Fighting in the Grocery Store!

[lll]

And this is why I open anything that can be opened/closed easily w/o anyone being able to notice before placing it into my cart.

IE margarine, larger tubs of yoghurt, cottage cheese, pb etc. I ALWAYS open the top and check the tamper seal foil to make sure that it is indeed intact. I once bought yoghurt & margarine where people have let their children play with it and then they put it back on the shelf for sale with things all mixed up inside or chunks missing. Think about the messy hands they had as they went back to their parents?! I have no clue where those children's fingers have been! Same with eggs, I check to make sure each egg is still whole. Yes, I am *that* woman you gawk at wondering "WTH is she doing?!" as I check the purity & innocence of my grocery items.

As for the Jerry Springer incident - glad you had your senses to high tail it outta there 'just in case'. Sometimes, people really do need to mind their own business. If it truly bothered that person, she should've gone to management.

Oh you reminded me. Wash your fruit good. I have seen kids lick the fruit and put it back. Wonder how much we don't catch.

[Paws]

Someone else is changing how I am acting. Yes, I would consider that controlling me, especially if I am out of control. Controlling doesn't have to have the negative connotations that people seem to be putting on the term.

Is controlling your spending a bad thing?
Is controlling your diet a bad thing?
How about controlling your vehicle?
What about if your spouse is being overly emotional, and you are simply trying to calm them down?

Controlling can certainly be a bad thing, I'll agree. In this specific case, I don't think it is.

Well, I guess in this case, each to their own and opinions how to deal with a similar situation, as pertaining to the situation the thread was started about.

What would be acceptable to someone else may not be to me...::shrugs:: ((That personal opinion thing again. lol))
This is just my opinion, but I don't feel attempting to calm a spouse in a loving, respectful way is controlling. To me, it's two different things with different meanings and results.

Again, this is just MY opinions and feelings on this subject. Some may agree or disagree...Doesn't mean anyone is right or wrong over another...free will and all that...

[August29th]

"must have had his kajones in her purse"
ha ha -- love it!

[melodys]

Some food for thought regarding controlling another person...

If a person has cognitive defects (which an older person who might be developing dementia very well could have) behavior is difficult and unpredictable. The husband asking the wife to calm down very well could have had the opposite effect. It is a terrible, difficult, embarrassing situation when a formerly normal reasonable person becomes not themselves. Spousal caregivers are rarely given the training they need, nor have the ability to "control" that type of situation.

Of course there is no way to know the truth of the situation, but speaking as a former spousal caregiver I urge people to be less judgmental. The situation could be way more complicated than it appears to strangers in a grocery store.

[peanut]

melodys: thanks. I've worked a lot with mental health patients and they are particularly resistant to what they perceive as 'control' efforts by other people. Even if it's just a friendly reminder 'hey don't eat the olives'. So yeah, this situation in my mind obviously has more to it than appears on the face of things.

I must admit when I read the post at first I got a good laugh from the situation. I can see it now! I'm thinking Archie Bunker and Ethel in the grocery store.

[Mamaw]

DH is a grocery store manager and I can tell you that this type of thing is not uncommon. The issue is that most folks will then not buy the product they are eating but will return it to the shelf and put a fresh whole one in the cart. YUCK. This is outright stealing.
I myself will open a bottle of water while I am in line at the register and take a drink if I need to but never carry it through the store or drink while I am actively shopping.
Just my opinion

[rickysforever]

Sounds like maybe someone with a psychological problem.

But still, it's always a good idea to make sure your food is still sealed when it comes time to open it.

it seems like what you said,shoule take more care later.