mixed feelings

**Rhiamon** · 11-17-2010, 11:21 PM

So my husband we have been separated since July came over to visit DD tonight. I answered the door and there he was with flowers. I asked him what the occasion was and he said what day is it. I said Wed. He said it is our wedding anniv. He goes 9 years today. Slipped my mind all together with everything going on. I know that we have talked about maybe trying to work things out sometime but it wouldn't be for a few years. I told him that he had to start being more financial responsible and several other things had to be worked on before I would even think about trying couples therapy again. I told him he needs to work on himself and I am trying to work on myself. And that he needs to start to believe in our daughters issues instead of running from them. By they way I didn't say all this after he gave me the flowers this is a disscusion we have had before.

I thought it was sweet but at the same time strange because we are separated.

**mauimagic** · 11-17-2010, 11:27 PM

Rhiamon - you're right - a very sweet gesture - and it shows he's been thinking of you. You are a very wise young woman and know what's right for you and your DD - follow your path!!

**mamamia** · 11-18-2010, 01:01 AM

Agree with MM, but did want to add that you'll know when the time is ~right~. Apparently though, that time isn't here yet. Best to wait for it, being careful not to be "flattered" into it with flowers, etc....but I do think that it was nice of him to remember. And I hope so much that you guys do work it out. I'm guessing there's still alot of good feelings between the two of you's, and with that still being there, I think it'll just be a matter of time. You know what they say....Absence does make the heart grow fonder". After that, maybe ALL else can be worked out. It seems promising to me anyway!

Hoping the best for you and your marriage and family!

HUGS!!

Theresa