I tired of hearing the phrase "I want"

[JanieD]

I found it strange that he thought it was out of character. I felt it was so in character. I don't know if he just hadn't seen it.

But since he was so concerned I checked up on it.

It isn't money that seems fine. Her health seems fine. Anything else I'm missing?

Did she react this way before she lost your dad? If not, then I'm wondering if your mom use to depend on your dad to "take care" of the repairs (schedule them, deal w/the details & then pay for it).Perhaps she overwhelmed by having to do these things for herself & would feel better if someone offered to go w/her.

Just a thought.

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Did she react this way before she lost your dad? If not, then I'm wondering if your mom use to depend on your dad to "take care" of the repairs (schedule them, deal w/the details & then pay for it).Perhaps she overwhelmed by having to do these things for herself & would feel better if someone offered to go w/her.

Just a thought.

Good observation.

Dad has been dead of 5 years now but she just recently started recently repairing things. Dad did at least orchestra those things before. Telling her who to talk to, where to go, etc.

Mom has always not liked similar situations.

When I was a child she use to have me order pizza by phone. I always thought she was trying to make me independent but when I was an adult she confessed it was because she didn't like too. So that might explain her gruffness with the bank and Walmart.

Also while mom wrote out all the checks for bills, repairs, ect. They came out of the household budget aka Dad's income. Mom worked full time most of her life (before retiring) and her income was for fun stuff or what she desired/wanted. She might be having a hard time adjusting to now paying for everything her needs and her wants. I also think she has never budgeted in her life.

I think it get it. She is learning the same things I'm teaching the children. No wonder it was so frustrating.

I'll just have to regain my patience with mom and the children. After all they are just learning.