I'm about to be a very bad girl........

**WV_mom_of2** · 07-27-2010, 12:39 PM

My mom wants everyone to go camping together. Yep, that should be just a boatload of fun. My sister is a control freak who MUST have everything her way. She can NOT possibly allow her 2 year old princess to sleep in a tent or be anywhere near another person at night. So I made arrangements to get a cabin area free of charge at a state park near us(it's pretty nice that I get more respect at other state parks then I do at the one I work at). It has a huge cabin with electricity and a bathroom, kitchen, etc. We can put our camper in the yard and so can my brother and my parents can put their tent there. Done, finished, problem solved. Ummmm not. Nope she says it's too far for her to come. We must do something more central but it must have a cabin. She picks a campground that is an hour from her and 3 hours from the rest of us. She can get a cabin but I'd have to camp in a tent. With IBS and an outhouse. Oh and she will be there IF she can. IF her son's football teams/games/practices don't interfer with our plans.

So I am about to be mean and nasty and probably break my mother's heart. I am going to tell her she has two options. Options that make ME happy and comfortable. She can go with the original plan or we will try another campground that is about two hours from us. It has a group camping area where we can take our camper and my sister can still get a cabin. I plan to stress that my sister most likely won't even show up and who wants to travel three hours for HER and then her not be there? Those are the ONLY two options they get. Choose one or make other plans and go without me. I will NOT make my sister happy so that she can not bother to show up at all!

**Russ** · 07-27-2010, 12:51 PM

Sounds like no great loss to me if she doesn't show. You have a plan that meets in the middle, a good compromise for all those involved.

**WV_mom_of2** · 07-27-2010, 12:54 PM

Originally Posted by Russ

Sounds like no great loss to me if she doesn't show. You have a plan that meets in the middle, a good compromise for all those involved.

Actually it would probably be the best thing if I stayed home and the rest of them go LOL. I can't stand my sister, brother or my dad so it's going to be miserable for me and my family. If my mom didn't want it so bad I wouldn't even think about it at all. But she never gets to do anything and she really really wants us all to go together.

**Russ** · 07-27-2010, 12:57 PM

Then you go for Mom, not for anyone else and keep that in mind.

Can you get another cabin?

**WV_mom_of2** · 07-27-2010, 01:13 PM

I can't get another free cabin in an area where we can all be together with the campers, etc.

We can all get cabins if we want to and each pay for our own but I can't really afford 230.00 for two nights. I have a camper and a tent. With my IBS I am much more relaxed and comfortable if I have my camper and my own bathroom. The cabins at the place she wants to go to have no indoor plumbing so I'd still be stuck going outside to the outhouse. I can make due in a tent with an outhouse if I have to. I just don't WANT to this time LOL.

**WV_mom_of2** · 07-27-2010, 01:17 PM

I turned 40 in Jan. and since then I have no patience or anger control anymore. I am usually the door mat, pushover, peace maker. But I've been really mouthy lately, even telling people I work with off at the slightest little thing (of course they deserve it and it's been four years coming too). I just have no patience for my sister and her crap and NO desire to give in and be nice anymore.

**Russ** · 07-27-2010, 01:22 PM

I would likely be a little manipulative in this case. Try to get her to admit it would be more fair if everyone met in the middle but she's being stubborn about it..

**WV_mom_of2** · 07-27-2010, 01:28 PM

I don't talk to my sister....at all. Mom is the one in the middle taking the calls and trying to make the plans with my help. I have given up on my sister and my brother.

Another reason I want to stay at the original place is that if my sister gets nuts we can hook up our camper and either move to an actual campsite away from her or come home. Our camper is too big to fit into the actual campground at the other place so we'd have to come home if things get rough. Last time we all camped together my family came home at midnight the second night because my brother was being an ass and his kids were making me nuts!

**Darlene** · 07-27-2010, 01:30 PM

I originally said: Why don't you just go where you want and whoever wants to can join you can join you there?

Then edited to :Why don't you just go where you want and invite your Mom. If Mom wants to camp with everyone else she can do that at another time.

**Greebo** · 07-27-2010, 01:33 PM

Originally Posted by Darlene

Why don't you just go where you want and whoever wants to can join you can join you there?

I like Darlene's idea.

**Russ** · 07-27-2010, 01:37 PM

Originally Posted by Darlene

I origanaly said: Why don't you just go where you want and whoever wants to can join you can join you there?

Then edited to :Why don't you just go where you want and invite your Mom. If Mom wants to camp with everyone else she can do that at another time.

Originally Posted by Greebo

I like Darlene's idea.

Because...

Originally Posted by WV_mom_of2

My mom wants everyone to go camping together.

So I am about to be mean and nasty and probably break my mother's heart.

**Greebo** · 07-27-2010, 01:39 PM

Mom wants everyone to camp together, MOM can arrange the camping trip.

Mom wants WV-Mom to arrange everything, WV-MOM gets to arrange it to her satisfaction.

Boundaries are important here.

**Natalie's Nesters** · 07-27-2010, 01:40 PM

As a forty something gal, I say "you go girl!" Do what makes you happy, sounds like Sis will never be happy. Go and enjoy!

**nodmicks** · 07-27-2010, 01:43 PM

I like Darlene's idea too!!!

**WV_mom_of2** · 07-27-2010, 01:46 PM

Originally Posted by Darlene

I originally said: Why don't you just go where you want and whoever wants to can join you can join you there?

Then edited to :Why don't you just go where you want and invite your Mom. If Mom wants to camp with everyone else she can do that at another time.

Because mom wants everyone together. All her kids and all the grandkids. Mom did mention that if it didn't work out then just her and dad would go with us sometime. But that is NOT going to happen. I can not and will NOT go with just the two of them. I can't tolerate my dad for an entire weekend without ALOT of distractions to keep him out of my hair. He will do nothing but make me and my kids miserable and I won't allow that to happen.