Maybe I shouldn't Be Feeling This.....

[max915]

I too lost a daughter when I was 6 months pregant and my sister and 2 of my sisters-in-laws pregant at the same time and they all had girls there are some days when I look at those girls and wonder what mine would have been like. The lost feelings never go away just don't hurt quite as much. I honor her memory every year by putting flowers on the alter at our church, I don't tell anyone what they are for because I don't need them to feel bad for me, I am just doing this for myself.

[SwirlyThing]

Max 915, I know exactly what you're saying. I was pregnant the same time as my sister in law and my best friend. I miscarried. My SIL had her baby and he died within 12 hours (group beta strep, they didn't routinely test back then). My best friend delivered a happy, healthy baby girl.

My next pregnancy I was pregnant the same time as my sister and my cousin. My sister delivered a week before me. Her son is now 16. My cousin and I delivered the same day. Her son is now 16. My son died at 7 months old.

I've spent the last 16 years watching those kids and wondering what might have been.

Fortunately, the next pregnancy was the same time as another sister-in-law. We both had girls a couple months apart, and my DD has a cousin her age!

[cab54]

I think when we hear of someone having a misscarriage/stillbirth, we automatically think about our own experience with this, and the child who is still in our heart. And we get a little pang of sorrow.

My miscarried child would have been 24 last month.