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    how to get along with your dil . I get along with both of mine just fine but, one of the suggestions has me befuddled and I want to know what some of you think.

    The article says you should "never" tell your son he is right (even if he is).....what do you all think?
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    I think that means if you do then he can go tell his wife.My mom said I'm right which could put you in the middle.

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    My interpretation is 'Don't take sides in their disagreements'.

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    I agree...it means don't take sides
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    I can't figure out why the MIL would be in on the disagreement. We would never involve MIL in a disagreement but if we did she would say YOU WORK IT OUT!

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    What nodmicks said.....it's not of MIL business.
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    Yeah, it means don't take sides.

    Like: "I think there are always different ways to see things."
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    "dil" daughter in laws or dear inlaws?

    Regardless...if someone is right and you agree, you should let them know - IF ASKED. Give credit where credit is due however if its to settle an argument/disagreement between a couple, then yeah...I'd be minding my own biz and trying not to get dragged into the middle of it.

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    I would love to read that article....it seems with my dil I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. So, I smile alot and try to keep my mouth shut. I ask NO questions....I voice NO opinion...I say Hi when I see her and Love you when she leaves but not much in between....her choice....

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    Quote Originally Posted by bookwormpeg View Post
    I would love to read that article....it seems with my dil I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. So, I smile alot and try to keep my mouth shut. I ask NO questions....I voice NO opinion...I say Hi when I see her and Love you when she leaves but not much in between....her choice....
    I subscribe to a grandparents newsletter online and it was one of their articles on their website (grandparents.com). I find a lot of their articles to be interesting but, I've found they also make me go "huh?" sometimes ....and that particular statement was one of those "huh?" moments.

    If someone asks me if I think they are right and I do; well then I'm going to tell them I agree with them. By the same token if I don't agree I'll tell them that too and why I don't agree. I do agree that parents should never, ever offer unsolicited advice. But, I can't tell you how many times I've had to say, "Well, this is what I would do________(fill in the blank) but, you are not me, so you need to decide what is best for you.

    When my 1st married son got married he had already been living with my dil for a few years. We have had a couple of rough spots but, luckily they blew over relatively quickly. She has some issues that influence her emotional stability from time to time and we've just learned to adapt over the years. Love her death and couldn't imagine her not being in our family.

    Our 2nd dil is just as wonderful as the 1st...but, she is one of those people who wants everything now and doesn't really have a handle on money. That causes issues in their home mainly when my son has to call me and ask me to please pay their light bill. Like right this second because, the light company is at the door to shut them off. Now mind you I'm in Michigan, they are in North Carolina....that was an interesting conversation.

    There have been a few times I've had to point blank tell my boys, "she's not your mom and if you don't like the way she _______(fill in the blank) do it your damn self."...in reference to something they have said. Like, "My mom_______(fill in the blank)" Darned well don't need them (meaning my sons) comparing anything my dils do to me. They are women in their own right and just because they don't do things the same way I do, doesn't make them wrong.

    I thought it was a little tough raising them but, sometimes dealing with them as adults is even tougher...but, I love them anyway .
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