...and I don't know how to feel about it.
She is a nice enough woman, moved here about 4 years ago, has one son just off to college this year and one son about 11. They are nice people. She can be a picky-picky type person, and is kind of a health nut (rightly so, she has had tongue cancer twice and really works hard to keep healthy). She is also a bit of a germophobe. No problem, to each his own.... I like her, she and I have talked quite a few times. I have thought occasionally that in the conversations we've had that she was trying to drop a not-so-subtle hint about I should run my life/have my yard/do things. But OK.
She comes to my door a couple of days ago (we live in suburbia) and says nicely...'can I ask you a favor, could you not feed the birds?' (I have a feeder at the back corner of my yard where hers connects). ' It is attracting the raccoons, and then they live under my deck, and I worry about diseases with the dog and all." (I can understand that, I love her doggie too, he's a sweetie).
I say 'sure, it will probably save me money anyway, and I don't mind.' And I don't .....I think..... But she kind of worries me. She has this little tiny control factor thing going on, you can just tell after knowing her awhile. I don't want to be undeer this woman's thumb about all kinds of stuff. Our fence is in BAD disrepair, and needs more than DH has been able to do to mend it over the years. It needs practically a whole new fence. I know that bothers her, cause she's mentioned it. Other than that, our yard is mowed and driveway/sidewalks shovelled ALWAYS, and we keep a neat place, make repairs regularly. Our hosue looks a lot nicer from the road than many houses in the 'hood.
We have been here 21 years, and she and her fam 4 years. I feel like sometimes saying why don't people just MYOB. Especially having many people move in and out of the neighborhood over the years, with many different opinions on how folks should live.
How should I feel about this request? DH and I both just chuckled about it, and he feels like "well, ok', but I love to watch the birds from my kitchen window, so I'm a tiny bit sad about this. Hmm....
She is a nice enough woman, moved here about 4 years ago, has one son just off to college this year and one son about 11. They are nice people. She can be a picky-picky type person, and is kind of a health nut (rightly so, she has had tongue cancer twice and really works hard to keep healthy). She is also a bit of a germophobe. No problem, to each his own.... I like her, she and I have talked quite a few times. I have thought occasionally that in the conversations we've had that she was trying to drop a not-so-subtle hint about I should run my life/have my yard/do things. But OK.
She comes to my door a couple of days ago (we live in suburbia) and says nicely...'can I ask you a favor, could you not feed the birds?' (I have a feeder at the back corner of my yard where hers connects). ' It is attracting the raccoons, and then they live under my deck, and I worry about diseases with the dog and all." (I can understand that, I love her doggie too, he's a sweetie).
I say 'sure, it will probably save me money anyway, and I don't mind.' And I don't .....I think..... But she kind of worries me. She has this little tiny control factor thing going on, you can just tell after knowing her awhile. I don't want to be undeer this woman's thumb about all kinds of stuff. Our fence is in BAD disrepair, and needs more than DH has been able to do to mend it over the years. It needs practically a whole new fence. I know that bothers her, cause she's mentioned it. Other than that, our yard is mowed and driveway/sidewalks shovelled ALWAYS, and we keep a neat place, make repairs regularly. Our hosue looks a lot nicer from the road than many houses in the 'hood.
We have been here 21 years, and she and her fam 4 years. I feel like sometimes saying why don't people just MYOB. Especially having many people move in and out of the neighborhood over the years, with many different opinions on how folks should live.
How should I feel about this request? DH and I both just chuckled about it, and he feels like "well, ok', but I love to watch the birds from my kitchen window, so I'm a tiny bit sad about this. Hmm....