What do you regret in your life?

**babynurse** · 03-25-2002, 04:52 PM

I regret getting into debt in the first place...I used to ( and still sometimes fight to prevent myself from) fill any "voids" in my life with STUFF that I can't afford...I hate that I could probably have a house by now and my wedding paid for already but because I wasted money on junk I have to suffer and wait longer for those dreams to come to reality. I also regret not enjoying high school more, my family had a lot of problems and I was the "responsible" one and sometimes wish that I could have cared less and had a little more fun when I was young! \
Sorry, I just realized this is probably in the wrong forum, but I don't have time to rewrite it!

**KathiS** · 03-25-2002, 05:59 PM

I try not to think about regrets. Doesn't really do much good. I am sorry that we never bought a place with land. Always wanted a big garden and lots of room for my animals. We just got our home paid off and my DH plans to retire in three years so, guess that just isn't going to happen.

**Michelle** · 03-25-2002, 06:52 PM

I try really hard not to dwell on the past and have any regrets. There's nothing I can do to change things in the past, so I try not to think about it. I guess if I had to pick something, it would be that I regret not getting married sooner and starting a family when I was younger. I feel like such an old mother now compared to a lot of the mothers around me.

**Megareader** · 03-25-2002, 08:30 PM

I really don't regret anything. Everything I have done has made me who/what I am...and I like me!

**CountryMom** · 03-25-2002, 09:18 PM

I don't like to think about it either. I would say I regret starting our marriage with fiancial troubles. If I could do it over again I would have never owned a credit card.

**blueknitter** · 03-25-2002, 09:21 PM

I only really have one, and that it getting out of the habit of saving once I got out on my own. Through jr high and high school, I was really good at putting money away, then once I got out of the house, I still did it some of the time. By the time I had my DD, though, I was sooooo completely out of the habit. Now it is a struggle to put the money back and not fritter it away on little stuff. One day at a time, I'm doing it, but if I had never gotten out of the habit, it would be so much easier now.

**MANDERS** · 03-26-2002, 12:25 AM

The way I look at it is that the things that happened in your past lead you to who you are today.Like I could say i regret dropping out of high school,but I wouldn't have gone to hair school and met dh(from a friend).Or I could say I regret getting pregnant at 17 but then I wouldn't have my dd and now a ds too.And I could say I regret getting into debt(which I do)but if I didn't I don't know if I would've found the frugal lifestyle and been able to live my dreams and know all of you.So really I don't regret anything really except an abussive relationship(but I wouldn't have moved to GA and met dh if it didn't happen)but I make the choices to make the things that I might have regreted come out really good.Am I making any since

**strawberryfire** · 03-26-2002, 07:23 PM

The only thing i really wish, is that i was nicer to my mum, in those horrible teenage years.

**Jerseygirl** · 03-26-2002, 07:36 PM

I don't think I really regret anything-I'm another believer in "it makes me who I am", but I might have behaved more appropriately from 15-26--no chance for a career in politics now.

**MANDERS** · 03-26-2002, 11:08 PM

Hey anyone can have a career in politics.I think the more colorful the past the easier it is to get in.I guess more people can relate with that.LOL

**Gloria** · 03-26-2002, 11:32 PM

I regret not trying harder to have a closer relationship with my Mom. She is gone now and I have so many regrets and so much guilt. So please take it from me ladies. Try to find something that you have in common with your mom and build on that. Tell her you love her and hug her often even though it might be difficult at first.

Okay, off my soap box now.

**PumpkinNoodlie** · 03-27-2002, 08:18 AM

I regret living in the Bay Area until my thirties. If we lived where we do now, where things are much more affordable, our house would be paid for by now (we have a 15 yr mortgage). BTW - our house was for sale the year we got married ARG!. And I'm just all around so much more healthier (emotionally and otherwise) in the country, than I ever was in the city.

**mustang80** · 03-27-2002, 01:28 PM

I (and DH) regret spending most of our lives with the family (his family) business intending to make that our livelihood, only to have his parents go out of business (their choice) and tell us-you need to get new jobs. We've been married 14 years now, and still feel like we are struggling, while others are getting ahead. If we had known they would sell and start a different business, we wouldn't have hung in there trying to learn the ins and outs of the business. I started working for them when I was 15 years old, and DH has spent his whole life working for them. He is an excavator, it's all he knows. Oh well-he has a good job and our bills are paid, we are healthy, and we have 3 wonderful daughters. I wouldn't change anything else!

**justjenn** · 03-27-2002, 04:46 PM

I am young, but I do regret a lot. I regret smarting off to my mom and dad, being a snob in school, ever owning a credit card.

QM · 10-20-2011, 04:42 PM

I have two regrets that I try not to dwell on too much...
a) not "becoming" frugal sooner (if I became frugal when I first got married, I would have had 9 extra years to pay off my mortgage, not incur debt, etc.) and
b) not staying with my Grandma thru the night while she passed away. I wish I had stayed at the nursing home (even though I would have been by myself), held her hand and watched her take her last breath as her soul headed to Heaven. But I know she loved me...and she knew I loved her...