I almost pity the principal today.

**mommy4ever** · 03-23-2010, 10:01 AM

My husband is on the way to the school to have a discussion with her.

Our dd10 has had ongoing issues with being the target for bullies. No idea what it is about her. But it's how it is. AND, there have been issues in the school period.

In Kinder, she was inappropriately touched by a volunteer while on a field trip. She didn't tell us til weeks later. We called the school. Lots of lip service, but no safety policies put in place.

In grade 1 at lunch recess, she fell and hurt her arm. They wouldn't let her call home, it was broken in 2 places. A fairly week apology was given.

In grade 2, there were bruises forming on her legs... as they came out fully, they were hand prints. The child hurting her was spoken to, but we were told dd must bruise really easy. So no repercussions.

Grade 3 she had a decent year, for once.

Grade 4, boys were stealing her school supplies and work, she told the teacher about it and was told that "Well EVERYBODY bothers you...go sit down."

At the end of grade 4, she broke her arm, while at recess, a boy grabbed her broken, casted arm and twisted it. She came in the school in pain, in tears to talk to her teacher, she was just sent out side. She never returned. It was mid June, we end on the 30th.

This year, she's been body slammed into lockers, pulled to the ground by her hair. She put her arm up to block a boy from smacking her in the face, and the teacher saw this, she told them both, if they didn't quit, they'd both be in the office.

Yesterday, S dared B and M to go grab her butt. They did, and went on about how that was the most beautiful butt they'd ever touched. THey then grabbed her breasts. Multiple times. This happened IN CLASS WITH a teacher present. The teacher said, she'd talk to them later....never did.

Early this month, dd6 was left in the coat room until she missed the bus, she was looking for mittens. She left, walked right passed the teacher, said good bye and walked out the door. There were no buses left, no supervisors. The principal did apologize profusely, and I know the teacher got reamed out majorly, but when the teacher called to apologize...it was lip service, making it dd6 fault, and that dd10 should be picking her up(dd10 was told she wasn't allowed by other teacher), it wasn't the teachers fault in her opinion.

We are trying hard to get them into a new school, but we can't get bussing for the girls. We need it. They can go, but no bus. So we are working the angle that this school has more than once compromised their safety. I'm pitying the principal some, as this is only her 2nd year here. But really nothing has changed.

**ktsmama** · 03-23-2010, 10:51 AM

I am very sorry this is happening to your DD. I think you should get the police involved. None of the things you mentioned are appropriate, but the touching is a police matter.

**Samigirl** · 03-23-2010, 11:09 AM

There is absolutely no excuse for the amount of abuse your child has had to endure. It would be a cold day in hell before I sent my child back there. I would do WHATEVER it takes to get her into another school, or I would homeschool her. The police need to be involved as well.

**mommy4ever** · 03-23-2010, 11:13 AM

The principal was fit to be tied! She would be dealing with this ASAP. She said to expect letters of apologies from all parties involved in yesterdays incident. She will be "talking" to the teachers, their behavior has been deplorable. Because they don't like the principal, they aren't dealing with the kids. As a result the safety, mental well being of 2 young girls yesterday, has been put in jeopardy.

She did speak to our dd this morning as well, and dd maintained what had happened, didn't downplay it. The principal wasn't at all phased that the other little girl didn't step forward, she said most wouldn't as they are at such an awkward stage and embarrassed. She is looking at all our notes that we sent and she feels horrible that so much happened and so little done about it. She wishes we'd stepped forward about the broken arm incident as she'd have dealt with the young man involved then too.

So something will be done...how much? I'm not sure.

I know I will be approaching her to help us get transportation to a new school next year, as dd10 doesn't feel safe there, and I really don't feel comfortable with my kids there.

As much as i don't like this woman on a personal level, the 2 times we've talked to her about problems, she's never downplayed it, or brushed us off. As a principal she's a tough cookie...

**Mom2-3** · 03-23-2010, 11:15 AM

I have to agree with the PP. My child would not have gone back to school after the touching incident! The police should have been called and more than an apology should have taken place!

Is there a reason you can't/don't want to homeschool? It takes time, but it can work beautifully for the family

**mommy4ever** · 03-23-2010, 11:17 AM

We aren't saying they are staying. We need to have it addressed. DD needs to be available in order for that to happen.

I will be at the school tomorrow, and discussing the fact that this is unacceptable to expect her to be at the school. And that they will be supplying me with lessons for the balance of the year for both girls, and then arranging a transfer.

**monkeywrangler71** · 03-23-2010, 11:26 AM

Don't be afraid to call the police about it, the RCMP and many local police forces have anti-bullying initiatives. Even if your kids aren't going back there are probably others who would benefit from a visit.

**Libby** · 03-23-2010, 11:30 AM

Have you sent a copy of the issues to the school board? I think the school needs to be 'outed'. I know the principal is working on it now but now is too late. By going to the school board, they may make an exception for your DD to be bussed to a 'safer' school.

Enough is enough. Glad you are taking the bull by the horns and YES I agree the police should've been called after that volunteer incident.

Sorry your DD has had to go through all of this. And to think - a school was deemed a 'safe haven' back in my days.

I'm hearing more and more about negligent teachers and principals and am scared for the future when its my time to have children.

Please keep us posted on how things turn out.

**Mom2-3** · 03-23-2010, 11:32 AM

Don't mess with a mommy and her kids!!

**Dutchie** · 03-23-2010, 12:16 PM

Originally Posted by mom2-3

don't mess with a mommy and her kids!!

exactly!!!!!

**porembam** · 03-23-2010, 12:27 PM

I agree with those who say the police should be involved. The boys touched your daughter in her private places - they need police action so they don't do this again to anybody..
I was upset reading what your daughter has been through - i will pray that answers such as a new school or the principal can take control of this school.
I hope your husband's actions help.

**happymomof4** · 03-23-2010, 12:54 PM

I would have called the police and forget the school. This is a police matter.

We had an incident in our middle school with a teacher going after girl students. The parents went directly to the police. The teacher was arrested that evening at home.

Any kind of sexual harrasement should be handled by the police. It doesn't matter how old the children are.

**AnW819** · 03-23-2010, 01:33 PM

Wow, I also have to agree. Police matter. That can really effect a child more than a lot of people think...Just because they are young does not mean they will not remember that happened to them years from now. Hugs to you and your daughter!

**mauimagic** · 03-23-2010, 01:39 PM

Police, school board - even the newspapers if you have to - this is so wrong - my started racing as I read through the posts. As a teacher and a parent, I am royally pissed.

Please keep us updated.

**mommy4ever** · 03-23-2010, 01:48 PM

THis is a new principal. She started last year. The teachers don't like her because she is by the book. As a result, they don't support her, or follow the rules.

i just finished talking with dh, and we are going to be doing an immediate transfer to a new school. If they don't support us in the transfer, we'll be pulling them and homeschooling for the balance of the year, and then deciding what we will do next year.

So here's to hoping that the principal will support us and help us get transportation.