It Drives Me Crazy...

**forHISglory** · 12-10-2011, 10:23 PM

Ever have somebody that you love, but they drive you crazy? Argh....

We love to entertain, and we invite lots of folks to our home. They all seem to have a good time and to be comfy, and to be glad to come back when invited again. And they invite us to their homes, too. It's a happy arrangement.

But I have family (whom I love) who never respond to invites. If I ask again, to nudge a response one way or another, the answer is "Well, I don't know. Something else might come up."

I'm planning a Christmas buffet and open house. I asked all my brothers and sisters first, but not one of them would respond with a YES or a NO. So I told them that I would miss them, and that my guest list would be friends and neighbors.

It drives me crazy, and thanks for letting me vent.....

**mauimagic** · 12-10-2011, 10:31 PM

Wow - all of your siblings are like that? How weird. Hope they outgrow that attitude soon. Have a great time with those who can and do commit!!

**Libby** · 12-10-2011, 10:32 PM

Even though its called an 'open house' you still need to know how much food to prep. As siblings, they need to have the decency to respond or else risk getting nothing to eat/drink when they show up.

Good on yas for telling them that you've marked them as 'no shows' and made the decision for them.

I bet you some of them will still show up.

**MomToTwoBoys** · 12-10-2011, 11:00 PM

If they were really family, they'd come.

Just sayin'.

Who needs family like that when you have friends who will go above and beyond what your own flesh and blood will do.

**Libby** · 12-10-2011, 11:14 PM

Originally Posted by MomToTwoBoys

Who needs family like that when you have friends who will go above and beyond what your own flesh and blood will do.

Exactly.

**bookwormpeg** · 12-10-2011, 11:46 PM

What do they mean "something else might come up"? Do they mean something better??? Sounds rude to me!

**frugalwarrior2** · 12-10-2011, 11:58 PM

Yeah, my whole family drives me crazy.Everyday.
Isn't that the norm?

**brennasmom** · 12-11-2011, 12:10 AM

Hmm, I think I would stop inviting them....

**Winkie** · 12-11-2011, 12:20 AM

I have those folks in my family too. When they come, they seem to have a good time, but it's hard to get them to commit. When I wanted a commitment a week in advance for Thanksgiving one year, I was asked, "what difference does it make?" I responded, you are bringing 5 people if you come & I need to know so I know which table to get ready. ( I can get 8 in my dining room, but with the whole group, I move the furniture out of the living room & set up the antique extension table. Not something I can do the morning of the event.)

**rosey7415** · 12-11-2011, 12:30 AM

sing it sister! lol i sooooo hear you. my family drives me nuts as well. what is soooooo darn hard about a committment????

**ladykemma2** · 12-11-2011, 06:00 AM

what they are saying is something better might come up. how rude.

i woud take a one year break from inviting them to anything.

**ladykemma2** · 12-11-2011, 06:01 AM

Originally Posted by Winkie

I have those folks in my family too. When they come, they seem to have a good time, but it's hard to get them to commit. When I wanted a commitment a week in advance for Thanksgiving one year, I was asked, "what difference does it make?" I responded, you are bringing 5 people if you come & I need to know so I know which table to get ready. ( I can get 8 in my dining room, but with the whole group, I move the furniture out of the living room & set up the antique extension table. Not something I can do the morning of the event.)

what difference does it make? wow.

**Carlad** · 12-11-2011, 07:33 AM

Thats crazy and sad. I agree on taking a break from inviting them, maybe then they will appreciate and value your hospitality more.

**Ponderer** · 12-11-2011, 10:19 AM

The not RSVP'ing is rude and there is no excuse for that....but on the other side of the coin to some of the responses here....I am the youngest of 7 and rarely go to family functions anymore.

Just because we have the same blood in our veins does not mean we are required to participate or like each other. I did not get to pick my family but I do get to pick my friends. May sound harsh or negative to some but it is an honest and truthful outlook for many.

Being motivated by a sense of duty and or obligation just because it is "family" is just not enough for me. I would not ask that of anyone else and I do not offer it from me.

**rosey7415** · 12-11-2011, 11:57 AM

ponderer.......i am sorry for you. family is important. the committment to stay connected is very important. we all have our gripes about family or some family member that you just can't get along with. but to banish family entirely is just so sad.

i think that not being close to family is where a lot of our society is in trouble. maybe i am saying this because my mother has had a big scare and may not be out of the woods yet....she is still in the hospital being tested....for cancer...... my sister j aggravates me at every turn, but i am sure happy that we have put that aside for now and our pulling together for my ma. families are there for you in the tough times.

alright i am totally emotional and slanted at this time.....just sayin' don't give up on the whole bunch.