My Blood Pressure

**Jayceef** · 02-02-2010, 04:00 AM

So, I have been having some issues with my blood pressure this last couple of weeks. I am pregnant and due pretty soon. So went to my doctor's appt. last week and found out my BP is high, there is protein in my urine, etc. etc. They put me on bed rest until I have this baby. If that isn't bad enough my friend who was due last Wed. had a stillborn baby. I went to the funeral today (Monday) it was awful. I cried allot and then made the mistake of talking to my older crazy sister who needed to vent.

She lives about four hours away and has a rental property here that she is trying to get ready to sell. She won't tell my mom about it, because mom would give her allot of grief if she knew about it. She has been staying with my younger sis when she comes home. Now I am all for helping family with things, but this sister is really ungrateful and says some really nasty things.

Ok here goes. She calls me white trash, picks on my husband (who defends himself nicely), tells me how my baby will be raised, keeps saying things like well things must be different down there. My younger sis let her stay Friday night, but when she wanted to stay Saturday she said no. Like I said we are willing to help each other out, but when you snoop through peoples belongings that is where I draw the line. She made the comment that my younger sis passed her calculus class that it must be easier where we live. WHAT! Are you serious? She also went through her book bag while she was at work.

So this older sis called to vent to me how they have no social graces, because she wouldn't let them (older sis and friend) stay at her house. I tried to calmly tell her that there might have been some ungrateful things she said and did. She doesn't get it and wants me to agree with her on everything. So she proceeded to tell me I wouldn't let her stay at my house either. Well I kind of lost it. I told her what she says to me that I posted above, which is why she will never stay with me. I then said some really not so nice things to her and that she wouldn't be involved in my kids life, because well she is just a nasty individual. I hate having to do this, but I mean geez what are you to do.

Seriously she is disgusted with all of us, because we didn't go to Ivy League schools. My parents didn't put off retirement so she could have that school paid for. Blah, Blah, Blah.

Thank for letting me vent, I know it's long.

**krbshappy71** · 02-03-2010, 04:18 PM

Take it easy until that baby is born. You don't need that kind of stress right now. I'd avoid calls/contact if possible. Your baby and husband need you to be healthy and dealing with her obviously isn't healthy. I'm not saying forever, that's your call, but at least until you can get through this pregnancy.

**ml2620** · 02-03-2010, 05:28 PM

Drs. Orders no talking to older sis!!

**Jayceef** · 02-03-2010, 10:07 PM

Thanks. I calmed down quite a bit after thinking about our little chat. My husband puts it in perspective for me and says she is not a mature person. It is just something I will have to avoid until this baby is born. I know that she is really depressed and has been all her life. It just really bothers me that she talks to us the way she does. I mean I am happy with my life. I just don't get it and probably never will. Thank you for the support.

**pinecone** · 02-04-2010, 08:58 PM

Breathe deep and remember the Doctor says to stay calm. Here is the Law of the Garbage Truck, scroll part way down and print it out for a reminder. ((())) hugs.http://davidjpollay.typepad.com/davi...bagetruck.html

piney

**Jayceef** · 02-05-2010, 10:28 AM

Thanks Pincone. I love that article it makes perfect sense to me. Now if I can follow it then I will be doing good.

**Libby** · 02-05-2010, 10:37 AM

I would just avoid her at all costs if possible and the next time she sneaks in under your radar and starts to go off - just simply and bluntly tell her that you don't have time to listen to her charade and don't wish to b/c everything she says is negative and you dont think she realizes it. Then apologize that you don't feel the way she does which is good b/c you appreciate your life and what you've worked for not expected on a silver platter.

Of course having told her this, there will be her attempts of backlash but just expect it so when it occurs you can move on w/o batting an eyelash. She's obviously not happy about something in her life and needs to harp on yours to make herself feel better. I have family like this and thats what I tell them - I apologize that they regret their past life choices but I fail to see how its ok to put it on me b/c I had nothing to do with it. Since then...its kinda stopped.

I hope things work out for you and congrats on your baby!