Avoiding a friends home because of the smoking.

**shoiji** · 08-25-2010, 05:32 PM

I noticed that I have avoided going to a friends home because they smoke and it feels like I am walking into a burning cigarette. The other day I dropped off some magazines and she had her door open. From the outside I could smell all the cigarette smoke coming out of her apartment.

In some ways I feel bad. On the other hand I feel like I am protecting myself since I am avoiding all the chemicals. I am an ex-smoker and dread thinking about how my place must have smelled.

Have you found yourself in a similar situation.

**sunshine** · 08-25-2010, 05:39 PM

Yep - I avoid my sister and her place/car at nearly all costs because of the smoke.

**2ndGenGranola** · 08-25-2010, 05:44 PM

Quite often I will have DH shower when he comes home because I can smell the smoke from his coworkers who smoke outside of the office building. I cannot spend anytime in or around where smokers have been.

**Syn D** · 08-25-2010, 07:02 PM

I avoid peoples houses that feel the need to drink when they have company over.. Also that have to many pets..

**mndtrp** · 08-25-2010, 07:09 PM

My wife and I avoided her mother's house due to the smoking. On the few occasions we visited, the visits were brief. We told her mother that once we have children, there wouldn't be any overnight trips, unless the smoking indoors stopped. She is smoking less, and not indoors, so we'll see if it lasts.

We didn't feel bad, at all.

**annymoll** · 08-26-2010, 12:11 AM

I cannot tolerate cigarette smoke. I do not have close friends that smoke, nor will I.I can smell it outside with the doors and windows shut in a home. It is just nasty.

**frugalfranny** · 08-26-2010, 12:29 AM

I have a couple friends that smoke but they don't smoke in the house........ever. So not so bad.

I am surprised she smokes in her house. I know others that smoke (but don't live here) and none of them smoke in their house.

Also surprised that the apt. will let her smoke in it. We have non-smoking apts. (lots of them) around here; just for the reason of all the people allergic to smoke......not to mention the damage it does to the house.

**greekislandgirl** · 08-26-2010, 05:36 AM

I sometimes ask my husband to take a shower if he comes home from a restaurant where people have been smoking - I can smell it in his hair!! Also any clothes we wear when we go out to a place that people smoke, we hang outside to air out before even washing them.

I really really do not like to go into a house where people smoke. Off hand I can't think of any houses that we go to often where they smoke indoors, but of course it happens from time to time, and I just try to grin and bear it. I am really sensitive to smoke and even though the smell doesn't "hurt" me, I think it's really gross.

I have no idea how I dated a smoker (we even lived together for about 6 months) for 3 years.

**imagine** · 08-26-2010, 09:27 AM

This is interesting to me. I sometimes forget that people still smoke at least indoors.

The college I went to was a no smoking college. You couldn't smoke anywhere on campus and nearly everyone was required to live on campus.

Where we live now you can't smoke in or within X amount of feet of any public place (not in restaurants, not in bars, not in stores, not in schools, not in hotels (even in the rooms), etc).

Because of the smoke free environment that I have spend my adult life I don't know many people that smoke and sometimes forget that people do smoke.

Did you know that if smoking is shown in a movie that they have to list it in the parental warnings along with the language, sexual content, and violence and it has to be rated PG or Higher?

**jas** · 08-26-2010, 09:45 AM

I used to smoke, I have been a non-smoker for 18 years. I gag at the thought of how my house, car, ect must have smelt. I am not around a lot of smokers these days, but I did have a friend that still smoked and I could only stand it for a very short time. She was an extremely clean person, home and otherwise, but her home had such a funk to it. It stuck to everything. I swear to you one time she made these beautiful frosted cookies and I brought some home and we could not even eat them they smell just like her house. I ate one at her house and didn't notice because it was all around you, but once I brought it home. Yuck.

**LynnLC** · 08-26-2010, 11:32 AM

Wow. I smoke, not in my car, home, or around other people... I just can't believe some have said they wouldn't be friends with someone who smoked. Unreal.

**sahm2boys** · 08-26-2010, 11:35 AM

unfortunately my husband is a heavy smoker...and i grew up with a dad that smoked (he stopped smoking 5 years ago)..everyone i have ever known that smoked, smoked in their home...

i dont like smoke..the smell or the staining on the walls...but i have asked people who dont smoke if it smells bad and have always been told no..and its family/friends who are bluntly honest. i even have 4 small dogs in the house..but i wash my walls and bleach and clean the house all the time and i have tons of air freshners....(love bath n body works)

my husband smokes most in the bedroom..which no one visits in there..and sometimes that does smell..so i have to take the fan apart n clean it (the fan seems to hold the most smoke smell), dust really well, and wash the bedding more often..and then the smell is gone

**NikoSan999** · 08-26-2010, 02:05 PM

Originally Posted by imagine

Did you know that if smoking is shown in a movie that they have to list it in the parental warnings along with the language, sexual content, and violence and it has to be rated PG or Higher?

I heard this on CNN the other morning. To me, and I do realize that this is just me, this is such a crock of crap. Not the friends visiting a smokers home...their right of course definitely...but the movie thing ticked me off when I heard it.

There are commercials STILL on TV, a truckload of them, with so called "cool" people drinking advertising the booze. Not for driving a friend home but for sales purposes. No warnings on those in the advertisements.

How many accidents are cause by smoking compared to booze?

Sorry, little off the beaten thread here, but couldn't resist. I do apologize the the OP.

**Syn D** · 08-26-2010, 02:11 PM

No one has had a problem here either and only non smokers have been over to my house, except when my daughter comes.. I mostly smoke in one room and always have a candle and ceiling fan going.. My mother was here a few months ago and is a non smoker that is rarely around it, she didn't notice a problem here..

I guess it's a matter of how much you care about the person.. We have a friend here that has a lot of cats and her house smells of it, yet I have never dissed her when invited to her house.. Actually have never dissed anyone that has invited us due to how their house is..

My opinion is, it's their house, they can do what they want in it and it's not my place to judge.. You come to my house, you get a clean lived in home, but when you knock on my door, deal with it as I probably dislike something at your house also, like pet people that don't notice the smell and think it's cute when your pet climbs all over company, I am not a big pet person and don't think it's cute, but I respect their home and deal with it while I am there and yes I will go back..