Are you content with your life?

**babynurse** · 01-19-2003, 02:08 PM

You know as little as 3 months ago, I thought my life was over. I was depressed, burnt out and hopeless. Now, miraculously, I feel pretty content with my life. I have regained some control. I am taking responsibility with my money, which has been a difficult road and still is at times, for my weight, which I am doing something about, and, for the first time in my career, I actually enjoy going to work (for the most part). I have always been a bit of a loner, but made myself feel as though I was less of a person for not having many friends, but now I have accepted that I am not a popular person (probably never will be) and that's okay. I am still a good person. I don't know what has been the catalyst for this change in my outlook, but I am thankful for it. Life is too short to continually berate yourself for your perceived shortcomings...most of the time, nobody sees them anyway.
Are you content with your life? What have you accepted in yourself that has allowed you to let go of negative self talk and putting yourself down? What are your good points? What are you working on?

**grneyegrl** · 01-19-2003, 02:54 PM

no im not but im taking steps to improve my life..im not working now but managed to get into a training program( which i love) by the skin of my teeth..im obese but i try to eat right and exercise and so far have lost 25 to 30lbs..

i ralized that my goals were ok but it takes a long time to achieve..like my weight loss..at this point i would have given up because my friends who lost wieght look slim but i didnt start at the same point and thats ok.. my friends accept me as i am..i dont have a lot of firends but thats ok because the friends i have will help me and i can count on them and they can count on me

**homesteadmamma** · 01-19-2003, 03:01 PM

I'm content in every area of my life except my weight and with that I'm working on it. Its taken me a long journey to get to where I'm at and it had its many struggles along the way, but I've learnt that life is just too short to not work at being content.

For me I chose to do so. I could either wallow in self pity over a few things or I could work at making them right and thats what I've done. I'm glad I did.

**Kate117** · 01-19-2003, 03:21 PM

Nope I am not content with some aspects of our life. Getting ourselves out of debt and becoming way better with our money will be a very good start. I am trying my hardest not to let the stress of this debt keep getting me down. That, my weight and changing our living situation are things I will be working on changing this year.

**babynurse** · 01-19-2003, 03:24 PM

Thanks for your thoughts. It helps to know that there are other people who share this struggle. I guess the key is being honest with yourself and allowing yourself to be human. We all deserve happiness don't we?

**aylasmommy** · 01-19-2003, 06:21 PM

It's good to hear you are feeling that way now

For myself...well I am happy to be alive..to have my beautiful sweet daughter, and even though my husband ticks me off sometimes, I really love him a lot, and I can see it in his eyes that he loves me a lot too...I'm happy (finally) with my weight and even my hair too

Things I need to work on, is not being so scared to do simple things like grocery shop, and saying hi to my neighbors. I feel so inadequate..and when we go to a mall, I feel soooo LAME I feel really dumb and not 'cool' like all the little teeny boppers running around...kwim? and it doesn't matter who i'm with, or even if I"m by myself I always feel that way when i go..It's really the mall only that makes me feel that way...Places like Target I actually feel pretty confident ...But then again Target is kind of like home away from home for me

**babynurse** · 01-19-2003, 06:25 PM

Heather, I feel EXACTLY the same way at the mall! Wow, you articulated it exactly. The teeny boppers with hardly any clothes on, kids with celly's (cell phones, LOL) and just the atmosphere. I hardly EVER go to the mall anymore! BTW, what does KWIM mean? I've seen it before and I still can't figure it out (scratching head in confusion

) TIA!

**aylasmommy** · 01-19-2003, 06:38 PM

Isn't it an awful feeling theresa

And those mirrors always seem to highlight my blemishes and uneven skin tone

KWIM just is an acronym for Know What I Mean

I remember I coudln't remember that one even after I was told what it was ..I kept thinking SWIM with a K??

**graci42** · 01-19-2003, 08:42 PM

Ladies,

I've only recently come to realize that I'm happy with my life. It's taken me 36 yrs to come to this plain of existance....

How'd I do it? I'm no longer a standerby...I've taken charge of my life rather than allowing it to take charge of me.

Goal #1 Taking charge of my home--set routines and declutter.
Goal #2 Becoming frugal and working on getting out of dept--in progress.
Goal #3 Working from home--in the planning stages

I feel so much better about me and my life. I'm happily married...I haven't read a romance novel in forever...Infact, I gave my sis all the ones I had cluttering up the book case. I used to be an avid reader...but...I have alllllll the romance I can handle or could ever want kicked back and watching a football game at the moment...

**heaven** · 01-19-2003, 09:15 PM

I am becoming more content with my life. Theresa i feel the same way, the first time in ages i have taken control of my money, *instead of it or someone else being in control*
My weight i have decided the only one who can change that is me, so i am!
I am now starting to get out of the house (because I have no choice in the matter and have to go shopping,) but i am able to smile at people for the first time in years. I am starting to like who i am, and i am almost feeling i can do it. either here or somewhere else.

**2cutekids** · 01-19-2003, 09:43 PM

I am content with some areas of my life and not content with other areas. I am content with who I am as a person and how I am growing as a person. I accept my faults, my strengths, and my weaknesses. I am not content with my living situation (2kids, 1 bedroom). I am not content with sending my kids to daycare. I am not content with my income. I am working on these areas and they will change in time. But I'm like a kid and I want them NOW

**mrscornbread** · 01-19-2003, 10:52 PM

I am happy with the person that I am becoming. I m in no way content with myself, but on the other hand I do not beat myself up for not living up to my own expectations in terms of looks, money etc. I feel that I have ome a long way in my life. In 1 1/2 years I will have a career to fall back on forever. I love being who I am despite all the hardships in my life. If it were not for all the obstales I have already overcome, I would not be doing what I am doing today. I am in many ways satisfied with the speed of progress, but not content I guess...

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 01-20-2003, 12:48 AM

I am content with my life in most areas. I have a wonderful DH, two great DSs and two furkids. We live in a comfortable home and our bills are all paid. We have plenty to eat and warm clothes. I am NOT entirely happy with my weight, but nobody's perfect

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**KathiS** · 01-20-2003, 02:53 AM

I have become more comfortable with myself and my life in the last few years. I have a wonderful DH and good kids. I adore our granddaughters. I have gotten the education I worked so hard for. We have traveled all over the world. I never want to be totally content though. I want to strive to better every day of my life. I still have weight problems. I have some health problems I need to learn to deal with and there are so many things I still want to do before I leave this world. I am content but, not totally.

**i.m.cheap** · 01-20-2003, 08:01 AM

I am grateful for my DH and dd, and I love my little dog too. We have our own home now, and two cars. I would like to be debt free, and much thinner. I wish more than anything I could be a SAHM. I am working at getting us out of debt, but it will take about four more years. (We will still have a mortgage, but are paying extra on that too.)

Deb