Some times, friendships work out the way they should.

[MomToTwoBoys]

I have this friend that I've known for about ten years now. We'd gone through a long time where we didn't speak to one another for a variety of reasons.

But I'd say that over the last nine months or so, we'd been talking a whole lot more.

This friend is a long-distance friend but because they live 3k miles away and I moved to Canada since we stopped talking the first time.

Long story short, we'd been fighting for the last two or three months. It would be about a lot of things and I knew that this day was coming, but on Sunday, the friendship ended.

I hate it when they do, especially ones where we were both emotionally invested in the friendship. We'd been each other's confidants about things and each other's therapists, but when it came down to it, things just didn't work out to where we could maintain a friendship anymore.

It just kind of sucks. I don't even know how to handle it because this is a time when it's not me giving up on the friendship.

So this is my mini-vent to say that sometimes, life is just all full of ugh. Perhaps it's karma and if so, I accept it completely. A lot of it was my fault. I just wasn't listening. I guess I never do...

[Uniwolf]

I saw a post on Pinterest yesterday that kind of pertains to this ....
Some people are put in your life as Blessings
Some people are put in your life as lessons.

Friendships ending is saddening, but they usually end for good reason.
Hugs and feel better soon.

[oheoh's momma]

It takes 2 people to be friends and it is not all your fault...
Right now I am ticked at my friend I called her when hubby was sick she did not have time for me but borrowed 30 dollars off of me this past Sunday but did not have time or energy to talk to me. (don't care about the money) she dismissed me.
She has always been more selfish our other best friend is always saying that she is what can u do for me friend and yes it is true she will need me and I will get her but we will still be friends... I really don't know why we just are. Hopefully it works the best for u...

[bookwormpeg]

MomToTwoBoys - Sometimes you just have to let friendships go. If you are always giving and not getting anything in return, it is time to let it rest. It hurts I know.......Hugs..

Oehoho, sounds like another of my exfriends...lost touch for about 13 years, she moved and I had no idea where she was...she knew where I worked but couldn't pick up the phone to call me even when she knew I was fighting cancer and come to find out, she drove right by my place of work every day. My daugher met up with her in a store and got her phone number...I called her and found out her husband had just died two months before...dropped everything and went to see her...I called her a few times in the next month...she then called me & borrowed money. I never hear from her again...it's been over two years. I have written off her. I'm too old for the drama...

[alotofgooddeals]

when you think about...how many friends do you actually have that you would trust your life with....I am sitting here thinking and in reality...i only have one that i can tell my inner twisted dark secrets to and know that it wont go any further than here....she won't judge me for having the thoughts that i do when someone pisses me off....cause she has them to.....haha.....when you actually look at them and they already know what you are thinking...oh wow...I think i need to tell her that i love her....

[Ponderer]

when you think about...how many friends do you actually have that you would trust your life with....I am sitting here thinking and in reality...i only have one that i can tell my inner twisted dark secrets to and know that it wont go any further than here....she won't judge me for having the thoughts that i do when someone pisses me off....cause she has them to.....haha.....when you actually look at them and they already know what you are thinking...oh wow...I think i need to tell her that i love her....

Same here. My best friend and I met when we were 12. We are now 46 and going strong. Men have come and gone. Celebrations, divorce, death, children....we have been through more then I can even truly remember. I love her and she loves me and we often acknowledge that what we have is a gift and should never be taken for granted. We both thank God for it.

[MomToTwoBoys]

Oh I know it's for the best and believe me, I've put up with a lot of this friend's crap over the years that any one person should have to deal with.

It still sucks, but it's all for the best.

It's amazing how some people can stick by you for as long as they do and you don't think a second time about ditching them, but the moment you aren't doing exactly what they want you to do, you're no good to them.

I have one friend I have known for fourteen years that I wouldn't dare giving up for anyone else. I have only a few people I would trust my life with and he's one of them. But with this "friend" that I lost the friendship recently, I know that would never be the case. Sad but true, the friend and I stopped being friends because they felt like I was putting everyone else above them.

Now I see that it really was for the best.

Oh, and when I told my best friend about the crap I was getting from the other person, he couldn't believe his ears. Now that I've experienced it, neither can I.

[Sophiasmama]

I've just recently let a friend go as well...she was telling to many lies, and I was no longer in the mood for High School BS...hope she at least has one friend when her web comes falling down around her though,she'll need it.

[mauimagic]

Friendships/relationships/love - how they tug at our emotions and soar and break our hearts. I think that we learn about friendships by going through the ups and downs of them = no one ever teaches us about them and more often than not we react and react and react.. Interesting thread - brought a lot of old and new friendships to mind - need to tend some with TLC.

[woodogmom]

I once read somewhere, sorry i don't remember the exact place or wording, but basically it was: People come into your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime.

It is hard to accept that some people we label as "friends" really are just there for a season, or a reason--to teach us lessons or for us to teach them lessons.

I once wished all my "friends" would be there for a lifetime, but I now know that, as MomToTwoBoys titled this thread, sometimes friendships work out the way they should.

It is hard NOW, but in time, everyone of us who've had friendships end recently will look back and realize it really was for the best.

So, here's to letting go those "season" and "reason" friends, and nurturing our "lifetime" friendships!

[sunflowers*8890]

UUgghh. I'm going thru this now with a long-time friend. She became extremely competitive... it was just exhausting.

I bit my tongue many times when I felt like telling her to knock it off, because I wanted to save the friendship I guess. It's fallen apart anyway, we drifted apart, and now sometimes I feel angry at myself for taking so much cr@p from her.

Really good friends are so hard to find.

[WV_mom_of2]

The same thing happened to me this past year. Someone that I thought was a good friend turned on me. I did NOTHING to cause it. She was a camper at the state park where I had worked for four years. I became really close with her parents and then with her and her family. She allowed a woman who is a known troublemaker to say some things and to believe them and that was that. I was really hurt by this and have spent a year hurting over it. I have only recently realized that she was never really a friend and let it go.

My dd is going through the same thing. One of her best friends for the last 5 or 6 years has suddenly become very hateful, rude and standoffish. The only thing we can think of that happened is that she was here for a Halloween party and was doing something that I had to ask her to stop doing. She got really ugly with me and I put her in her place. Seems that has ended their friendship. This is a girl who has spent many, many nights with us. We took her on trips with us, always footing the bill. We took her out to eat with us, etc. When her ENTIRE family got mad at her for quitting nursing school she came and stayed with us for a week. Yet she has now decided to be ugly and rude. So be it. Sometimes we just have to let go for our own good!

[Cricketlegs]

My sisters are my best friends. They mess with me I tell my Mama! Being the baby has it advantages bwaahhhhaaaa!

[Jamielane]

I to gave up a very long term friendship 2 years ago. We had been friends since 2nd grade. We are now 42. It was very difficult but even though on the outside it looked we had tons in common in truth there was not lot we agreed on. That stuff we could have worked around as we did for many years but we both have teenage daughters and her daughter has some serious issues that she will absolutley not acknowledge and made everything that went on with the 2 of them my daughters fault. Even when her daughter flooded my daughters cell phone with viscious vulgar filthy texts my friend said my daughter must have said something that upset her daughter so much she had no choice. Her daughter told HUGE lies. I mean proven HUGE lies . One that actually involved locking down a school and getting police involved and still she refused to accept her daughter was anything accept misunderstood. I still have to renew the block on my daughters phone every 90 days to keep the messages from coming . This tells me that her daughter still tries regularly after 2 years to send messages to my daughter. That is just not normal. Had we not had this issue we could have probably sustained the relationship even though we have some very different ideas about other things such as politics to just name one. It really was hard to seperate at first but I find there is alot less stress in my life without the aggravation of her daughter in our lives.

[goldeneyez]

so sorry that you have lost your friend. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango and while you have accepted that you have a part in it, it wasn't all your fault. Who knows, you may have her come back and tell you that she understands. *hugs*
Stacy