Update on My Husband lost his job

**kitkat0649** · 08-20-2011, 05:59 PM

So a couple months ago I posted this thread about my husband losing his job: My husband lost his job

Well a couple days after that my husband went up to Sacramento for a job interview. Great right? He was up there a couple days and I couldnt get a hold of him. I finally get an email saying that he was leaving us because he couldn't handle the stress of raising two kids. We hadnt even had a disagreement in 8 months so this totally blindsided me. We had a 15 month old and 3 week old at the time.

The last couple months he has been back and forth, visiting every couple weeks, saying he will be back eventually, yet when he leaves its the same ol I cant get a hold of him, when I do he's really moody yadayada. He was supposed to come today for our wedding anniversary but I told him don't bother, I cant handle this anymore and our girls deserve better. Within 10 minutes of me texting him that he went and cleaned out our bank account.

So here I am, a single mom at 22 with a 17month old and 3 month old. I moved into a small apartment, the money he took was supposed to pay for it for 2 months so I'm stressing about that. I went on welfare 2 months ago, but when I moved I switched counties so there will be a one month gap in aid so no income next month. I have WIC to fall back on for some food and milk. I plan on starting a CNA to RN program in the spring, the thought of leaving my kids in daycare terrifies me

So there really is no point in this post I guess except to vent. I feel like I'm breaking on the inside and needed to get it off my chest. Thanks if you read this far down

**mh3rdwheel** · 08-20-2011, 06:18 PM

Grace, Oh I'm soo sorry. It is so wrong to do what he did to you and your girls. He doesn't deserve those girls. I am crying for you, if you need to talk or anything send me a message (private).

Is he helping support the girls? If not go after him thru HHD. Please let us know what happens. WE DO CAARE.

I mean thru Human Services (welfare). not a shame.

**mh3rdwheel** · 08-20-2011, 06:22 PM

Grace do you have any family nearby? Please let us know.

**kitkat0649** · 08-20-2011, 06:23 PM

Originally Posted by mh3rdwheel

Grace, Oh I'm soo sorry. It is so wrong to do what he did to you and your girls. He doesn't deserve those girls. I am crying for you, if you need to talk or anything send me a message (private).

Is he helping support the girls? If not go after him thru HHD. Please let us know what happens. WE DO CAARE.

I mean thru Human Services (welfare). not a shame.

No, he's not giving me any money. When he came a few weeks ago he bought our toddler a pair of shoes, but thats about it. They are going after him for support, but as long as I am on aid, I will get the first $50 and the rest will go to the county. I'm going to a free consult with a divorce lawyer on Monday, I filed for custody yesterday. I just want it to be over with and move on with my life.

**alotofgooddeals** · 08-20-2011, 06:24 PM

This post saddens me greatly...not gonna go on and call him what i could etc....but u do what u gotta do! You have two kids to take care off and yes raising kids is hard work but you don't just up and leave them because you can't handle it...he needs to be paying some type of child support...I would contact whoever handles state aid there and let them know where he is staying etc...if he is working his place of businesss etc...stay strong because you have two beautiful girls that need their mama...

**mh3rdwheel** · 08-20-2011, 06:37 PM

Originally Posted by kitkat0649

No, he's not giving me any money. When he came a few weeks ago he bought our toddler a pair of shoes, but thats about it. They are going after him for support, but as long as I am on aid, I will get the first $50 and the rest will go to the county. I'm going to a free consult with a divorce lawyer on Monday, I filed for custody yesterday. I just want it to be over with and move on with my life.

Grace contact me privately, you and your girls don't deserve this. Thru DHHs will elp you with who to get into cotact with, with food, etc.

You can go through Salvation Army, Catholic Charities, St. Vincent and DePaul, to name a few..

**craftypam** · 08-20-2011, 06:40 PM

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Mh3rdwheel; thank you for helping her because I'd have no clue!!!!

**nodmicks** · 08-20-2011, 06:50 PM

I am so sorry. Big hug and prayers. You will land on your feet and make an awesome life for you and your kids. Be sure to apply for all the free student aid you can get. I have a friend who is a single mom and she actually got all free school and even extras through a few organizations the college put her in touch with.

**kitkat0649** · 08-20-2011, 07:13 PM

Originally Posted by mh3rdwheel

Grace do you have any family nearby? Please let us know.

Yes I just moved to less than a mile from them, which Im very thankful for. The last few years Ive lived 6 hours away from all my family

**kitkat0649** · 08-20-2011, 07:16 PM

Originally Posted by nodmicks

I am so sorry. Big hug and prayers. You will land on your feet and make an awesome life for you and your kids. Be sure to apply for all the free student aid you can get. I have a friend who is a single mom and she actually got all free school and even extras through a few organizations the college put her in touch with.

Thank you, I'll look into that. I'm freaking out about how I'm going to pay for school.

**mh3rdwheel** · 08-20-2011, 07:18 PM

I am glad that your family is close by, you are like a daughter of mine (my dd is 24 and ds is going to be 19 on 9/3) I hope your parents is like me and my new DH (step dad) is, we will do anything for our kids. they are No 1.

**mamachop** · 08-20-2011, 07:21 PM

I'm so sorry this is happening to you Grace! You, Chloe, and Emma all deserve so much better than this. I can't tell you how angry this post makes me that a man could do this to his wife and two precious little girls.

I just wanted you to know that I'll be praying for you and the two babies. Please take care of yourself, those two little girls need you.

**joyofsix** · 08-20-2011, 07:37 PM

So sorry. Be strong for your babies and find a lawyer. I know they cost but he needs to pay support.

**lisaflex** · 08-20-2011, 08:01 PM

i feel very sad for you and your children.

keep a clear head and do whatever is best for all of you.

best wishes....and keep your chin up..you can do it..everything will eventually fall in place somehow someway...

try to get some rest...that always helps to put things in better perspective...imo