I need a hug. Lots of hugs. Please!

**AnW819** · 02-14-2010, 09:04 PM

I am here, just really don't feel like posting much, but I am being a lurker. Nothing against anyone, just feeling crappy. DH tried to cheer me up by taking me out to dinner tonight and got me a rose and teddy bear for Vday. He also took me to get my haircut which was very needed....but I still feel crappy. I talked to my store manager yesterday and she said I will definitally have a job position and she is thinking it will be within a 30 minute drive from me so that is okay. We will see how it all works out I guess. I understand things can be worse, everyone is posting about things that have happened with them, and I am so sorry for your losses and such. It is hard. But things have been hard for me here to. Hubby is not out of work its just if there is a snow day and the plant closes he can get unemployment.

**lisaflex** · 02-14-2010, 09:07 PM

glad you are okay

that was sweet of dh to do that all for you.

look at the positive..you have a good husband who is worried about your feelings. he doesnt want you to feel down. take that and fly w/ it....its a good thing!

you seem like you have the wear w/ all but are havin a tough time which is understandable. but alot of people dont even have a good relationship to get through the tough times....sending good luck you way! chin up girlie...you will make it somehow someway...you have it in you to do! take care.

**khaski** · 02-14-2010, 10:18 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you! Perhaps, in the long run, it may be for the best- you will possibly end up somewhere else where you can pursue your dream- you sound very passionate about it and I cannot imagine you will not find a way to overcome both the financial, and the career, shortfalls this will cause you temporarily. Hang in there...and lurk all you like! -hugs-

**Siebrie** · 02-15-2010, 06:45 AM

Have you considered alternative transport to get to your job? So that you will no longer be dependent on dh? A bicycle may not be an option, but maybe a Vespa is? Or a more advanced model like Yamaha DT-MX? Under Dutch law, this is not a motorcycle and can be driven with a limited driver's license. It's cheaper than a car, and more economic with regards to gas. You will need proper clothing, but that you can buy second hand.

**AnW819** · 02-15-2010, 09:06 AM

Originally Posted by Siebrie

Have you considered alternative transport to get to your job? So that you will no longer be dependent on dh? A bicycle may not be an option, but maybe a Vespa is? Or a more advanced model like Yamaha DT-MX? Under Dutch law, this is not a motorcycle and can be driven with a limited driver's license. It's cheaper than a car, and more economic with regards to gas. You will need proper clothing, but that you can buy second hand.

But I can get to work.

Me driving is not an issue right now. It will be if its a 45 minute drive not because I don't drive and DH can't take me but because we don't want to commute that far.

I will be getting my drivers liscense soon, when I am settled into my apartment and figured everything out with my job, but again its not part of the problem.

Thanks so much though for your wonderful advise! I appreciate it!

**Russ** · 02-15-2010, 09:53 AM

On the bright side, at least you have a $1000 emergency fund.

**AnW819** · 02-15-2010, 10:03 AM

You are very correct about that one!!! Thats a blessing!

**lisaflex** · 02-15-2010, 12:27 PM

and a good blsng at that!

it will come together. just be patient and try to remain upbeat.

i think we all have some inner strength that comes out when bad things happen to help us through it