feeling a little better today.

heaven · 02-26-2003, 04:10 PM

well today i got money,(which helped emensely finally been broke for a week and that could have been part of the problem.), then i colored my hair today i am so sick of all the gray and i went for my walk. (the time and temp clock downtown said 41 but here at home is is 34 or 29 who knows which. but i am feeling better. I still think that i have to do something totally life changing, but now i am ready to really plan and decide.

The only crappy thing that happened was Keiko called to tell me all about how wonderful her father is. and how she is going to spend the entire summer at his place. *so now i am not feeling so bad about not planning on going to maine for the summer maybe that is a good thing.* i guess that is another part of it. I have had the child all these years and now she is 16 her father has decided to talk to her and have her over to his house, Just kinda feeling like the one who has done everything and getting no credit. Sorry that is Whinning is it. some one slap me, LOL. thanks everyone for you support. I love you all so much. and i have to remember i have done alot the last few months maybe i need to give it alittle more time and really really plan on the next step.

~Sherry~ · 02-26-2003, 04:27 PM

Oh Heaven... Keiko loves you and you know it. She will come around and realize who has been there for her all these years and who hasn't. Having her dad is new for her... kind of a fad. Something exciting and new. It will wear off I bet.

Love ya. ((hugs))

heaven · 02-26-2003, 04:31 PM

Thanks Sherry that is what my mother keeps telling me and she also said don't feed into it by getting mad. so ihave to whine here. LOL> thanks sweetie i am sure your right

~Sherry~ · 02-26-2003, 04:52 PM

Whine all you want. We'll listen to ya.

SewCrafty · 02-26-2003, 04:59 PM

I agree with Sherry, he is just a fad to her right now. It may take a while, but if he hasn't been around much before, it won't take long for Keiko to see him with her own eyes. Your mum is right, whine to us, we can take it!

I'm glad you are feeling better today and went for a walk. Fresh air in the winter helps to clear out the cobwebs! I bet your hair looks great too!

heaven · 02-26-2003, 05:07 PM

Thanks Diana. i am not sure how great the hair is but i covered the grey (it is all red now). but I like it. which is i guess the best part. Thanks i just wish she would see it and see that he isn't the greatest thing on earth. Maybe i am jelous but i don't think so, i want so recognistion for being her mom. Instead of God i hate you.

SewCrafty · 02-26-2003, 06:01 PM

I know how it feels to cover the grey!! I just did it too the other day!

Keiko is 16, that is a tough age to begin with. She knows who her mum is, believe me when she needs some hugs, she knows who to call!!

My brother and his first wife split when the girls were very young, they are now 31 and 27. Now my sil NEVER spoke bad of my brother, although he deserved it and then some! She let them go to his home anytime they wanted, the sad thing is they have grown up and NOW he finally wants to get to know his girls and his grandson. He is TOO late!! The 27 year old got married in Oct., she asked him and his girlfriend to attend, but had her brother walk her down the aisle. I wholeheartedly agreed with her. He has not been there through her entire life, but her brother has and earned that right.

My point being, it may take Keiko a while to understand, but she will. Hang in there, she loves you, she is just testing the waters with her father right now.

Mom23boys · 02-26-2003, 06:46 PM

Heaven, I bet your hair looks great.

Just give Keiko time. I agree with the others that having her dad in her life is something knew. She will always remember who was always there for her....you!

HUGS!!!

homesteadmamma · 02-26-2003, 06:56 PM

Heaven, glad your feeling better. Hang in there, Keiko will come around. Your still her mom and she won't forget that.

heaven · 02-26-2003, 08:08 PM

thanks everyone. I am sure your right. This is her new "toy": and i am the old one. LOL god that didn't help at all. LOL but i know she will eventually remember mum is the one who has done it all for her.

captclearance · 02-26-2003, 09:34 PM

That's right Heaven, I went thru the same thing with my oldest. They do come around, and I'm sure you look wonderful !
{{{{{{ HUGS SISTER}}}}}

heaven · 02-26-2003, 10:07 PM

Thanks Lori.

Katybird · 02-27-2003, 10:52 PM

Heaven,

I agree with everyone else, Keiko knows who has raised her and who has been there for her, she may enjoying the "Dad" thing right now but when she knows who her Mum is. I was one of those kids who had a Dad who wanted to be there when it was convienent for him and then he was the good time party Dad and let me get away with things that I would have never been able to get away with at my Mom's. I thought that was great then but I figured out that it was my Mom who really loved me and wanted what was best for me. I am 40 years old and have just in the last few years developed a good relationship with my Dad but I still have much more respect for my Mom, she is the one who worked 2 jobs to support her children and who was there for school plays and ball games. I just wanted to let you know that she will always remember who was there for her.

Blessings,
Kathy

heaven · 02-27-2003, 11:33 PM

Thanks Kathy!!!!!!!!!!! It is just hard right now. I am sure you all are right.

Darlene · 02-28-2003, 08:38 AM

Big hug to you Heaven. I agree with what many wise voices have said before me. I would just add that most teen daughters no matter where they live do the "God I hate you" thing. Some days I just can't seem to do anything right in my dd's eyes & other days she's "normal".

Our dd's know we love them and they'll come to their senses ~ or else!