Agghh - families

**Backtoreality** · 11-25-2009, 11:45 PM

Sorry my friends, I don't post much, but this is really getting to me...this will be long.

Alittle back ground. My Sis-in-law was diagnosis with a serious CA on Labor Day weekend. And I do mean serious. I have been stopping by almost every day before work for the last few months to help out her and her DH. Well, a few weeks ago; they mention something about Thanksgiving and how different it was going to be. My DH & I offered to cook Thanksgiving dinner and have them over, or cook dinner and send food over. They live about 1 mile away and their children could have picked it up. Anyway, they said great and called their grown children and we made it a plan.

Last Friday I bought a 20+ pound turkey (@ 39 cents/pound!!!), called my kids and asked them to provide a side dish, etc. Between our 2 kids and their family we were going to have around 12-15 people. Yesterday I went to the grocery and spent another $50 on extras.

After 10pm last night my DH called and said that "they changed their minds and are ordering dinner from HyVee!" Even at this hour tonight, no one has called me and said anything.!!!! I'M SO P%#& O!!

In whose world is it okay to change plans within 36 hours and not even call??? And here's the kicker - I was there on Monday morning helping them out for an hour and no one said a word to me!!!

So I'm sitting here with alot of food and plans for only 4 -6 people coming. I was so upset this am, my stomach was in knots. Luckily my DH and I usually help each other rise above the people around us, and that is what he has done today. (Bless his heart)

**Molemommy** · 11-25-2009, 11:54 PM

That is just plain RUDE! Sorry to hear that they done this to you... But I guess you will have lots of leftovers for soups, casaroles, and other goodies to freeze... But still RUDE!

**Contrary Housewife** · 11-26-2009, 12:02 AM

Aside from being ticked off, I would leave the big bird in the freezer for Christmas, and try and get a smaller one tomorrow first thing in the morning and thaw it in the sink.

**Backtoreality** · 11-26-2009, 12:42 AM

I wish I could, but the bird is totally thawed. In fact in the last 15 minutes I got the bird ready to throw in at 0400 in the morning. Between turkey sandwiches, turkey & noodles, turkey yaya?, I will be sending some to my 80 year old neighbors and mother in law. I was seriously mad, but as my DH said. Don't let others dicate your mood!!

**kittykatstrong** · 11-26-2009, 01:36 AM

Maybe she just didnt feel up to being around alot of people. But I agree it IS just plain rude.

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 11-26-2009, 02:25 AM

Oh my goodness! How incredibly thoughtless and hurtful of them! GRRRR Why on earth would they act so rudely?! I'm sorry! I'm so glad you've got a loving Dh to be there for ya...

Hope you have a splendid Thanksgiving, regardless of them!

**Thevail** · 11-26-2009, 04:58 AM

Wow.. rudeness level 9..

(It's not a 10 because there are no bodily excretions on your carpet.. there's always at least one thing to be thankful for!)

Cut the leftover thoroughly cooled turkey into 1 inch cubes and place in freezer baggies or containers in batches big enough for one meal. Chill in the fridge and then place in freezer for a rare twist on casserole night, turkey pot pies, turkey noodle soup, anything alfredo, etc.

Bad news.. lots of left over turkey.. good news... half a dozen easy prep meals over the next few months!

**nodmicks** · 11-26-2009, 07:08 AM

Totally rude! I'm sorry they were so thoughtless. Thevails turkey advice is terrific!

**LuvMyHubby** · 11-26-2009, 08:42 AM

I could understand if she isn't feeling up to being around people but it was still inconsiderate to not call or say something when you saw her earlier in the week. Luckily turkey is versatile.

**suebeehoney** · 11-26-2009, 08:53 AM

Wow.. rudeness level 9..

(It's not a 10 because there are no bodily excretions on your carpet.. there's always at least one thing to be thankful for!)

Thevail, my dear, now THAT is classic!! I'll have to remember that one!

You certainly brightened my morning with that comment! LOL

Aside from that, OP, I would try to make the best of a bad situation - you have LOTS of food - doesn't mean you have to cook it all today. Use what you absolutely have to - the stuff that will spoil or is already unthawed (like the bird), and stash the rest - consider it a donation to your stockpile.

Have a great day!

**shoiji** · 11-26-2009, 10:58 AM

Yup, I would basically have blown a gasket if someone did that to me. On the bright side you still have people coming over to enjoy the feast. And ohhhh, the leftovers.

**Teresa T** · 11-26-2009, 11:17 AM

I was thinking the same thing; That if your sister in law was not feeling well they still could have called, let you know and maybe ask if a family member could get or send over the food. But to say they are just ordering from someplace is strange. I'm sorry.

I have to say I'm here alone in my apartment with my kitty (so I'm not really alone) and it does not upset me one bit. All this holiday fiasco is not for me. I'll stay home with the cats instead.

I hope you have a good day anyway.

**Backtoreality** · 11-26-2009, 03:57 PM

Update today....

We just ate a wonderful dinner - the 6 of us. A co-worker called, I invited her over, she came. It was very nice!! Yep, lots of left overs but I wont's have to cook for 3 days and the frozen turkey is so easy to make into almost anything.

Neighbors are so grateful for a warm dinner. I truly feel blessed for my DH and friends who know how to make me laugh inspite of my mood.

And I am thankful I have you all to bend your ears occasionally!

**rictor** · 11-26-2009, 04:06 PM

I might be a little mad, but, hey. more food for me.

**mauimagic** · 11-26-2009, 04:13 PM

My dear, it sounds as if you've made the best of it - which is the only thing that makes sense. I would love to have lots of leftovers - and I know you appreciate it too.

I've learned that the only thing we can control is our reaction to whatever happens in life. Very inconsiderate of them - and you are still wonderful to do all that you have done - and you will still be a supportive caring person, because that's who you are!! Life's lessons sometimes just kick us in the stomach. Take care.