when do u quit needing a mom?

[mamamia]

I run to the phone many times in need of my own mom. The problem is, she passed in 2006. So for the posters who mentioned still needing their moms after they're gone, I completely understand, and I don't think it'll ever change! But ya know, maybe that says alot for the good that she did me.

I always heard it said that 'when our mothers die, we lose our childhood'. Never understood it though. But as the years without her are passing, I believe I've come to realize that for as long as you have your mom, you're still somebody's child. There's a sense of security that comes with that....or at least it should. Take her out of that "picture" though, and the facts do change. And it has nothing to do with our fondness or memories, it's that loss of belonging to her as her child that takes over from that moment on.

Goodness! I'm sorry if I sound sappy! (lol) It just seems to be my mood lately.

Hugs to everyone, and hopes for reconcilliations for those who aren't on best terms!

Theresa

[Sophia]

I'm 45 and will never stop needing my mom. I don't need her like I did when I was a child I need her in a different way. I know my mom is 64 and wishes her mom my grandmother was still here. There comes a time we need them but they need us more. I'm finding as I get older that my parents need me more as well as my in-laws need me more. TC

[WV_mom_of2]

I didn't have a great relationship with my mom growing up. She was very distant, took my dad's side in everything (even when she knew he was wrong), etc. As I've gotten older we have established a better relationship. It will never be what I would like it to be, but that's ok. However I did have a wonderful relationship with my grandma. She was like a mother to me and we were very close. I am strong, independent and can take care of myself and my family. But I needed my grandma for things like moral support, advice, etc. When she passed in 2005 it broke my heart.

I am raising my kids to be strong and independent and hard working. I want them to take care of themselves but I also want them to need me. I want them to come to me when they need advice, when they need help with something or just when they need to talk something out. I hope they never, ever stop needing their mom!

[Libby]

I think everyone will say they still 'need' their mom (or dad) in their lives forever b/c you always want to know that you have a friend, confidant, someone who's not afraid to set you straight or be honest to you when the truth hurts the most - in their corner, supporting/cheering them on throughout life's up's and downs. (You know you can count on them b/c you've already gone through that type of relationship while growing up and have created a bond)

Well, ok ... I should say 'most' will say they want their parents around. Not everyone had the same upbringing.

[Nana2two]

I lost my mom 2 years ago. We had some rough years. But she was still my Mom.I just never told her my problems or concerns. My daughter is 26 and even though she said she is a big girl, I'm the first person she calls when she is sad. Thats ok.

[denik258]

Never. My Mom died almost a year ago and I miss her constantly. She was my sounding board that always told me the truth whether I wanted to hear it or not.