagic** · 11-26-2009, 02:30 AM

I have felt the same in years past, but have always put some decorations up. This year DH and I are going to decorate this coming weekend - I'll be home the month of December recovering from surgery, so I am definitely going to appreciate festivities around me.

**miss_thrifty** · 11-26-2009, 08:27 AM

no ur not a bad parent. Then id have to be th worst at the times lol since my oldest(17) only wants to do things with me when he has nothing else better to do it seems. me and hubby try all the time and ask wnat to play wii, watch movie? once in awhile. its more important to be witgh friends and on messenger or text messaging on his phone. ughh lol
So be as it may im trying to find new ideas instaed of just watching a movie on christmas eve, and drinking egg nog and hot choc. the kids were suppose to tell me this weekend what idea they come up with this year.
huggsss dear, i hope u feel more festive soon.

**sinopa27** · 11-27-2009, 06:40 AM

Take the year off if you wish. Try something different that YOU want to do. Maybe you will get into the Christmas spirit. Besides, its really a birthday celebration and it has become so commercial now. So...enjoy the simplicity of Christmas this year!
I thought my teenager was the only one being selfish.

**Mummy2** · 11-27-2009, 09:20 AM

My Christmas spirit is seriously lagging! I have to shake myself out of it and make do with the best of it. I dont have teenagers yet but DS8 just informed my Nana that I was Santa, my little spirit went out. I still have to work at it this year to still make it special for the kids, we dont have family around and Dh will be working Christmas day and it will just be kids and me during the day. I cant watch the holiday comercials and I was tearing up at the news last night.

I am going to have to find me some Christmas happy pills or something!

**cab54** · 11-27-2009, 02:49 PM

I don't feel like decorating either.....so I'm NOT!

Actually, we (dh and me) are up at our cabin (hiding) this year, and I don't plan on decorating.....I am going to ship our gifts (worth the cost to me)........NOT decorate (not even a tree or wreath)......not make the MOUNDS of food I normally make........not have people over.........sit in my jammies and watch Ralphie (Christmas Story) all day.

But in the past, I have had to do all of that stuff (above), every year, in spades.

This is what I do when I'm not in the Christmas mood......

What I suggest is take a deep breath, go to the basement (or wherever your stuff is) and take up just what you can hold in one armload. Put it up/out/on/around your house. The next day, go to the basement and get only what you can hold/carry. Do the same and so on and so on......

What I'm saying is......don't try to do it all at once. Just do a little at a time, and then block it out of your mind. Tomorrow is another day..... And when Christmas comes, if there are a few things that you haven't brought up and decorated with......TOUGH! LOL! That's right---at least you've done SOMETHING.

This is what I've done the past few years and it doesn't make it seem like such a chore! Just do a liiiiiiiittttttttllllllleeeeee bit each day! Give it a try.

**Ali Lee** · 11-27-2009, 04:19 PM

Teens-been there done that. I always said...."I hope I live long enuff-to see the day they like me again". And it will come--hang in there. Santa lives in your heart..Merry Christmas, kiddo.

**sabrelvssammy** · 11-28-2009, 07:10 PM

i am feeling the 'i don't want to decorate myself either bug'....although i don't have any kids left in the house i always went way over the top for when relatives and friends visit...and i just enjoyed the heck out of looking at it all... but this year...i don't feel it...and i am having a hard time trying to talk myself into 'wanting' to do it... it's not that i am sad or feeling blue or anything like that...i just plain don't want to be bothered with getting it all out/putting it up/taking it down....i have gone as far as to get 40 boxes out of the attic (yup..i go that crazy)..and they are lined up in the garage..(and there's still a ton more up in the attic)..but that's as far as they have gotten...and i made myself drag them all down hoping i would start to get excited seeing all the stuff sitting there... but quite frankly...i'm not excited.....

there really is nothing wrong with taking a year off....and just being a 'minimilist'....and maybe that will be the route i take this year.... i do know if i don't 'catch' the bug soon i am blowing off the decorating fiasco coz the amount of work i go to with all the stuff is not worth waiting til the last minute....
i guess i will just have to wait and see what happens....

**IntlMom** · 11-28-2009, 07:43 PM

I'm with you on this one. We will put up the tree and that's it. If anyone wants any more than that, THEY are going to have to take the initiative.

I'm SO ok with this.

**Mom23boys** · 11-28-2009, 11:30 PM

You are not a bad parent. I went through the same thing last year where I was not in the Christmas spirit. I felt bad for DS#3 because he still loves decorating the tree and DS#2 loves to decorate the outside. It took me a while, but as Christmas grew closer, I finally accepted the fact that it was going to happen whether I wanted it to come or not so the boys got to work and put everything together about a week before Christmas without my help. I did not want to deprive them of receiving the Christmas spirit. I am not sure exactly why I felt the way I did, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone in feeling this way. Things are different this year. I feel much better and even put the tree up the day before Thanksgiving. DS#2 and #3 even put everything up in the front yard and on the house. Everyone pitched in to help, even DH who usually lets the boys do it themselves because they enjoy it so much.

I hope that as Christmas grows closer that you and your children will find the time to fill your house with Christmas spirit.