Why can't things just be normal??

**pop goes the weasel** · 03-16-2010, 12:22 PM

First let me apologize if I sound mean or selfish. In November I found out Ihave high blood pressure. So I decided to try and live a bit healthier with help from the dr. Well this made things worse if you can believe that. Brought on other things that never bothered me that won't go away. So I'm miserable to begin with. ( ok that's my whine on my part.) Around this time my sd, (if you read any of my posts you'll know what's going on) decised to be a bigger pain in the butt than what she has been. Back to sneaking and lieing ect. She won't listen to me or her dad.No amount of asking works. Just yelling and screaming. We are in the middle of remodeling the house so everything is torn up. I feel like everything is out of control. I am sick of the yelling and screaming and not knowing how to get myself healthy again. i just want normal again. Thanks for listening. I thought maybe if I got it out it would help.

**hotprincesscm** · 03-16-2010, 12:26 PM

Awwww, sorry you are going through all of this! Sometimes you just need to vent! I understand. It seems like when it rains and it pours! You are in my prayers! Feel better soon!

**daughter of pearl** · 03-16-2010, 12:28 PM

That sounds rough! I don't know the details about your SD but she sounds a bit like my DS used to be. And with the reno, it must feel like there is no soft spot to land right now, or any place to let your guard down.

Just so you know, whining is an inallienable right, so don't worry!

Take care, and try not to stress too much!

**pop goes the weasel** · 03-16-2010, 12:47 PM

Thanks for the kind words. The stress is a big part of my health new health problems. Part of the problem is I like things the way they should be. Where they belong ect. Guess I'm borderline OCD, I don't know. I'm sitting here now amidst sheets of paneling, trim floor tile ect. I can't clean or even move around for that matter. We have a very smallhouse and no room to expand. My dh is getting stuff done but with the hours he works we can only do a little at a time in the evening. I'm hoping that since nicer weather ishere I can at least go out and ...who knows maybe dig in the mud or something lol. Thanks agai. It's good to have a place where nobody judges you.

**weedaisy** · 03-16-2010, 12:48 PM

You know, I feel the same way. With DH being out of work for 1 1/2 years and not finding *any* type of job (and he has tried) and me going to school almost full time and working a part time job (amongst other thigns) I sometimes feel like life is really just pushing a grindstone.

We've been okay because we're really frugal people, but I feel like we've been doing the circular bill payment thing - you know robbing Peter to pay Paul type of thing. We've currently got it so that we're paying on time (for the first time in one year), but I have to wonder how long it will last.

I just have to remember the good things: loving husband, am able to keep up on the mortgage payments, am able to feed the family (DH is a wiz at getting great deals at the grocery store), loving family - and lots of free stuff we can do as a family (i.e. go to the park, beach, library, free events, etc.) - oh and the ability to go to college and hopefully getting a job that will support us!

Now I feel better

I hope you feel better soon as well. Is there any way that you can have a 'me time' and do whatever it is that will make you happy?

*hugs*

**porembam** · 03-16-2010, 12:57 PM

The stress is going to make everyrhing worse - I hope venting here took out some of that negative energy from your system.
Everyday you must mentally leave your surroundings and envision how things should be while breathing normal. whatever happens in the real world they can't touch you there.

**WV_mom_of2** · 03-16-2010, 01:19 PM

Living with a health issue is rough. I have IBS and there are so many days that I wish I could just be normal so I can do things I want to and go where I want to. But it's not normal and I just have to find ways to deal with it.

You have a lot of things going on right now that would cause anyone some major stress! Try to take some time to relax and just focus on yourself! HUGS!

**leighcat** · 03-16-2010, 06:04 PM

It will get better. Just hang in there.

And feel free to vent, it is good for you!

**Imarachne** · 03-16-2010, 06:29 PM

We are here for you--just take some deep breaths, watch a funny movie and know that this , like all things, will pass.

**pip** · 03-16-2010, 06:46 PM

It's hard to live in a house that is torn up. When we were re-doing the living and dining rooms of our first house and everything was apart and ugly, I had to just put some blinders on and block it all out. I couldn't stand it! (((hugs)))

**fairydana** · 03-16-2010, 10:19 PM

Vent and whine all you need to!! You have us!! Big hugs to you!! I know my nerves would be torn up trying to go through remodeling the house. Then trying to deal with health issues and a raging sd!! I wish I could do more than send ya a hug!!
When everything around me is out of control I try to focus on the small things that I can change or that I can control and I go from there. It helps me. Especially when I get overwhelmed.
When the screaming and yelling gets bad just go for a walk! Get away from it for a few minutes.

Keeping you in my thoughts.

**mauimagic** · 03-16-2010, 10:36 PM

Fairydana spoke so well. DH always reminds me that what we are going through at the moment is normal for the time - and I mentally add that it won't last forever - and you know it won't -it's truly hard to live in the midst of all the turmoil!!

Please visit us here for a sanity break - we are all doing that at some time or another....and we truly all do understand whine!! Please take care.