What a week/or less than

**Jeanna** · 01-13-2010, 09:28 AM

It has been a week. I feel so bad for my son. He is 21 and was so scared of hurting someone/something that he didn't get his license until he was 18, and even then it took a lot of pushing on my part.
Well the weather has been the rough here the last few weeks. You have to understand that we get very little snow and it usually is in the high 40/low 50's by the afternoon. Well we have had highs in the teens and twenties. OK now for what happened. Friday he was coming home from work and hit ice and then a bank (not the building). The insurance adjuster has not gotten to us yet but we are afraid it might be totaled. OK now fast forward to yesterday. He had drove my husbands truck to work--my husband has a company vehicle---he was coming around the corner of the building and caught the side of the truck on some part of a dump truck--it is pretty bad. He has been about on the verge of a nervious break down over the past few days and yesterday made it that much worse. We can't hardly be mad at him because he is so torn up about it all. Anyway, we will have to turn his truck in on our insurance, but probably not my husband--so that is going to set us back about $2000 before it is all said and done. The reason being, if we turn in Nathans truck we will have accident forgiveness on the accident but if we turn them both in neither will be forgiven---got to love insurance companies.
So there is my vent. Nothing anyone can do but I needed to get the story out so maybe I can understand it better and figure out where to go from here on the wrecks.
I am just so frustrated because I hope this might turn around my son from somethings that he needs to correct but at the same time we are trying to get started paying down debt and then we are knocked back again.

Anyway thanks for letting me vent.

**mombottoo** · 01-13-2010, 10:11 AM

On the upside at least your son wasn't hurt!

I don't understand how accident forgiveness works, but it sounds like you have the option of turning in only 1 of the vehicles in order to qualify for it? Is your dh supposed to allow others to drive the company truck? If not, I'd be sure to get that one fixed before I worried about the other one!

Hope everything works out for you...tell your son a Michigander told him to slow down...many times young people don't realize how fast they are going for the conditions or corners...I say this tongue in cheek...had 4 young drivers myself once upon a time.

**Jeanna** · 01-13-2010, 10:15 AM

Oh, the truck of my husbands was a personal truck, not the companies. Yes, I believe we can only turn in one and that is why we are going to turn in our son's. His is going to cost a lot more to be fixed than my husbands.

**valerian** · 01-13-2010, 10:17 AM

So sorry about this. My son just turned 18 yesterday and still doesn't have his license. I think it's a bit strange, but I think it may have something to do with the fact that my dh's only brother died in a car accident at 18 and my only brother died in a car accident at 21. My son said once that he was scared that would happen to him too especially since his first and middle names were their middles names. I guess he thinks that's a jinx.

**Debbie-cat** · 01-13-2010, 10:47 AM

I am so sorry this happened to him! I am glad he wasn't hurt. My son is going to be 20 and still doesn't have his license. He is very nervous about it but he saw my Mother in a head-on collision when he was quite young. I swears he is going to get it this summer though.

I hope everything works out okay. ((hugs))

**never2late** · 01-13-2010, 11:12 AM

I'm so sorry this happened to him. On the bright side though, he is okay and no one was hurt. Tell him cars can be replaced, he can't. (hugs)

**ohio47** · 01-13-2010, 11:12 AM

So sorry this happened to your son. I hope he is ok. Even though he didn't get hurt I am sure this has been terribly hard on him mentally. I have a 17 yr old grandson and a 19 yr old granddaughter out there on the snowy Ohio roads and I worry about them constantly. Sending prayers and hugs your way. Hope things get better!

**pollypurebred39** · 01-13-2010, 11:19 AM

So glad your son is okay. That's pretty scary for you both.

My son is 20 and no driving yet either. I really think he's scared, he was in a minor car wreck with me and it shook him pretty bad. For now I've decided not to push him, I'd feel horrible if I did and he wasn't ready and he ended up in a wreck (when I first got behind the wheel I had a wreck in my first week, totaled my car). Eventually though he's just going to have to bite the bullet and get behind the wheel. We live in the country, you must drive out here.

**imagine** · 01-13-2010, 11:23 AM

As some one that has to drive on ice. I fact we had to do it in drivers ed class and the instructed purposely made the car slide and spin.
I can tell you that if you are nervous on ice that you are more likely to slide and spin and possibly hit something so we could practice.

It sounds like your son was already a nervous driver so....

Just hug him let him know that even very experienced driver slip and slide on the ice and sometimes wreck. It happens. It is just the way it is. No ones fault.

**Jeanna** · 01-13-2010, 12:07 PM

Update: If you pray please pray for my son and our family. You are not going to believe this but at work this morning he was moving the company truck my husband drives and hit the side of the building! I couldn't believe that my husband had let him behind the wheel. The truck in not hurt really but there is defiantly something else going on. I told him yesterday that although he didn't want to hear about God, that sometimes he lets things happen to us to get our attention. Well I believe he is knocking Nathans door down. I am defiantly going to get him out from behind the wheel for a while and I am thinking we might need some counseling as he has always been very emotional and this is about to push him over the edge.

**mombottoo** · 01-13-2010, 01:15 PM

When was the last time your son had his eyes checked? It is very possible that he is having trouble with his field of vision which would explain why he keeps misjudging things while driving.

**pinetree** · 01-13-2010, 01:23 PM

I hope everything works out ok for you and your family. Thats alot to happen in such a short time. Will say a prayer for you all. Hang in there, seems like anymore when it rains, it really pours.

**pinecone** · 01-13-2010, 10:43 PM

I am so sorry to hear of your son's mishaps, at least he isn't physically hurt. Sending hugs your way.

piney

**Jeanna** · 01-14-2010, 07:45 AM

Thanks everyone for the support. We had a really hard time yesterday and then finally he opened up and told me how unhappy he was and told me some other things going on. We talked and decided he needed to talk to a professional. I have gotten him an appointment for this afternoon. I am really worried about him.