What colors would you wear to a funeral?

**Early Bird** · 06-20-2010, 02:40 PM

Wow, everyone, thanks.

I haven't been to a funeral since 1995.

But, in trying to cull my wardrobe, I have a black blazer that I really don't care for. I've been keeping it, thinking "funeral." But I'd really rather wear the navy dress if it came down to it. And a navy skirt with a button-down blouse for the wake.

**Darlene** · 06-20-2010, 04:19 PM

If someone young goes it is a much more somber and I dress accordingly and that means conservative earth tones. For others I am rethinking that. For instance I think it would be perfectly fine to wear the deceased favorite color if it was for someone who really lived life & enjoyed it to the fullest. Many times I just think it's nice to celebrate someones life and not their death. It's not all about sadness, sure we will miss so and so but I really enjoy when people share and talk about the joy that person has brought to their lives, and that means laughing as well as crying. Those funny stories help us all heal.
I guess when it comes down to it, I'm not concerned what people are wearing. I'm just glad they thought enough about the deceased or their family to be there and show that the person who died mattered to them. Just be there.

**Luckybustert** · 06-20-2010, 04:22 PM

I would wear black or a dark navy blue. It's traditional and I wouldn't want to wear anything that called more attention to me instead of the person whose life we are honoring.

**mndtrp** · 06-20-2010, 11:15 PM

I generally wear black slacks and a red or blue shirt.

**Jenny WC** · 06-21-2010, 07:58 AM

I go in natural colors. I don't think it truely matters what someone wears to a funeral it's just matters that they are there paying there respects. But that's my opinion. I have seen people where all sorts of colors-pastels and dark cards.

Jenny

**Lady_V** · 06-21-2010, 08:16 AM

What I wear depends a lot on who it is...

Different cultures have different views, and white is the color for funerals.

I wear a hunter green dress to funerals (yes, I have a funeral dress... the dead don't care that I wore it to Joe Smoe's funeral... and if the living can be that catty, clearly they are focusing on the wrong thing)

Black is reserved for immediate family ONLY if they are on the traditional Italian side.

**khaski** · 06-21-2010, 08:32 AM

Black, navy, dark brown, grey....I don't think black is necessary, but I agree with those who have said toned down, muted styles in darker colors should be just fine- heck, even a dark cranberry could be OK depending on the style. My emergency 'funeral dress' is grey- simply was what I found on BIG sale.

**monkeywrangler71** · 06-21-2010, 09:35 AM

My funeral dress is brown, because I like brown. I've seen all colours, people tend to just wear whatever is flattering on them. No one seems to care what the colour is, as long as the style is appropriate.

**daughter of pearl** · 06-21-2010, 02:53 PM

Appropriate is the word of the day!

At my mother's funeral, my son's ex (thank God!) girlfriend looked like something out of the Adam's Family. She had on a long black skirt, a black corset top with a little jacket over it, Doc Marten's and black nail polish.

She's lovely! They broke up! I don't miss her at all!

**Greebo** · 06-21-2010, 02:54 PM

Depends on who died...

I mean, for some people, I'd wear a clown suit.

**IntlMom** · 06-21-2010, 03:20 PM

like many others, any simple, conservative outfit will do nicely. I tend to go with darker colours, but not necesarily black.

In my circle, a memorial service is more about the celebration of their lives, not the mourning of their passing, so the black is really unecessary.

**mndtrp** · 06-21-2010, 04:30 PM

Originally Posted by Greebo

Depends on who died...

I mean, for some people, I'd wear a clown suit.

I kind of assumed panda's didn't have many options in the first place.

**Kitchenbunny** · 06-21-2010, 04:43 PM

I wear dark colours like platinum grey or black, but I always accentuate it with something colourful. Yes, there is the respect by wearing smart and respectful clothes, but there's the little bit of colour I associate with the good things I remember and will always remember. Then when I look at that scarf or bracelet or whatever, I also think of that person.

KB xx

**Rhiamon** · 06-21-2010, 05:01 PM

Originally Posted by mauimagic

Conservative colors and styles - always appropriate.

I agree with this. I couldn't have said it better.

**Ali Lee** · 06-22-2010, 02:24 PM

I wore the brightest red blouse I could find to my mom's & dad's. As long as you are clean & neat, wear whatever. And, I would gladly welcome a farmer, nurse, etc, in their uniform, straight from work. So, to me, I guess-as long as you came to pay your respects, I don't care what you have on.